To want to change sons name he is 16 months

[rommy36]

We really struggled finding a name. We finally named him 2months or so after her was born. It was the name we thought we liked the best but still weren't crazy.
Up to a year i was adamant i was going to change it. Then something happened i came round to it.
Now i don't like it again.
Every soft play or park we go to we hear it.
Its a nice name just does fit him or feel right and i don't like the possible nicknames.

Is it scarring to do this?

The main problem is i don't have an alternative. Lol i've probably lost you all after that comment.

Anyone else been in this predicament?

Why does it matter how many people are called the same name? Years ago there were about 5 names and everyone was called the same. They aren’t your children. He’s got a name, that’s his name. He knows it, you liked it, and…. Anything else is irrelevant.

Even if you wanted to, you can't if you don't know what you want to change it to. Would you call him "Name TBD?" Just get right with the existing name.

I don’t think any parent immediately starts calling their newborn Olympia or Nathaniel.

I did with both of mine. They stopped being their nickname and became their actual name.

Stick with it the older he gets he’ll own his name.

I’ve known some ridiculous names but once the children are older the name becomes them and they own it.

ps I do agree nobody warns you how hard it is to name a baby!

There's plenty of people who go by a completely different name.drom their registered name.
I work in children's health and come across it all the time..
Eg records may say john Smith but known as Alan.
Also adopted children often have a name change and are not adversely affected

Just leave his name as it is. If the only reason you’ve taken against it is because you’ve met other children with that name, then unless you change it to something really way out, you’d have precisely the same problem with any other name - so just don’t change it. Is there some diminutive that you could use instead, thus keeping his original name? Really, don’t think of changing his name - he will make it his own!

That's really interesting about the adopted children! How old are they when their names get changed??

And yes OP, YABU. Sounds like you have some other issue going on though, as others have suggested. Maybe focus on that? And once it's dealt with, you might be more at peace with the name you've chosen.

Just use a nick name

Agree that you need therapy, OP 😂

I think it's too late He knows his name and especially as you don't have another name in mind
I hope you don't mind, but are you ok mentally?
Name/ identity anxieties can be a symptom of PND

@QS90 I know one 3yo who refused to have a name change. The birth name was a bit out there, the adoption parents were advised to change by call them first name middle name, with the plan to drop the first name, LO kept saying "my name is just first name"

But I also know of a set of siblings who were old enough to chose their own names.

Social media means it can be very important for the security of some children to have a name change to reduce the risk of abusive birth families tracking them down.

The main problem is i don't have an alternative. Lol i've probably lost you all after that comment

No, you lost me because he’s sixteen months.

Time to get over it, he’s got a name.

Ok OP so what’s the plan? How are you going to decide on a new name? What are the options? What’s the timescale?

You chose it stick to it. At 16 months he will be used called it. Grow up.

He has a name, just leave it as it is. Honestly, you sound like you are playing with a doll, not a real actual child!!

Unless he’s called something like Horsefister, probably best to leave it…