What can I ask the police to do?

[ConstantAnxietyNonStop]

Last year I was randomly attacked by 2 school mums over our 5 year olds falling out. My child fell into their child during gym time, school have confirmed over and over it was an accident. It was completely unexpected and I never saw it coming, there was no row beforehand, they just jumped out of their car as I was walking home and started to scream at me and attack me

It was reported to the police ( I rang the police as they started screaming at me so the whole thing is on a 999 call )

One woman was arrested for GBH as I needed emergancy dental care after the attack and released under investigation ( still being investigated )

After the attack I was sent posts and tiktoks by friends that shed made online about me threatening and posting pictures of my social media and profile pictures. I also reported this to the police and they basically said as my profile pictures ect were public there was nothing they could do. Same with the threats as she hadnt threatened me directly

I get sent things still and this woman has been posting lives/posts about me for almost a year now. Last night I was sent one where she was saying she Hope's i die, she knows where i live, I'm in for a shock and I'm going to be sorry. She outright says my name several times

I'm sick of reporting things to the police and nothin coming of it. A few days ago they both walked past me and called me a scruffy cunt infront of my 2 primary school aged children

I'm so fed up. This has been going on for so long, the police just apologise for the time it's been taking and say their investigating

It's been almost a year now of indirectly harrassing me online ---- I have never had a conversation with these women since the attack I pretend I dont see them so it's really not like I've been ant agonising them,

I hate to say it, their literally bullying me and I feel so pathetic

Last time I reported indirect threats the police said they couldnt do anything as she hadnt contacted me directly, but surely nearly a year of doing this to somone surely somthing can be done?

Does anyone know what I can report all this under? I've looked online and it doeant really come under online harrassment as that's direct?

I just want it all to stop I keep applying for houses to move areas, I'm not a priority as it's not domestic violence so I'm literally 200+ in the queues. I cant cope living like this anymore I was so frightened to to to school after the attack I kept my children off for 11 days, I record myself walking to school everyday, I have a body camera just incase it happens again

I just want it to stop and I feel like the police just havnt helped because I cant articulate myself properly when I'm stressed ( newly diagnosed ADHD) and to them its playground bullshit but in reality this is affecting mine and my childrwns lives so badly

Can you get someone to walk with you? And go to the police with you? I'd also report them every time on social media. Get your friends to report too.

It unfortunately sounds like they've pegged you as "weak" and as a target and short of thumping them in the gob there's not much you can do.

Look into changing schools as a priority if you can!

It might be that your MP doesn't actually deal with it themselves but a member of their team does. I used to work in the public sector and any kind of letter or complaint that came from the MP's office would magically get bumped to the top of the pile.
I've contacted my own MPs three times over the last 20 years or so, one was absolutely useless, one fairly good, third one was excellent and got my problem sorted within 48 hours. It's worth an email anyway even if you just copy and paste your original post on this thread.

I'm so sorry your going through this, it really sounds awful.

I had a similar situation with my next door neighbours (not involving children, we just had threatening 71 year old neighbour)z

The police issued my neighbours with a CPNW - a Community Protection Notice Warning which seemed to work.

Is it worth speaking to your local PCSO who may be able to offer you advice and have measures in place?

I'll reply individually again in a minute I just want to say thank you to everyone being so nice. I was half expecting people to ask me what I had done I must of done somthing to make them behave like this towards me. So thank you for being nice

They do see me as weak. I am physically. I'm 5'1 and I'm recovering from anorexia, I weigh 7 stone right now but when they attacked me I weighed 6 stone. They know I've moved up here fleeing DV ( before any of this happened we were at a small birthday sorry together and I briefly explained why wed moved up here ) they know I dont have any local family nor many local friends ( I have 2 friends round here )

Yes for several weeks my friends came to school and back with me everyday despite having to go to work.

One offered to walk with me after the scruffy cunt comment and I said no as when they said it I just carried on talking to my DC I didnt acknowledge it or falter in my sentence so I am hoping they think I didnt hear it and I knew if they saw me turn up with a friend they would know I heard and know I was intimidated. Sad I know and in reality it doesnt matter if they know on scared or not but last year was horrific and even avoiding them didnt make it stop

Are you in social housing? Are the other women also in social housing?

If they are your landlord can help you. Contact their ASB/Tenancy Enforcement team for advice. The HA/LA could apply for an injunction against them. I have done that multiple times for my customers for situations just like you describe.

Sorry OP I should have been clearer. Protected characteristics might be disability, race, religion etc. it’s the only thing the police seem to actually act on.

I agree with Questionable. Take a witness. To the police. Sadly, better if it's a man, but a woman will do. They won't like it. Ask them if this is the best they can do?

I don’t want to be critical but maybe in future don’t share so much with people? It does seem a very big over share to tell people at a party that you were the victim of DV and you have no friends or family. They’ve obviously picked up on this and used it against you. It’s a lot to tell people that you’ve just met.

I would honestly just move schools, this won’t get better.

LNY1986

Unneccasarily harsh, I'm 5'1 and I weigh 7 stone. One woman is around 5'8 and around 12 stone and the other is almost 6 foot and says herself she weighs 18 stone. Considering when they attacked me they hurt me so badly i needed emergancy dental care as they punched me so hard in the mouth my teeth became wobbly what do you suggest I do to these two women twice as heavy and a lot taller than me?

My children see me ignore them, carry on chatting to them, they see me get up every day and Carry on..... on my own. If anything, I've taught my children that inner strength is very very powerful

It took so much strength to leave a 7 year abusive relationship and move 50 miles away on my own and start a new life on my own, I'm not sure where else you would like me to pull physical strength for when I'm drowning every single day yet still pretend in front of my kids that I'm okay

I hope you felt good writing that

We are in a horrendous situation right now which I am trying to get us out of whilst putting on a positive front for my children. I am doing the best I can

EmeraldTheSeahorse

It wasnt said like that 😂

Another mum at the party had also moved up here fleeing DV, it wasnt a boohoo it was a "us too and it was the best thing I did for the kids"

Asked if moved round here for family and replied no all my family live in such a place,

I dont go around introducing myself as woman who moved here fleeing DV and I have no local family 😂

add the body cam of the abuse you're receiving walking along the street - being called a scruffy unt is not acceptable

@ConstantAnxietyNonStop please try and ignore that poster, no one sensible would suggest that you try to retaliate against a coordinated attack from two larger violent bullies.

Ignoring their attempts to harass you on the street is the best way to go, alongside logging as much evidence as possible and reporting it to the police as harassment.

@LNY1986 just stop it. They violently attacked her and caused damage to the point it's being considered GBH. No way should the OP be engaging with these thugs verbally or otherwise. Ignore and don't stoop to their level, they want to have another aggressive interaction, so don't give it to them.

Awful situation OP.

Hope you can get the much needed support you need. 💐

Move schools
join every club/group etc you can, make friends and walk with them in public as much as possible.
Ditto for your children.
They are targeting you for being vulnerable. The only thing you can do is make yourself as protected and surrounded by other people as possible.
They will get bored and find another victim soon.

I would even find another mum who lives nearby, explain the situation and ask if I can walk with her to school each day. You might be surprised to see she says yes.

MPs and councillors will be able to contact the local police at a senior level so it is really worth pursuing that avenue. You can either write or ask for an appointment at their surgery, there should be one local to you. You say you are on a housing list, I don’t know if that is council or HA but MPs and Councillors can help with that too. I would tell them you have been a victim of DV in the past as well as the current situation. It must be very frightening and intimidating for you.

Don't be so silly @LNY1986, engaging with these people is what they want. They want to goad the OP into responding, then it muddies the water and they can call it a two sided argument. Or just have another opportunity to inflict GBH on her.

Only a limited thinker would suggest that violence and harassment be met with more violence and aggression. It is a strong stance to ignore these idiot bullies and not give them the reaction that they want.

How do you suggest she stands up for herself when the culprits are almost twice the size of her, weightwise? We're not in the US it's not like she can arm herself with a bloody gun!

@ConstantAnxietyNonStop my DD works for Victim Support. Ring the national helpline - don’t wait for them to ring you. They will offer really good emotional support, you can ring as often as you like to get that, but they will have really good practical advice too, and their input re the safety of the children may also get the police moving a bit. Do it today. It’s a 24/7 line.

It baffles me that no one around them has said what the hell are you doing? if someone I knew was doing this I’d be asking wtf are you up too.

I feel really terrible for you. Are there no supportive parents you can walk in a group with?

you should put a complaint in with the police, you’re living in fear, people cannot be allowed to behave like this.

Perhaps they don’t want to be on the receiving end either? I find people usually don’t want to get involved.

Awful situation. Unfortunately this won’t be seen as a hate crime (which it surely is). It’s madness that you can misgender someone and the police act, yet this vile bullying is ignored