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To hate Whatsapp reaction feature

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u163028 · 22/10/2023 18:48

The only time I find it ok, is when a reaction is used when a conversation is at a natural end, or when its followed up with a reply.

I find it borderline rude when people use it and then don't bother to respond properly with a reply. Example, I send a photo to a friend 'I saw this and thought of you!' I get a ''person' reacted 'heart' to ...'' and no reply. It basically makes me think they don't actually want to speak to you or make conversation, it actually makes me feel a bit rejected, like I'd probably feel the same if they just didn't reply and left me on read.

It was actually better when people replied/responded with an emoji than them clicking the 'reaction' button.

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Graciebobcat · 23/10/2023 02:19

Don't be ridiculous, it's a fantastic feature and why would a photo or meme elicit a message in response?

For all those texters saying it's low effort, why don't you make the effort to phone your friend or see them in person instead of sending them photos?

Texting may after all give the impression that they don't actually want to speak to you or make conversation.

Talk about double standards.

And I would love a like button feature on here, it would save endless chains of repetitious and pointless responses.

Graciebobcat · 23/10/2023 02:22

Fionaville · 23/10/2023 01:31

I much prefer it. But then I also hate the pressure of reading a message quickly, but then knowing that they know I've 'seen' it, so I basically have to respond. No matter if I'm busy or in the mood to exchange messages about whatever it is they are sending. Its that social expectation that I have to respond in a timely manner or else people like you will think I'm not being a good friend. So the option to do a quick reaction is perfect.

Exactly. Who needs needy, hard work people around them like this? If only you could mute or block people in real life.

Cosyblankets · 23/10/2023 07:21

No wonder there are so many stressed out people out there!
The whole point of texting etc is to send a message at a time that's convenient to you for someone to read and reply at a time that's convenient for them.
All this overanalysis is really unnecessary.
It's ridiculous!! Get a grip. It's a text message!

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amusedbush · 23/10/2023 11:08

When someone sends me a photo/meme (even with an added message about how they saw it and thought of me) I'd never in a million years assume they were trying to start a reciprocal conversation. When I send someone a meme or funny Tiktok, I'm not expecting anything more than a reaction to the message.

I've seen it nicknamed "penguin pebbling"; penguins reiterate their bond by periodically scooping up a shiny pebble that catches their eye and giving it as a gift.

In my experience, most people send things like that with the implicit message: "I think you'll find this funny - enjoy".

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 23/10/2023 11:11

Much better when you’re busy and don’t have time for a full message.

Also, people who are forever sending me a meme or a video will likely get an emoji reaction because I don’t want to start a conversation about the meme.

thaisweetchill · 23/10/2023 12:02

Completely with you! A close friend 'reacts' to every message I send and it drives me round the bend, it's not Facebook!!!

Mrsjayy · 23/10/2023 12:10

Aww penguin pebbiling @amusedbush that's sweet.

CallieQ · 23/10/2023 12:25

If you want a conversation pick up the phone and call

TLDRfuckers · 23/10/2023 12:28

thaisweetchill · 23/10/2023 12:02

Completely with you! A close friend 'reacts' to every message I send and it drives me round the bend, it's not Facebook!!!

But it ask Linda is Facebook isn’t it now that it’s owned by meta, it’s all much the same now mark zuckerberg has everyone’s data.

MidnightintheGrandCanyon · 23/10/2023 12:37

I would tend to agree, if is a one-to-one message and you have sent a photo (and not just some forwarded meme thing) and a personal message then I think it is pretty rude to just send a 'reaction'

The only exception is if you are a prolific messager. I know people like this and sometimes it is just hard to keep up with all their messages and once you respond it can take up so much time as they then reply immediately etc. Perfectly lovely people but just prolific on WhatsApp, I always wonder how they get anything done.

MidnightintheGrandCanyon · 23/10/2023 12:40

I sometimes put aeroplane mode on to read some people's messages, so it doesn't show as 'read' - as I sort of know they will be waiting for a reply to it and it gives me anxiety. Leaving it 'unread' but in reality 'read' buys some time

Cosyblankets · 23/10/2023 12:44

MidnightintheGrandCanyon · 23/10/2023 12:40

I sometimes put aeroplane mode on to read some people's messages, so it doesn't show as 'read' - as I sort of know they will be waiting for a reply to it and it gives me anxiety. Leaving it 'unread' but in reality 'read' buys some time

This is insane
What is the world coming to when someone has to do this?

EmmaEmerald · 23/10/2023 14:12

Cosyblankets · 23/10/2023 12:44

This is insane
What is the world coming to when someone has to do this?

Mine is set not to show read receipts at all.

WildcatHaven · 23/10/2023 14:22

If you set you WhatsApp up not to show read receipts at all - can you see read receipts for the messages you send yourself?

I prefer to know if someone has read my messages - only because for some people I may worry if they haven't (e.g. that they are physically ok)

amiboverd · 23/10/2023 14:30

I agree with you that the recipient can just reply when they have more time OP. Being busy isn't a reason as they could reply later but everyone treats messages so differently and if you're not asking a question then maybe an emoji is okay for now.

EmmaEmerald · 23/10/2023 14:48

WildcatHaven · 23/10/2023 14:22

If you set you WhatsApp up not to show read receipts at all - can you see read receipts for the messages you send yourself?

I prefer to know if someone has read my messages - only because for some people I may worry if they haven't (e.g. that they are physically ok)

No, you can't see others receipts.

I set my work email the same way. I might have glanced at a message but not necessarily read it all etc etc

If I need to know someone is okay, I ring them.

Mrsjayy · 23/10/2023 14:54

EmmaEmerald · 23/10/2023 14:12

Mine is set not to show read receipts at all.

So is mine.

Cosyblankets · 23/10/2023 14:57

EmmaEmerald · 23/10/2023 14:12

Mine is set not to show read receipts at all.

I think the fact that this is even an option is also madness that people need to do this because someone might get upset if they think we've read a message and not instantly replied.

girlfriend44 · 23/10/2023 14:58

first world problems.

EmmaEmerald · 23/10/2023 16:05

girlfriend44 · 23/10/2023 14:58

first world problems.

I live in the first world, I'll hazard a guess the OP does too.

Read receipts on any medium are a nightmare.

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