AIBU or Are Humblebrags on the Rise Here?

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I've been around these parts for a while, and lately, I can't help but notice something that's been bugging me. Maybe it's just me, or perhaps there's a trend going on here, and I'd love to know if you've picked up on it too.

It seems like there's been a surge in threads where people are airing their money concerns, cost of living issues, and the struggle to make it all work – all while sneaking in these subtle humblebrags about their rather cushy situations. You know, the ones where they casually drop their £100K salaries, or talk about their 5-bedroom house with the 'small rooms', or are able to afford expensive houses, fancy cars, and luxuries, all while saying they expect to have more money left over at the end of the month.

I totally get that financial situations differ from person to person. But it's a bit tough to relate when so many of us are grappling with rising costs, bills piling up, and just trying to make ends meet.

So, I gotta ask: is it just me, or are you seeing more of this too? Is it because I'm noticing it more due to all the current struggles we're facing, or are these type of posts really on the rise here?

Am I being unreasonable in feeling this way? What's your take? 🤔🤷‍♀️🙏

YANBU, but I don’t think it’s humblebrags. I think it’s people who are honestly so self centred that they think they have it hard.

Eg:

1. I heard there is a COL crisis, and this year skiing will cost us a little more than last year. Write a thread about the squeezed middle and how we’re not getting any government help while others are!

2. I heard there are MN threads about overcrowding and people trying to figure out how to best use their space. I want in on the discussion! Our fifth bedroom is quite small, and we don’t have enough rooms for a guest room AND two home offices. Start a thread complaining how we’re overcrowded!

3. I heard thousands of people died in Israel. I wonder if it’s safe for me to go to London, in light of this?

The irony.

As if thinking every thread has to centre you/your preferred group to be performative on behalf of isn’t self centred.

If someone’s thread isn’t relatable to you, who cares? It doesn’t have to be. You don’t have to approve, or even engage at all.

You’re probably just more sensitive to it because of your own experiences.

I guess there’s some threads where people lack self-awareness but most people have concerns which seem trivial to someone else in a worse position. It doesn’t mean that they don’t want advice or to talk the issue through with other people.

”How do I treat my in growing toe nail?”
”You should be grateful you even have two feet!”

Where does it end? None of us can have a whinge if we’re not terminally ill or living in war zone?

At least ast the humblebragging isn't as bad on MN as it is on the Student room. Example: "Am I good enough for Exeter University with A,A,a*?"

Mumsnet seems to be full of "ugh, everyone fancies me". Or just dropping in above average IQs, gifted and talented kids as well as the high salaries into conversation.

On MN everyone’s husband has a high salary and you can’t discuss his hobby because it’s ‘outing’.

MN is a forum of pure fantasy and delusion.

Mn has always had the braggy posters. I don't think they are fawned over like they used to a decade plus ago though thankfully. Some of them were exposed as total fantasists.

I find the funny in those posts though. I suspect most of them aren't real. The ones bragging about their child exceptionally gifted or talented or tall/modelesque dc do make me eyeroll a tad sometimes.

Not the one off ones were a parent is thrilled about an accomplishment their child/ren has achieved through hard work and dedication. I completely get that and that should be celebrated.

However, there's a difference between being proud of your child/ren rather than living vicariously through them/using them as a method to make the parent seem so very amazing.

Yes, and I'd bet my monthly salary that in 99% of cases the hobby is football, cycling, or golf!

Those well known niche, outing activities.

I don't know about that but the kind I have an issue with [and it's been happening for ages] is where someone comes into a thread, like some of the cost of living ones, and says that they're lucky they aren't struggling but they feel for those on the thread and outside world who're sharing that they're struggling.

I think it's highly insensitive, beyond humble bragging and just cruel. No one would know if they scrolled past. if they really wanted to say something, they could've simply just added their "condolence" without saying anything else about themselves because it is completely irrelevant and unnecessary, but nope. It seems they can't help but share how well they're doing while patting the heads of those on the thread who're not doing well.

It probably makes them feel better about their lives but I find it disturbing and I rarely post on those threads for this reason. I think it's best to let people grieve/struggle in peace without inserting "my better life" into their conversation.

I find it really sad when women brag about the achievements of their husband.

ALWAYS on threads of “if you earn 6 figures how did you do it?” Posters come on to talk about their husband. Not the question is it

I don't think the "humble brag is any worse than the" false poor mouth", just fucking own it.

A lot of social media is fantasy land. Anyone can say they earn whatever, and live in whatever, work at whatever, but it doesn't always make it true.😉

Yep