Constantly cleaning and the house is still a mess !!

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I'm so fed up. It's literally a constant battle.

How do you manage ?

I have two DC 1 and a half and 3 and a half and of course they make a mess with their toys. Which is annoying. I'm always picking up toys after them. If I don't do it throughout the day, it's completely overwhelming. They do tidy their toys away at night time, but of course I need to help.

The kitchen is my biggest issue really. Just keeping it clutter free and tidy is a constant battle. It feels like Groundhog Day. To stay on top of it I'm pretty much constantly tidying stuff away and cleaning it.

Like today, I'm going to have to clean after breakfast. It's an absolute mess already because my lovely husband is obsessed with giving my children cereal. I never give them cereal as it makes a massive mess. Especially because he gives them stuff like rice crispies and coco pops without milk and they just throw it around. So this is now all over the kitchen. I'm pretty furious. He does it every Saturday. I tend to give them toast and sandwiches and fruit or eggs, never cereal. Especially the little one makes a mess, so I give him stuff that doesn't make a mess, to make my life easier.

But in any case. So now I'll clean after breakfast, then I'll need to clean up the mess after lunch and then again after dinner. In between doing laundry and putting it away etc. every day is the same shit. Thankfully I have cleaners once a week who clean bathrooms and that kind of stuff, but to stay on top of it I still need to hoover every day and wash the floors in between their visits at least once. It's constant and I don't even feel like my house is that clean.

How do people manage without feeling like they're just constantly cleaning ?

@Daphnis156

yeah crack on Op and get cleaning, be a good wifey! How dare you complain??!

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I always sat with my kids for meals and helped them. Talked to them. Leaving them unattended there is a danger of them choking. You can intervene to stop them throwing food around. Just take the plate away. It’s not hard to sweep the floor afterwards. Get a playpen and put their favourite toys in it.

No shame in hiring a cleaner. You're clearly not coping well with the chores. Cleaners aren't the big luxury they're made out to be. Get someone in for a few hours a week to help with the bits you really struggle with, lots of people out there with very good rates, could be 50 quid a week for a few hours work to ease the load.

I feel for you @ZekeZeke
i too have a messy house and am exhausted and depressed by everything.
Some tips from me - coco pops and rice crispies are banned. Shredders, cornflakes even hoops are less messy. If anyone has weetabix, you t immediately in the sink with water on (in an ideal world, people would put it in the dishwasher, but they don’t).
Eat up the fucking table. I don’t mind which table. The tv table, the kitchen table, whatever, just not cereal or lunch on the settee.
Keep wet wipes on the table to deal with mess immediately.
A bin in every room.

These have all helped me.
I know I am shit and should have a better handle
on things, but I am just too tired of it all. Tired of keeping telling them. Tired of nothing changing so I just do little things that make my life a teeny bit easier.