I’ve posted about DD’s Dad before on here, but after a falling out and the usual barrage of abuse I get off him every few weeks, I’ve finally put my foot down and told him I won’t be collecting DD from school on his days.
We are supposed to have a 50/50 childcare arrangement (through choice so he doesn’t pay maintenance as he struggles with money), yet it never ends up that way because on some of his days I end up picking DD up from school until he finishes work at 6pm. This happens a minimum of once a week, usually twice if it’s his 4 day week.
Im self employed and work from home, and I’ve worked my ass off to get my business to the point where it supports both me and my partner (he works with me, not just being a cocklodger). On the days where ex-DP can collect DD from school, I work until at least 5pm, sometimes well into the evening catching up. Meaning when I do him the favour and collect DD for him, I stop at 3, get her home, entertain her and make tea until he collects her at 6.30, missing out on the working hours id usually get.
i don’t think I should do him the favour anymore as it’s affecting my working, he contributes nothing financially for DD, even at his own home he expects me to hand over clothes I pay for to keep them there, or he’ll just keep them when she goes over. He never books time off in school holidays, doesn’t contribute to anything towards school like trips or anything else, and pretty much does the absolute minimum in making sure she’s fed. Weekends are a rarity, so his 50/50 agreement is him having DD 2-3 school nights a week with half of them being me collecting her until 6.30.
He’s also an absolute prick. If I don’t do what he wants, I’m a c*nt, a bitch, a disgusting parent..
This has only really been an issue since he got a promotion in the summer, which he knew would affect his working hours and how often he could collect and see DD, but went for it anyway and instead of getting his family to pitch in or using an after school club, apparently I’m the one who should be helping because i work from home and only live 10 minutes away.
AIBU?