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To want to change sons name he is 16 months

67 replies

rommy36 · 22/10/2023 04:30

We really struggled finding a name. We finally named him 2months or so after her was born. It was the name we thought we liked the best but still weren't crazy.
Up to a year i was adamant i was going to change it. Then something happened i came round to it.
Now i don't like it again.
Every soft play or park we go to we hear it.
Its a nice name just does fit him or feel right and i don't like the possible nicknames.

Is it scarring to do this?

The main problem is i don't have an alternative. Lol i've probably lost you all after that comment.

Anyone else been in this predicament?

OP posts:
Itsmyshadow · 22/10/2023 21:43

I think some of the comments are harsh OP. I can really sympathise. I’m not sure we made the right choice with our 19 month old’s name. He was nameless for quite a while as we just didn’t like the same names. We eventually settled on a name that’s a bit “out there”. We are not out there people at all, in I am the most conventional and sensible person I know 🤦🏼‍♀️, but he has a bit of of hippyish name. I wish I’d called him Matthew or something sensible.

Anyway, I’ve not spoken to DH about it and we’re not changing it, but I do regret it (must have still been high from the birth when I agreed to it). Is there an alternative or shorter version of the name you could start using e.g. Seb, Sam, Jack (for John), Harry (for Henry) etc?

KrisAkabusi · 22/10/2023 21:58

No! By the sound of it you'd change it, then decide to change it again, then go back. And you don't even have a name now! You're far too indecisive. Leave the poor kid and his name alone!

Fionaville · 22/10/2023 22:00

I just really want to know the name!

Mojodojocasahaus · 22/10/2023 22:02

YABU for not telling us the name

ColleenDonaghy · 22/10/2023 22:04

It's way too late to change now. The only reason I can think of to change this late is if the name suddenly becomes notorious - like a girl called Lucy Letby, say, and you didn't want it to be linked every time their name was searched or mentioned for the first time.

If you've just gone off the name you just have to live with it.

theduchessofspork · 22/10/2023 22:04

It’s too late

You’ve said yourself it’s a nice name and you don’t have any other idea m

Stop being silly

3luckystars · 22/10/2023 22:05

I wou be reluctant to change it, especially as there is nothing else.

Could you give him a shortened version/nickname and start calling him that? Sorry you are still not ok with it, sometimes the name is out of your hands and it gets chosen for them.

Cowlover89 · 22/10/2023 22:05

Yabu

CaroleSinger · 22/10/2023 22:07

Why did it take months to think of a name in the first place? It can't be that difficult surely? Most children will encounter kids with the same names. I know I did 50 years ago.

Starlightstarbright2 · 22/10/2023 22:07

I have had name regret for many years .. Now my Ds is 16 he has definitely grown into it .

yes it’s too late

Summerscoming23 · 22/10/2023 22:07

Can you nickname the name?

ReadRum · 22/10/2023 22:08

It belongs to him now and is no longer yours to change.
Try and find a documentary or something about a successful person with the name, or an audiobook with a sympathetic character. You can change your response to it.

Sodie · 22/10/2023 22:11

Have you been calling him by this name? I hated my youngest sons name before he was born. I begged H for it not to be that name, but he insisted. It was a ridiculous name, which consister of two first names and two middles which were the surnames of the beatles. Our daughter was two when he was born and called him a nickname the day he was born. He just became that name and after a month nobody called him his birth name. It is quite out there for a name and definitely not a name H would have picked. He is that name though everyone says it suits him, we only changed it officially last year. But everywhere like school, gp he was already that name.
Maybe start introducing a nickname, it doesn't have to be related to his actual name, my sons wasn't.

catbla2957 · 22/10/2023 22:16

Honestly don't be ridiculous. The fact that it took you two months to name the poor child is also ridiculous. No name is going to suit you.

LovedmyRaleighChopper · 22/10/2023 22:18

Lot of made up posts here today 🤣

Iwantmyoldnameback · 22/10/2023 22:18

Respectfully grow up OP.

Sodie · 22/10/2023 22:19

LovedmyRaleighChopper · 22/10/2023 22:18

Lot of made up posts here today 🤣

I wish mine was made up but it's not 😂

Daffodilwoman · 22/10/2023 22:19

I didn’t think any names were that popular now, you can’t be hearing it that much.

Mariposista · 22/10/2023 22:22

I can’t believe that poor little boy was basically without an identity for two months. How the heck do you refer to him? With pronouns? He basically wasn’t a person until a name was practically plucked from the air and now the poor thing is potentially losing his identity again.

lost my respect at the word ‘lol’

catbla2957 · 22/10/2023 22:24

LovedmyRaleighChopper · 22/10/2023 22:18

Lot of made up posts here today 🤣

Sneaking suspicion I know this person in real life. Surely there can't be two of them

motleymop · 22/10/2023 22:25

Mariposista · 22/10/2023 22:22

I can’t believe that poor little boy was basically without an identity for two months. How the heck do you refer to him? With pronouns? He basically wasn’t a person until a name was practically plucked from the air and now the poor thing is potentially losing his identity again.

lost my respect at the word ‘lol’

Without an identity for two months? What?????

AlltheFs · 22/10/2023 22:28

Absolutely batshit, your child doesn’t need a new name but you need some sort of therapy.
Not normal behaviour @rommy36, you have issues.

Meniscus · 22/10/2023 22:30

Mariposista · 22/10/2023 22:22

I can’t believe that poor little boy was basically without an identity for two months. How the heck do you refer to him? With pronouns? He basically wasn’t a person until a name was practically plucked from the air and now the poor thing is potentially losing his identity again.

lost my respect at the word ‘lol’

Oh, don’t be silly. Our baby was t finally named until we were literally on our way to register him — in fact it might have been slightly later than eight weeks, as appointments were scarce. We called him by the nickname we’d used when he was in utero. I don’t think any parent immediately starts calling their newborn Olympia or Nathaniel.

zopgh · 22/10/2023 22:36

@catbla2957 you think you know the OP? Now we absolutely need to know more about this!!

VestaTilley · 22/10/2023 22:38

YABVU. This would be terrible parenting.

He’s a child, not a doll. The poor little boy would be so confused. You cannot do this to your son.

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