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To think that people who wear PJs outside haven't actually slept in them?

154 replies

Utterbunkum · 25/10/2023 12:10

I have seen much discussion about the public wearing of PJs and it has made me curious. I haven't worn PJs in bed apart from on very cold nights and when in someone else's house in case I need the loo in the night ( and then it's a nightshirt) since I was a child. Are people really actually sleeping in the sort of night attire some report seeing people wearing in Tesco's? I can't imagine going to bed with my DH in a big, fleecy onesie or fleece PJs.
Do a lot of people wear PJs in bed? Am I unusual?
I rather thought the modern PJ wearers were having 'duvet' days and didn't change to shop, not that they'd slept in it. I thought PJs were just the new casual, loaf around the house wear, but some posters definitely seem to think people actually sleep in them. Do they?

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MyLovelyMuffin · 25/10/2023 14:16

@kitsuneghost You can say that you personally find it disgusting. It doesn’t make it objectively disgusting.

Lokipokey1 · 25/10/2023 14:18

My house is freezing in the winter and even with a thick duvet, hot water bottle and bed socks I will usually wear long sleeved pyjamas in bed. I only have electric storage radiators and so my house is really cold by the evening, even if I’ve had the radiator on.

ThinWomansBrain · 25/10/2023 14:22

My Dad used to wear pyjamas as loungewear in the 1970s, so not that new. He had several pairs that were similar style to a karate suit; a lurid turquoise trimmed with black sticks in my head.
Dead embarrassing if school friends came round.
He wouldn't have worn them out ever.

Ineedwinenow · 25/10/2023 14:34

I wear a long sleeves nightshirt for bed but I immediately change when I get up and only wear it for getting into bed in the evening , I do not wear bed wear for lounging around the house in, even if I am sick I still put daytime clothes on, I don’t actually like the feeling of wearing bed wear in the daytime, I don’t feel dressed in it so feel uncomfortable. I also don’t own loungewear either, jogging bottom type trousers or PJ type trousers just don’t suit me, I look like a toddler in them 😆

I think the lines are blurred between loungewear and bed wear nowadays so I don’t have an answer but I have definitely seen more people out and about in PJs than I used to

GetWhatYouWant · 25/10/2023 14:35

Oakbeam · 25/10/2023 13:16

I’ve never seen anybody wearing pyjamas outside, unless it was a quick dash to get the bins out.

We did have a neighbour who kept going out in her nightie. She was mentally ill.

I am quite old and although I had heard this was a "thing" with certain types of people I had never seen it with my own eyes till last week. I was aware that a couple of years ago the big Tesco on the other side of my city had banned people from shopping there if they were wearing slippers and dressing gowns. There is a new housing estate near me, mainly privately owned but with an amount of social/ low cost housing, these particular houses were built nearest to the main road presumably as that is the worst position. Driving past at about 4pm with my mother we were very surprised to see 2 women sitting outside on the front steps( houses have back gardens) while their children played. Both women wearing pyjamas, dressing gowns and slippers, children dressed normally. This was right on a main road with hundreds of cars going past.

DelightfullyDotty · 25/10/2023 14:36

I wear a beach dress to sleep in and I’m usually in a dressing gown even if I’m fully dressed.

I always shower, brush teeth, do hair and makeup, perfume, wear clean clothes but my dogs have taken to now sleeping in my bed, which I’m sure is disgusting but i like it.

Catza · 25/10/2023 14:41

I hate getting into a cold bed so yes, I sleep in PJs through winter. I don't go out in them though

QueenOfCarrotFlowers · 25/10/2023 14:55

Sometimes people you see out and about wearing clothes have slept in those, too.

Friths · 25/10/2023 14:58

Do those of you who wear PJs as 'leisure wear' wear pants and bras under them?

justplodding · 25/10/2023 15:25

Desecratedcoconut · 25/10/2023 13:49

Right, found it, the club drop off and pint of milk poster. It's not quite the great cultural shift to a different way of wearing clothes that the op is hypothesising.

Edited

Just wanted to clear things up, This would all be at night, 11pm to my local Tesco express. A quick in and out.

I dont walk about my big tesco in my jammies 😂

Chickenwing2 · 25/10/2023 15:46

@kitsuneghost "because it is" isnt an answer. I still don't understand what you find disgusting about owning a dog?

Nokoolaidherethanks · 25/10/2023 15:50

I always wear pyjamas to bed and so do my kids. Would feel weird not wearing anything. I have warmer ones for winter/camping and shorty ones for summer/stayingin sauna that is my parents' house. I know some people don't but surely most people do wear pyjamas?? DH wears tshirt and boxers which barely different from short pjs.

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 25/10/2023 15:53

I dont walk about my big tesco in my jammies

Why does the size of the Tesco branch make any difference? Confused

Nokoolaidherethanks · 25/10/2023 15:53

Oh I forgot to say I'd never go to a shop or similar in pjs but fairly often pick up or drop off children in them early in the morning or late at night. But only if I don't need to get out of the car and usually put a coat or hoody over them.

Utterbunkum · 25/10/2023 16:00

@Nokoolaidherethanks well, up until this post I thought nude sleeping was more common among adults, but was obviously wrong. The responses have been interesting, some saying they have different PJs for daywear, etc.

I really wanted to know if the increase might be due to more people wearing pyjamas to slob about in during the day and went out in them without thinking, like some people nip to the shops in the old trousers they only wear for painting the house in.

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aintnospringchicken · 25/10/2023 16:05

I only wear my pj's in bed,not to lounge around the house and definitely not to the supermarket.

SerenChocolateMuncher · 25/10/2023 16:09

Most of the people I've seen out in pyjamas and dressing gowns look grubby and smelly. I always try to avoid getting too close to them for fear of an assault on my nostrils.

Surely, if they could be arsed to wash or shower in the morning, they would dress in clean day clothes. I think it's absurd to suggest these slobs might shower and change into clean nightwear before going out.

I think it's more likely they go out in pyjamas and grubby dressing gowns because they are lazy or lacking in dignity. Some might be suffering from depression, in which case they deserve sympathy, but that doesn't mean their friends and loved ones can't have a gentle word with them about standards and support them in seeking medical help.

Conkersinautumn · 25/10/2023 16:11

Wow.

Judystilldreamsofhorses · 25/10/2023 16:15

I sleep in a nightshirt, and my “house clothes” or loungewear if I am just knocking about at home or after work are joggers/leggings/cosy jumper type efforts. I often walk my neighbour’s dog when she works away and happily nip out in those, or round to Tesco Express.

On a weekend if we don’t have plans I will often have a long bath then just put on fresh loungewear. Always pants but no bra!

Deathwillbebutapause · 25/10/2023 16:17

kitsuneghost · 25/10/2023 12:46

Disgusting is a bit strong

Owning a dog is disgusting
Smoking is disgusting
Blowing you nose on your sleeve is disgusting
Going out in clothes you have slept in - less so

Do you take spare clothes on a flight in case you go for a nap?

What goady nonsense. But just in case you aren't on the wind-up..

Dogs are lovely. Your body odour I am willing to bet is significantly less so.

Deathwillbebutapause · 25/10/2023 16:29

OP not everyone has central heating. We don't. I dress like a fucking sherpa at 29000ft for bed in the winter time.

Utterbunkum · 25/10/2023 16:29

SerenChocolateMuncher · 25/10/2023 16:09

Most of the people I've seen out in pyjamas and dressing gowns look grubby and smelly. I always try to avoid getting too close to them for fear of an assault on my nostrils.

Surely, if they could be arsed to wash or shower in the morning, they would dress in clean day clothes. I think it's absurd to suggest these slobs might shower and change into clean nightwear before going out.

I think it's more likely they go out in pyjamas and grubby dressing gowns because they are lazy or lacking in dignity. Some might be suffering from depression, in which case they deserve sympathy, but that doesn't mean their friends and loved ones can't have a gentle word with them about standards and support them in seeking medical help.

I didn't say 'before going out' like they dress in PJs just to go out. The suggestion was PJs as lounge wear that people didn't change out of to go to the shops. Some have said they wear clean PJs in the day that they haven't slept in. It's not much of a stretch, if that is the case, to say that people who pop to the shop in PJs may not have actually slept in them

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category12 · 25/10/2023 16:42

Seems weird to get up in the morning and put on clean pyjamas if you have errands to run. I assume they have been worn overnight and therefore are a bit grim, from sweat and general human grossness.

TeeedleDum · 25/10/2023 16:54

Yes I agree OP. I just sleep in a t-shirt. When I get up or home I will change into my round the house PJ's. I wouldn't wear them out except if I'm bringing in the bins or very occasionally I'll wear them to drive from my mum's house to home if it's late at night and I know I won't be stopping.

Bouncyball23 · 25/10/2023 16:56

Deffo slept in them, if not why not just get dressed?