To be FURIOUS that I’m cursed with both perimeno AND horrific periods!

[MrsNandortheRelentless]

Come on.

Peri meno symptoms AND flooding every time I laugh, sneeze, cough, sit down, stand up, move and the pain. Dear god the pain.

Yes I’m on HRT, yes I’m probably very anaemic, yes I’m tired because you know, the insomnia & anaemia, yes I’m totally totally miserable.

But after 3 months of no periods (hooray) then I come away for work using a bag I don’t usually use so no sanitary bits & bobs and bang, I’m in pain and gushing.

Its so so so fucking miserable.

I got reprimanded yesterday at work because I forgot a piece of information because I can’t retain bloody information, my head is permanently woolly or just plain empty.

Feeling so rubbish.
When will it be over? Im over 50 by the way!

I had that too. For a good five years. I’ve never been so glad as when menopause actually started and the periods stopped. I was probably 52/3. I still get the odd surprise one, but used to get flooding every month.

Menstruation’s last gasp is utter misery. It’s as if your body decides to give you its worst, all at once.

I'm been having this for a couple of years. GP is utterly useless, I'm 54 but they won't even discuss menopause until I have been 'period free' for at least a year, it's horrendous.

Very similar here too! On HRT so the symptoms have lessened. But periods still regular and heavy.
I have needed to take iron and Vitamin D, plus calcium was low on blood tests. Take a good supplement and definitely iron, if you're veering towards anemia you will feel tired.

You should see a GP about the heavy periods. Have you been scanned for adenomyosis (sp?) or fibroids? That's no way to live!

52 to 57 were the hell years for me.

Then 57 no more periods and now at 59 the brain fog is easing. (Still got sweats, joint and muscle aches)

Felt soooooo hard done by. I know an average age of 51 means some get to menopause later, but 57!

Can you take the Mirena? Life changer for me and stopped my periods

I started getting this in my early 40s. Flooding, anaemic, etc. Got a mirena coil and the periods stopped completely. Now 50 with a new coil and hrt oestrogen gel - no periods and all good! Would you consider a coil?

I hear you, OP. On HRT but still haven’t found the right balance and prior to this went through a patch of such heavy, clotty, painful periods they made childbirth seem pleasant.
It’s just rubbish.
Ladies who have gone through it - please tell us that there is light at the end of the tunnel. Does memory and clarity come back? Energy?

Oh my god you need to move doctor! Why are people still tolerating this in 2023? And complain about your GP, some of them won't learn until they're forced to.

I have used contraception that stopped my periods for 30 years.
I stopped for 3 years in my late 20s to try to have a second child, no ovulation or period arrived.
Underwent infertility investigation to be told there was no way id become pregnant without intervention. We decided not to for personal reasons linked to my health and the likely effect on any pregnancy so resumed contraception to stop the 'will I won't I' roller coaster.
Fast forward to 56, several years of hot flushes, brain fog, general menopausal symptoms so i stop hormonal contraception (with agreement of my doctor).
I now have very heavy unpredictable periods with flooding and discomfort. At almost 58 this doesn't seem fair.

Accupucture has been a total game changer for me, I have it every mi th a few days before my bleed and has reduced it to two light days of bleeding from 6 days of heavy bleed.

54 and more regular than I have ever been! Probably due to the coil I had fitted in 2017- after years of misery with heavy flooding(multiple scans and tests showed no reason for it ) pain, mood swings etc they have become so light its great. Except for this month when suddenly its getting heavy and clotty again

I wish we could have a switch included that would switch the whole process off once we had finished having children - with no side effects!!!

If I find smear tests excruciating, I don’t think I will tolerate insertion of a coil. Unless they have come up with something that offers EFFECTIVE pain relief to insert a coil.

Come to think of it, why the fuck have they never come up with effective pain relief for women for during smears?

I have decided to stay on the pill for as long as they will let me. I don’t get periods really being on it. And off it I flood. So not a chance I will go off now. As I dread to think what would happen. I’m 47.

If someone could help me figure out the fatigue. That would be great.

@MiddleagedBeachbum Can you tell me more/DM, please? That would be game changing, and I like acupuncture anyway.

Have you always found it excruciating or is it recent? If it's recent it's probably vaginal atrophy and you probably need local estrogen as well as your systemic HRT.

As you're having flooding periods, in Ireland you'd probably be offered a hysteroscopy to investigate and that's done under general anaesthetic here as standard. Then they can insert a Mirena at the same time if that's what you wanted and if all looks ok to them in there. You might see if they'll do that for you. The UK seems to slightly barbaric in only offering local anaesthetic generally for hysteroscopies but someone might make an exception for you.

The most successful approach to these symptoms is clean eating, walking 7k steps a day and weight lifting

There is a tablet that lightens your bleeding

If you did the above your life would be much better

If you don’t do it you can ask for HRT but if you don’t want to be given hormones the above will level you out in a way no other thing has worked for me

You can get transemic acid to reduce your periods - a GP can prescribe that

Me too.

I had my Mirena removed at 58.

Fellow sufferer here. Been incapacitated for 4 days again this month as so dizzy due to heavy blood loss and so utterly fatigued. I’ve tried homeopathy which helped massively but I keep hoping I’m done and then the period appears again like clockwork 😫 I’m over 50 and just praying it will be over soon.

I have similar. Adenomyosis, had coil fitted but heavy periods either dislodge it or, more recently, flushed the fucker out completely. Not sure there's any point getting it refitted.

Am so fed up.

Relatable (48).
If it's getting horrific, too horrific to bear, then a trip to the GP might be in order. I am considering this if things continue as they are.

Ah yes, anecdata....