To think its disgusting that dh used my towel

[WinkyTinky]

Bought myself a new bath towel recently, a lovely pink fluffy thing, a treat just for me. Dh used it this morning, stuffed it into the wash basket, and went off on his way. So I took it out to get it straight in the washing machine only to find he'd really given himself a good scrub and left the evidence behind 😠Anger level 1-10?

Imagining him at the hotel buffet in his PJs (previous thread) 🤢

Have you created posts about him before? There is a poster whose husband has some form of incontinence and expects her to wash his shitty pants instead of doing it himself. Is this you, OP?

Regardless, YANBU.

Putting shit stained clothes or towels in the wash basket for you to deal with is just disgusting and utterly disrespectful.

When you are happy in a marriage and having sex, the general intimacy you have means it’s easier to share things and can be more forgiving.

When you reach the stage when the sound of them eating gives you the ick, then it means the marriage is on its way out.

So for WinkyTinky this is worse than if a stranger has used her brand new towel and shitted it up.

I don’t know if it’s a general problem for men, but a friend’s husband managed to ‘spot weld’ on their bedding. For those not in the know it means leaving a little brown round mark from a dirty bumhole. Another man I heard of was sharing a bath with his girlfriend thought it would be ‘fun’ to fart under water, but instead followed through ie did a poo. In the bath.

These stories were relayed to me by my ex husband as humorous! Some men have a strange sense of humour.

@Isheabastard I hope the poor girlfriend in the bath made a very quick exit and equally quickly made herself an ex girlfriend. Gross!

What is it with men on MN who can't wipe their own arses?

I also struggled to understand the relevance of your post.

I found a towel my ex had used with this ‘evidence’. I had to bin the towel as the stain wouldn’t come out. It also occurred on the sheets a couple of times. It’s safe to say any desire I had for him died. And he wondered why I didn’t want to have sex with him anymore

Disgusting

I'd have to buy a new one

Fuck me that’s minging. Obviously showing you disrespect and doing so purposefully

What sort of a disgusting thread is this?

Men who don’t wash their own arseholes. It’s a dealbreaker. My god.

He's a grubby little shit-beast

I don’t know why people are suggesting this is fake- unfortunately I’ve seen countless women on various forums discussing the reluctance some men seem to have concerning arse hygiene. I used to work as a cleaner and remember one particular toilet which a man had left covered in dried poo dust- I assume it must have been sitting in his pants until he pulled them down 🤢 the mind boggles!

The fact that your husband used your towel is annoying, not disgusting.

The fact that he can't wipe his own arse properly is disgusting.

I wouldn't be bothered about my DH using the same towel as me. We have sex with other and sleep in the same bed after all, but I could not be with a dirty person who couldn't wash their arse properly. That is disgusting.

Given that your post entirely ignored the nature of the towel soiling, I assumed you had only read the beginning of the thread and was politely pointing out to you that there was more to the thread than you had seen.

i was actually trying to be kind and helpful. More fool me. 😇

Two things - ewwww personal hygiene. Can he not actually wipe/wash his arsehole?
Also, sharing towels. Fine if they've been laundered, and put back in the cupboard. You just take the top clean one. BUT, if it's been used once or twice, and hung up on the rack, for use again. No, you don't use your partner/wife/friend/neighbour/dog's. Only one person should use it between launders.

Gavel

Oh no 😟 this would end badly for my DP. He didn’t wash properly then had the bloody cheek to use your towel. How disgusting he owes you a new towel 🥺

Skiddies on a towel 🤮

I was going to suggest brushing this off with a simple conversation unless he had actually used the towel to wipe his bum… oh dear OP 😳

There was a post once from a woman who had sex with a bloke for the first time and he left shit stains on her bedhead ( which he apparently was leaning on whilst she performed a sex act on him). And, get this, she did not dump him but just cleaned it off and carried on seeing him!!!!

How low can your standards get?!

Obviously didn't give himself that good a scrub.

If OH did that, it'd be going in the bin and I'd buy myself another nice fluffy new one!

But, if he did that, I'd probably be binning OH too! Just too gross and disgusting to live with a pig pretending to be a man who does that!

Of course people have their own towels. Just like when growing up.

We once had a tradesmen who left shit stains all over our towel when he went to the loss. Heaven knows how. There was plenty of loo roll. He must have used the towel to clean his arse rather than loo roll.

Next day when he asked to use the loo he was told no he can't and he had to go elsewhere. Not having that in my house!