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Putting house into trust to avoid care home fees

226 replies

Winterday1991 · 18/10/2023 07:15

A friend mentioned that her parents had put their property into trust to avoid potential care home fees liability. Is this as simple as she suggests? Would this not be classed as deprivation of assets by the council?

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ExtraOnions · 18/10/2023 18:47

We are going through this atm (as mentioned in the first post). Mum will get the full amount from Social Care, but, they don’t decide the Care Home - we decide it. We might need to pay “top up” which is fine.

Kitkatfiend31 · 18/10/2023 18:58

It also depends on whether you want any say on the care you receive. If you can't pay yourself you won't get a choice. My in laws have both been in care which has used their money from house sale. It has meant they could have care where they want and of the standard they want. Not a bad use if their own money in my opinion.

Mischance · 18/10/2023 19:26

Disabled Facilities Grants re a great idea - you just have to live long enough to come out the other end of the bureaucratic processes!

Mischance · 18/10/2023 19:27

We might need to pay “top up” which is fine. - but sadly no use to those who have no relatives to top up, or who do not have the means to do so, or simply refuse to..

Seymour5 · 18/10/2023 19:35

There are many different housing options for older people. Extra Care housing, independent flats or bungalows, round a central hub where there is support would be my preferred choice. DH and I may need to consider moving in the foreseeable future, we’re both on the wrong side of 70, with some ongoing health problems.

Unfortunately, our home won’t raise enough to buy private retirement housing, and because we are home owners, we are unlikely to qualify for social rented housing. We haven’t the space (or the money) to install a downstairs loo. There are lots of older people who would downsize to the right type of accommodation, if it were available, and affordable. We don’t all own homes worth half a million plus. Research has shown that living in the right kind of housing, with support, reduces the need for many residents to move into care homes. It also reduces hospital bed blocking, where older people can’t be discharged because their homes are unsuitable.

pickledandpuzzled · 18/10/2023 20:04

Would he need a diagnosis of some kind, or would he be assessed informally in consultation with his siblings?

They’ve always just accepted it’s how he is.

When they were visiting MiL in hospital the staff seemed to recognise his limited capacity, just through their own interaction, but there’s nothing official and it’s not obvious. Just becomes evident over time.

sorry for derail, OP, and for picking your brain, @Theeyeballsinthesky !

No one in the family talks about anything, so it’s really hard to plan!

SALWARP2023 · 18/10/2023 20:34

Remember that under the proposed system, it is only the care element that would be capped at £85k. Board and lodgings would still be paid indefinitely or until the money runs out. It is expected the care element would be one third of the fees. Hence a care home costing £1.5 k a month would charge £500 for care and the rest for board. Therefore large bills would still happen.

MereDintofPandiculation · 18/10/2023 20:47

Ginmonkeyagain · 18/10/2023 07:28

Well exactly. Why do some people think they shouldn't pay for services they use?

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Why do some people think they shouldn't pay for drugs and medical services they use?

Ginmonkeyagain · 18/10/2023 21:31

Well mainly because social care is not part of the NHS services whereas medical care and prescription drugs are.

You want to change that and add social care to free at the point of use NHS services I suggest you vote for a party that proposes that along with the stonking great tax rises needed to pay for it.

I am fully suppportive of a big rise in taxes on assets and inheritance to fund such as thing.

WillowCraft · 18/10/2023 21:39

Caterpillarsleftfoot · 18/10/2023 07:58

Because there are other people who didn't have savings or a house or plan for the future who do get their fees covered. That is entirely unfair.

It's also pretty unfair that some people are too poor to have savings or a house. Now those who are rich want to (a) avoid paying for services they are using even though they can afford to and (b) perpetuate inequality by continuing to hoard their money after their death. It's disgustingly greedy.

Oiyouoverthere · 18/10/2023 21:40

Councils rarely pursue deprivations of assets prior to the care being needed. BUT if there's no money for care, then you are at the mercy of what the LA can provide. For a lot of LAs that means being moved out of your local authority and in to a cheaper one - making it harder for family to visit. It also massively restricts the choice you it a loved one has over where and what care they get. The LA also only puts people in care homes when keeping them at home safely costs more than residential care so you may be forced to keep a loved one at home longer that you believe is safe or have them move in to care before you think they want or need it.

WillowCraft · 18/10/2023 21:43

SALWARP2023 · 18/10/2023 20:34

Remember that under the proposed system, it is only the care element that would be capped at £85k. Board and lodgings would still be paid indefinitely or until the money runs out. It is expected the care element would be one third of the fees. Hence a care home costing £1.5 k a month would charge £500 for care and the rest for board. Therefore large bills would still happen.

Care homes cost more like 3k a month surely? £800 a week is a normal amount. That would be offset by state pension and any other pension but still, a lot

PermanentTemporary · 18/10/2023 21:52

Depends where you are. The cheapest care home i know locally is just over £1000 a month and it's frankly horrible. My mum is in a specialist one for compex needs that's £1900 a week. I went to see a possible alternative one that is £1750 a week.

DisquietintheRanks · 18/10/2023 22:11

WillowCraft · 18/10/2023 21:43

Care homes cost more like 3k a month surely? £800 a week is a normal amount. That would be offset by state pension and any other pension but still, a lot

£800 a week is cheap as chips. The cheapest place we saw that I'd have been prepared to send my dad was £1350/week and they had a very long waiting list which he died whilst on (he was on 4 waiting lists when he died).

WillowCraft · 18/10/2023 22:14

Paintballmaker · 18/10/2023 10:41

Are you being deliberately obtuse? I am agreeing with you on most points but you seem to want to generalise. Your attitude is exactly the same as someone saying ‘all people on benefits are scroungers’. No nuance.

Let me break it down for you. These are the expenses of someone working full time with 2 small kids. I’d say 70k just about covers it. How is this a life of luxury? I’d say it pretty much covers basics.

£1200 rent
£200 council tax
£2000 childcare
£250 bills
£50 petrol
£50 car insurance
£300 groceries

So instead of hating the people who earn that, why don’t you go after the successive governments who have put us in this dire situation?

This is my last reply on this as I don’t think it’s fair to hijack this thread.

So you have 2 children under 3 and no partner? Otherwise why is childcare so high? Maybe they are twins I guess
I have to say plenty of people survive on much less. You can probably halve most of those bills if you move somewhere cheaper.
£300 on groceries for 1 adult and 2 babies seems extreme as well.
Our household income is more like 35k for 2 adults, 2 young children, we live within that with no debt, it is possible... We probably spend more on groceries but that is 2 adults and is our one area of luxury really, everything else would be less than half of your costs

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 19/10/2023 09:33

We looked at so many care homes when choosing for both FiL and my mother, and from experience, TBH one thing that I wouldn’t put the slightest reliance on, is smart, ‘Homes and Gardens’ decor. IMO it’s often intended to impress relatives who are choosing. Perhaps especially when dementia is involved, cosy and homely are IMO far more important, and cheerful-looking staff. By the same token, how expensive it is, is not an indication of how good the care is going to be.

And I’d dismiss immediately any that ask you to make an appointment just for an initial look around. Of course it’s only right to ring and ask first, but outside meal times (when staff are particularly busy) any good CH should be happy for you to come and look around at any reasonable time.

porridgecake · 19/10/2023 11:38

A fairly basic care home is £1500 a week here. There are still all the issues around lost glasses, clothes, phones, hearing aids, shoes etc. Not enough staff to help with meals and drinks etc. Anything like chiropody, physio, costs extra. Any hospital appointments need transport organised and paid for by relative and resident has to be accompanied by relative. Very expensive and time consuming if wheelchair is required.
It is a huge shock to the system when you need to find a care home for your mum or dad and you realise that the whole situation becomes a very stressful full time job.

BasiliskStare · 19/10/2023 16:59

I don't think that just because DF or Sm has a house they should b exempt from paying care home fees. I would be interested in how you could do this - if a parent was in hospital Ongoing Care home fees paid for absolutely are harder than hens teeth. DFIL had a house ( worth a very tiny fraction of the £3m mentioned above ) but even though it seemed like he was entitled to a free care home - no ) So house to be sold.

& to be honest I don't disagree with that. Yes he's paid taxes etc , but he had ( some money ) so he goes into the pot with others and until it gets down to the minimum allowed to keep - that's where it goes. people with squllions will just pay the fees. Otherwise - how much would it cost in taxes for those to say - Oh no we're not paying that because we want to save Dad' house for the family.

DSIL an accountant and she would advise again any trust / distribution of money to potentially save on care homes . She also works with HMRC.

I know it sounds like you have paid twice but just be thankful you have the money to choose. I know some people have had lovely Council founded homes - some aren't and I am not in favour of people hiding assets so they / parents don't have to pay - where do you think the money is going to come from to pay for everyone to get free care

OK and breathe

😊

robbmac · 24/06/2024 17:38

Theeyeballsinthesky · 18/10/2023 07:30

That’s normal though, that’s the law. House is disregarded if lived in by spouse or relative over the age of 60

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i think a charge goes on the property until the over 60 dies, then the council collect.. my mum rents a house out and the tenant can stay there but the council charges against the value of the house. They will collect when mum dies. She is in a care home at present the fees are £1005 per week

Velvian · 24/06/2024 21:52

@robbmac, that's not true; if it is the main and only home of a spouse, relative over 60, a carer or a dependent, the home is disregarded from the financial assessment and the person is assessed on income and savings.

The charge on the property is for the deferred payment scheme for the person receiving care when the property is empty, or not occupied by one of the above.

Valeriekat · 25/06/2024 03:37

I am pretty sure that the councils will go after them for the money later and probably win.

robbmac · 25/06/2024 08:10

It's the deferred payment scheme I thought I was referencing ... So do you mean that once the house eventually becomes empty it can be passed to the family via a will or sold .

CandiceBloor · 14/01/2026 10:03

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 18/10/2023 08:43

One thing that’s hardly ever mentioned in this context, is that it can be something of a ‘luxury’ to be able to self fund, rather than being at the mercy of permanently overstretched and under-funded social services.
You can choose the time and the place.

If you’re reliant on SS for funding, they will typically leave it until family members doing their best to care are on their knees with stress and exhaustion. I’m thinking particularly of dementia here, having been through it all twice - with my FiL and my DM (both self funded).

It’s emphatically not a case of thinking ‘It’s probably time for a care home for mum’, and bingo, social services will step in.

I heard of someone who became so desperate, she told SS that if they didn’t do something now, she was going to take her father (with dementia) to A&E and leave him there.
Only then did they step in.

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You are still very reliant on social services if self funding though anyway. They are ultimately responsibility for anyone vulnerable. We are self funders, dad got dementia and eventually my mum could not cope as she was also in her 80s. He was too unwell to know he needed a care home. We had to beg and after being fobbed off and gaslight for years by ss, he was sectioned not once but three times. I even forced them to assess my mother as a carer because it was so unsafe at home. It happened because he ended up being admitted to hospital and was unable to cope even there he was so out of touch with reality and violent. The care home assessed he needed three carers at any one time but social wanted my elderly mum to do it all alone including lifting him and thought that was safe. It was disgusting how we were treated. They are even less interested if you are self funding.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 14/01/2026 10:45

CandiceBloor · 14/01/2026 10:03

You are still very reliant on social services if self funding though anyway. They are ultimately responsibility for anyone vulnerable. We are self funders, dad got dementia and eventually my mum could not cope as she was also in her 80s. He was too unwell to know he needed a care home. We had to beg and after being fobbed off and gaslight for years by ss, he was sectioned not once but three times. I even forced them to assess my mother as a carer because it was so unsafe at home. It happened because he ended up being admitted to hospital and was unable to cope even there he was so out of touch with reality and violent. The care home assessed he needed three carers at any one time but social wanted my elderly mum to do it all alone including lifting him and thought that was safe. It was disgusting how we were treated. They are even less interested if you are self funding.

Obviously it was different in your case - your poor mum and dad! - but I have to say that we never needed to involve SS at all. We knew perfectly well what our DM’s needs were (she had pretty bad dementia by then) and were able to choose a very nice care home and fund it from her own resources.

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