Gave Friend Baby Bundle Clothes - Just seen them for Sale on Facebook?

[TeaTeaCoffee]

Small Rural seaside village, we have a community Facebook group for giving things away for free to Neighbours - when my DD started to grow out of her Baby clothes I would often put them on there in bundles for free. The same Mum would always comment first so I eventually would message her directly once I had a bundle to give away and give them to her automatically. Our DDs have now started Reception (School) together so I see her at Drop off / pick up every day, I wouldn't say we were Friends as such but we always exchange pleasantries.
Scrolling through Facebook this Morning and I see this lady has put a huge bundle of the Clothes I've given her for sale on Marketplace - I wouldn't ever say anything but feel a bit strange about it! AIBU?

@housethatbuiltme Our DDs are the same age, and you're right in saying my DD is much bigger than hers, we're a very tall Family and many clothes would often be too short so I've always sized up.

YANBU

I’ve given kids clothes away to a family who’s oldest was a year younger than my DS after the two were buddied up in Primary school.

If this woman was a nice normal person, she’d have at least bought you a coffee or two to show her appreciation over the years, but you’ve not mentioned her doing anything to show her gratitude.

She sounds like a sneaky CF as she made a beeline for your kids stuff For Free and is now selling it onto make money from it, instead of passing it back to others through the Facebook swap group where she originally got it from.

I can’t stand people like that and I’d ignore her from now on if I were you. She’s a pure chancer.

I would donate clothes to a charity shop or baby bank if you don't like the idea of anyone selling clothes you give them for free.

From the title I initially thought she was selling them on immediately - but I do get why you'd still be miffed about it even after she's used them & presumably her child has outgrown them.
Take them to a charity shop or revert to giving them away on FB (but not to her)

No one ever heard of paying it forward? She could've passed those clothes to someone else in need or a charity but no she sold them for her own financial gain. Op has said she doesn't appear to be financially in need so it's just greedy. Some folk have very shady morals.

I had this with a cousin, I gave her loads of really good quality children’s books in like new condition and felt a bit 🤔 about her selling them on after. If they were given for free I think they should be passed on for free after. It feels wrong to make a profit on something given to you with kindness.

Yanbu. I don't understand this Mumsnet mantra of 'do as you wish'

Personally, I think is something is passed on for free, then the receiver should pass it on for free as well. It's a way of 'paying it forward'

I think with baby things people should pay it forward. I was gifted second hand things so I make sure I also pass things on. I couldn't be someone who just takes but doesn't give back. I would feel a bit funny too because I'd wonder if she was just asking for the freebies to make money, rather than because she needs them.

When I was pregnant my friend gave me loads of her child's clothes. When we no longer need them I will pass them on, wouldn't think of selling them it just seems really cheeky.

When I used to have a lot of rescue animals (I don't anymore, sadly, but that's a whole other thread) I deliberately used to trawl the Freecycle pages on Facebook or Next door for free things, so that I could sell them on Ebay or car boot sales to raise extra money for my animals. Any proceeds always went towards food, enrichment and vet fees.

I’m with you, OP. I wouldn’t sell things that I’d been given for free by somebody. If I no longer needed them I’d offer them freely to someone else. I’d be embarrassed to sell them publicly and have the person who was kind enough to give them to me seeing me try to get money for them, too.

It's naff @TeaTeaCoffee and YANBU.

But if she's so hard up she has to stoop to selling twice-used gifts, then you should feel sorry for her, rather than annoyed.

But never give her anything else in the future.

I give my stuff away to people and hope they sell it on once they've finished with. I would sell it if I could be bothered, but I can't so I just pass stuff on.

It's none of my business once the gift has been given.

I think it's poor form on her part

She should pass them on or to a charity shop imo