Trivial disagreement with DH about how he puts spread on toast

[evildan]

My DH spends time getting the spread (marmite, peanut butter, jam etc) right to the very edge of the toast. I think he is being unreasonable because there's no way of picking up the toast by the edges without getting spread on your fingers. He says he's not because this way every bit of toast has delicious spread on it.

I leave a margin of approx half a cm around the edges, so you can pick up the toast without getting dirty fingers. Particularly important when you have young children who tend to touch everything with sticky fingers before you ahev chance to clean them! DH says my way is so wrong because you miss out on spread.

Am I being unreasonable here?

Ooh that's a tough one. I must admit I do it the same as you but I also think your DH has a point.

You are right! But then surely he's entitled to spread his own bread as he wishes

I have the opposite argument with my husband. He puts a blob in the middle so most of the toast is dry.

He is definitely right!
Small children aren't allowed to leave the table until hands are wiped.
Older children are trained to wash hands after a meal.
Everyone gets properly-spread toast.

Your husband is correct LOL. I actually specify "right to the edges" when my husband is kind enough to make me toast. He loves that

Husband is right.
If youre dexterous you can pick the toast up from the middle/lower edge and avoid getting your hands covered.
Also, just wash your hands. The extra effort is worth it.

I think your h is broadly right

I put a slice of butter in the middle and push it towards the edges but there should be a crispy bit round the outside not just to facilitate holding but for different texture.

If I'm having spread I only ever have runny honey and I drizzle it on, this can go on the crispy bit without making it soft

DH is a very precise edge spreader. I just slap it on and hoy it in….it’s CHAOS!

Your husband is right but also a rare creature: in all my years of men, I’ve never met one yet who can actually spread things on toast. Not just an edge/no edge problem but some sort of buttering blind spot. I send back the toast DP brings me, it’s like poorly programmed AI did it.

Your DH is right. I don't touch the top of the toast with my fingers so they don't get sticky.

I'm with your DH on this one. Right to the edges. But only on the top - I hold the sides!

LTB (Lavish The Butter)

Agree with your DH, the butter should be spread right to the edge and you then hold the toast by the edges. The butter should also have terrain.

Perhaps you could ask him to just leave you a finger sized space on 2 corners OP? Enabling you to hold each half slice with mess free fingers but whilst enjoying spread on all the rest of the surface area?

Presumably he is the one that cleans up the sticky fingered mess?

A trivial disagreement? Come on, you're not trying, are you? It's supposed to be a blazing row, you in floods of tears and needing a hand hold, FGS!

2/10

In fact, I'm so thoroughly disappointed that I'm not even going to bother posting on your thread.

He is right

#TeamDH

And the matter is anything but trivial.

I pick up my toast without touching the surface that's been spread. I hold it by the crust and the underside, thus avoiding the sticky fingers problem.

Admittedly it's probably not easy to get a small child to hold their toast like that, but I also think that in the case of a small child, they're unlikely to keep their fingers within your half-centimetre spread-free zone anyway, so it probably makes no difference.

😂

Yeah I'm with your husband on this one. Who wants a mouthful of mostly dry toast when you get to the end bits? I just pick it up from the sides so I don't get spread on my fingers.

We seem to be in the minority, but I'm with you OP.

I'm an edge spreader. Who wants boring plain toast?

YABU margarine on toast is criminal.

I would agree with him. I don't touch the top of the toast when eating it, I hold it on the side edge and the underside.