Chandler

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Chickenkeev · 30/10/2023 22:58

I really feel his loss. He was a stalwart of my growing up. It's a self indulgent post, i realise that. But i do feel it.

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Chickenkeev · 31/10/2023 23:22

Alopeciabop · 31/10/2023 22:05

Thanks for the congrats and No you’re totally right. It’s fucking awful to be around. I’ve hurt people terribly because of addiction and I’ve also been on the other side of that with other peoples’ addiction problems.

I think I see it as one issue. Like how if someone is physically sick, it can be hurtful for those around them too. Or say someone has a neurological condition that makes them lash out - it really isn’t like you sit there and choose to be a dickhead. Choose to hurt people around you. It just doesn’t work that way. It’s almost an emotional sickness.

There are ways I’ve behaved (towards other people and myself) that I just could never and would never ever condone in my non addicted state. It’s a possession. To the outside it looks like choice but it really isn’t. And I think it is rarely beaten unless the person has something greater than themselves to fight for like kids or something.

yeah I guess, although acting and writing are also huge skills - it’s incredibly obvious if someone can’t act. I mean Matthew Perry was very funny. I don't disagree I just think it’s a wide spread problem across most industries where if you’re in you’re in and if you’re not you’re not. Very ‘popular clique in school’ vibes and doesn’t allow room for anybody else.

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I absolutely get everything you're saying here. But you can't lump it all on MP. He did nothing to us. But i really do understand everything you're saying otherwise.

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cakeshell · 01/11/2023 11:58

Humpfree · 31/10/2023 07:10

Chandler Bing never existed. A man called Matthew Perry has died, a man with mental health problems and addictions - he had family and friends who cared about him. Who actually knew him.
It’s sad, but you didn’t know him. You knew Chandler Bing. Who never really existed.

I agree.

I haven't ever watched friends but I'm familiar with who the characters are. I would say that some friends and acquaintances, who have been upset, have since realised that it's really about them and their own mortality, as the actor was a similar age to them, or they grew up watching the programmes.

Hughs · 01/11/2023 12:26

I think when super-talented people die young, part of the sadness is for the work that might have been made. I felt similarly about George Michael, Victoria Wood, Caroline Aherne, Sinead O'Connor and many others.

kierenthecommunity · 01/11/2023 16:44

Ilovecleaning · 31/10/2023 19:36

Gosh! I didn’t know this. I thought Chandler Bing was real. I thought the 6 friends actually lived in New York. At one point I thought about going to visit and hoping to run into them in Central Perk. thank you for explaining.

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There’s a shocker of a poem doing the rounds where Gunther and Chandler meet up in a heavenly Central Perk. So I think there are people who want to think they’re real 😳

Although if that were me I’d still imagine Chandler as being alive and kicking with Monica and the kids rather than imagining him as dead.

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