Was this a threat or am I being ridiculous?

[StaceyTweedle]

Have you ever met someone who really scared you to the core?
I think I have, and the bastard has his claws in my sister, who has a history of abusive relationships.

I'll be honest and admit that I had a bad feeling from the start but I can't explain why. After this weekend I can, even if I will sound like a hysterical shrew.

We had a family event and he joined yesterday, and we ended up talking at some stage when we were both outside. Smalltalk, I asked him about work etc when he suddenly said "I usually get what I want, and when I don't get it then I make sure that nobody does" and smiled.

I know that this sounds ridiculous but it really scared me, and I can't think of any reason why he would have said this apart from knowing that I don't like him. Is there something I am missing, any reason why someone would say something like this? I might be overly sensitive because of my sister's background but I honestly can't think of a single good reason why he'd say such a creepy thing.

I agree. If he sees it, imagine the fallout.

I wouldn’t be scared of him just based on that one remark. I’d just think he was a complete cunt. Just because someone’s a bragging dickhead, that alone doesn’t make them dangerous. The most dangerous man I’ve ever met was fairly quiet, outwardly very affable and not at all arrogant or bigheaded. I never saw him behave aggressively in front of anyone but he was horrifically - and I mean terrifyingly - abusive to his partner. She did eventually escape but she has never been the same since.

However, I would be concerned for anyone who has a history of multiple abusive relationships, to be honest, and I do understand why you’re worried for your sister because obviously there’s a context there.

Actually, our parents really like him and think he is great, but they have only met him a few times when he joined for family get togethers. I might say something to them alright. He's friendly and quite charming but there is just always been something "off" with him, but as stated before I can't quite explain it. It might just be me being too wary - not sure.
The last thing I want to do is isolate my sister or to turn her away in any other way.
I hope your daughter is OK now, and I am very sorry to hear what happened to her.