Would you agree that this one thing is enough of a reason that shows that this nanny is not for us ?

[sofachai]

I outlined a few things that are important to us when she first started.

Nothing outrageous.

I explained that I don't want to micro manage her and that I want her to be autonomous and make her own schedule of what she'd like to do with the children ( both preschoolers ). But to keep the important things to us in mind.

One of the things is that we really want our children to have fresh air every day and for her to take her out into our large / child friendly garden.

Nanny agreed. However, unless I remind her to it, she doesn't do it. I work from home in my office a lot, so I know when she goes out and when she doesn't. Unless I tell her to please take them out, it does not happen.

I've also reminded her 4 times that I would rather I didn't need to remind her to do it, as it's not my style and I just want her to respect that it's important to us. I've then left her to it, and again, a couple of weeks go by and she doesn't take the children outside.

She's been with us 6 months, but based on this alone, I think she's not the right fit for our family. I've given her many chances to get it right. She takes them out for a day or so and then she stops doing it for a couple of weeks, until I remind her again.

I feel bad about leaving her without a job so I will give her time to find another, but would you agree it's just a bad fit at this point ?

I've been asking her to take them out since she started in April. So the weather just is no excuse

She's not a good fit for you, OP. (Or maybe nannying anyone, to be honest, she sounds like you've have to make compromise after compromise from the start - how stressful).

What's stopping you giving her notice?

I just feel bad to leave her without a job

Children need fresh air and what you are asking couldn't be easier. She sounds lazy.

@sofachai if she didn’t go out during the summer I think you are right to get rid. It’s one thing being a bit rubbish in the rain but quite another not using the garden during the good weather.

Yeah that's not working at all, and you shouldn't feel bad because she's not doing her job. That's her fault, not yours.

You’ve posted about this Nanny before, more than once if I remember correctly.

@sofachai

She's been with you 6 months, she's reduced her hours, isn't taking your children out into the garden on her days, let alone able to take them to the park or on a trip.

You can give her more than mandatory notice.

Your priority is to get your children the right care. This doesn't sound like it is.

Give her notice now to finish at Christmas, that's lots of time , then start fresh at nursery then

Just say you want the children to go to nursery more, so you don’t need her anymore. I’m sure she’ll find another job.

I've given her soft notice and said that she can stay until she finds another job and I won't leave her without a job. I

You have basically told her she can stay as long as she wants. Give her a deadline.

I think maybe January isn't unreadable ? I also need to make sure my kids have places at their nursery etc.

The contract says one month minimum notice.

There is a complicated back story.

Complicated doesn’t go well with Nanny. There must be nannies who would give their eye teeth for an employer like you who actively doesn’t want to micromanage, and who love being on the go and doing lots of activities with their charges.

Nursery will be better as they all seem to go outside no matter the weather I think it’s part of the eyfs that’s why I sent my dd as I have autism and agoraphobia plus sensory issues and ocd over mud dirt grit etc etc and can’t cope with taking her out so send her to nursery 2 days a week to offset the fact we are stuck in the other days