Is it acceptable to ask for furniture and bedding as Christmas gifts?

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We just bought a house on Monday and really don't have much money to spare. Grandparents are asking what to buy for Christmas already, and I can think of so many things the kids need for their rooms. They have beds, but nothing else. DD wants a bookcase that looks like a giant dolls house, for example. And my older DS wants Minecraft bedding and a gaming desk. So is it acceptable to ask for these things, or is it my responsibility to provide them and grandparents should be buying toys?

I did this last year and asked my parents to get the kids duvet sets.

The LOVED them!

They also got huge bath towels with their names embroidered on.

This year we are all doing what we need as Christmas gifts
I've asked for a fruit bowl and a new kettle

Daughter wants bedding, towels and a pizza cutter

This is saving money on tat not needed.
So basically go for it

Would the kids like these things as gifts? Or are they practical and while they'd like to have this or that pattern or style would be disappointed? I'm not sure many kids would like sheets as a gift, but they might think it's the best thing ever!

Why does a child want bedding, towels and a pizza cutter?
Dont you have any ?

It may be an adult, adult DS always wants house stuff for presents so they are useful.

Of course it is. Better to have useful presents than loads of tat

An adult who asks is fine
But the thread is about children?

My DF gave my DS a Minecraft duvet cover for his birthday. He loved it!! Think practical things are good for presents. They get enough toys etc anyway.

Slightly off topic but on that Stacey Solomon show where they sort the house out she painted an outline of a house on the wall (could get a larger sized tester pot) and placed an ikea Kallax in front to make the 4 rooms of a dolls house or some could be storage. Also look out for those shelving sets on selling sites.

I do think some of the bits towards the bedroom and some good choices for toys are equally good ideas to share out. It’s one special year where you have a new house.

Our DGC get so much from everyone else I always ask what they really need. Their other DGP buy loads of toys and things that end up forgotten about. We always buy something to open that they’d love then get something that they need. Last year we bought a game for each of them and a day out for them to enjoy as well as a wooden garden swing for one, a desk for another and sensory lights etc for the third. I wouldn’t have any problem buying anything you’ve mentioned OP.

DS2’s best Xmas present last year was the world map duvet cover and pillowcase from his DGP’s. He was 6. Depends on the child.

Absolutely! We normally ask for vouchers but this year we're asking for foreign currency. Got to make it work for you!

Not voted as I'm not clear which way your question is, but of course it is acceptable. Whyever not ?

A 'wish list' is exactly what it says on the tin - things you "wish" to have.
If that is something your child wants to make their room how they want it (bed that themed bedding or a particular bookcase) then that is what your dc want, so that is what they should put on their list.

I mean, I don't know what the costs are, and what the budgets of the people buying are - in the past my dc have said "Can I please have some money towards..... "and then bought something more expensive with money they've had from 2 or 3 people together. But, equally, they've had particular bedding or towels or whatever as Christmas presents, and been very pleased with them.

How old are they?

I think it's ok, if they either really do want them, or they are sitting alongside what they really do want. It's not ok though, as a replacement as what they do want because you think it's better (sensible exception for v young kids here on a sliding scale)

Character duvet covers are fine always. I think for a child young enough to want a dolls house bookcase, if there's a shortage of money, I'm not sure that sounds old enough to understand that on Xmas morning if that's the big present. The kallax idea sounds perfect, you could get one from sell and seek and make a bookcase/ dollhouse/ storage area. B&m also do slightly smaller ones as do quite a few other places. What's a gaming desk? That feels like something that's a lot of money for not much.There's absolutely nothing wrong with asking for practicals for Xmas from relatives if that's what the kids want or if it's going alongside what they need. My DC are at the age that clothes/ bedroom decorations/ events/ hobby stuff is the stuff they really want so that's what they ask for. I really think it's a very age dependent question.

Of course it's OK. Start making your list ;)

@SandSunWaves They're 6, 10, and almost 12 (will be 12 in a month).

Besides glow in the dark bedding and a Pac-Man lamp, my 6 year old has asked for tape that looks like roads for his cars and a blue teddy bear. What he doesn't know he needs is a table for next to his bed to put the lamp on, drawers for his clothes, and curtains.

Besides the bookcase that looks like a giant dolls house, my 10 year old has asked for what she calls waterfall fairy lights (looks like a curtain of white Christmas lights), a chunky knit lavender blanket, Himalayan pink salt lamp, a dreamcatcher, butterfly wall decals, and glow in the dark stars that stick to the ceiling (guess who will be on a ladder placing them one by one). What she doesn't know she needs is a table for next to her bed, a proper lamp, drawers for her clothes, curtains, and (eventually - low priority -) bedding and mattress for her trundle.

Besides the Minecraft bedding and gaming desk, my oldest DS has asked for a computer (he doesn't know that DH is going to give him his computer as he has a separate work computer he can use), enough LED strips to border the ceiling and floor of his room, a gold fidget ring that spins, a Minecraft nether portal novelty lamp, 10 specific manga books, and three specific tshirts. But he's said the top four priorities, in order, are the computer, the desk, the bedding, and LED strips. What he doesn't know he needs is narrow ledge shelves and a wall mounted light for his bunk bed, blackout curtains, drawers for his clothes, a bookcase, and (eventually - higher priority for when my 20 year old comes to visit -) a mattress for the other bunk on his bed.

@mondaytosunday They would like them as gifts and not be disappointed.

A mattress for the other bunk bed for someone else to sleep on is not a present for him is it.

The household needs it, he doesn’t.

The 'needs' listed above are not suitable for gifts from grandparents. Curtains and mattresses are basics.

I think it’s fine, my children would love all that and my parents would much rather buy that, than plastic crap that is lost, binned or broken by Easter.

@AlltheFs The mattress and bedding is needed before Christmas.

@LovelyGreenCushions The needs are things DH and I have to buy. It was asked why we didn't just buy the fun things for their rooms they want so grandparents can just buy toys. It's because we don't have a lot to spare, and there's a lot of needs that must be sorted in a short amount of time.

Yes my parents welcome ideas like this as they last longer then the toys and I would rather they didn’t waste money on items that would not last longer then 6 months. I have actually asked previously for a bed for myself off my parents when I was much younger but my parents stated they would rather do this then buy presents that would possibly go to waste. If it’s affordable then I can’t see a problem.

Op, please look on Facebook, my local one sometimes has parents asking for stuff for free to help them or their kids and people give generously where they can. Or even in charity shops, you might get something there. Kids need a present to open on Christmas morning, i hope you manage to get your kids something, you are trying really hard it must be difficult.
It makes me mad when i hear of well off pensioners getting extra cold weather payments when they dont need it and families with young kids are struggling. All because the pensioners may vote tory

Aunty Gewurtz hates buying plastic tat and for Christmas was delighted to be asked to buy a Mermaid duvet set and a Superman one for 2 young niblings, with a furry 'pelt' bed throw for their 10 year old sister and a themed desk lamp for nearly 12 brother.

All the kids were over the moon as none expected to get these from their Xmas lists. With 4 kids their Mum & Dad were very short of money and short lived toys were not a priority, (though they do get a few small fun things for stockings). So they operate a policy of gifts either being what you want, need, wear, read, or experience. If you can cover at least 2 of those at once even better. GP's and aunts & uncles all very happy to go along with that.

You sound great OP and Christmas will be lovely in your new home whatever you buy.