To not enjoy my children together?

[Frostyfields]

I feel really guilty but I have a 3 year old and a 5 month old and the 3 year old goes to nursery for part of the week. The two days I have then both at home are horrendous and I feel so bad about it. I feel such a mixture of guilt and relief when I drop the 3 year old off at nursery. Yet other mums have their children all the time, no break at al, and seem fine: it makes me wonder if I’m particularly bad at this?

You are right in at the deep end at the moment! Toddler and baby is HARD!!!! Don’t feel any guilt whatsoever about toddler going to nursery… will be great for all three of you… toddler gets a bit of independence, baby gets one on one time with you (toddler had this before baby arrived remember!) and you get a bit of a breather… Don’t worry - gets much, much easier! ☺️ Mine are 21 and 19 now… similar gap to you, I found the baby/toddler years hard too, try and enjoy when you can though, it’s all over so quickly (but won’t feel like that now!)

Love this!😂😍

I only have one but my ex had another child with his partner and I know the two bicker a lot. I hear it a lot from friends who have more than one, I don't blame you for liking to spend time with them 1 on 1 it's only natural.

My friend, who used to work in a nursery and is very experienced with children and looking after her grandchildren, will only look after one grandchild at a time. You are definitely NOT bu!

I’m yet to meet the parents who find having 2 easy, especially in the youngests first year! Mine are 3 and 15 months and all I can say is that, for us, it has got easier.

The baby sleeps for longer, learns to walk for themselves and can be more independent. Your less tied to nap times and your eldest will start to get some of the attention they are no doubt craving. They start to play together, to laugh together and you start to see the light

it will get easier, it just takes time 💖