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Is it offensive to say inshallah?

396 replies

Loulou599 · 08/10/2023 12:35

I think it's a really beautiful sound and is more wistful than saying touch wood or god willing, but would it be offensive (if you're not muslim)?

OP posts:
iloveeverykindofcat · 08/10/2023 13:25

My family are Christian Arabs and say it all the time, as do their Muslim friends, to mean yes, no, maybe, probably, hopefully, etc, depending on context. Sometimes I don't think it means anything in particular, it's just a speech marker. None of them are particularly devout though.

Tandora · 08/10/2023 13:26

FatherJackHackettsUnderpantsHamper · 08/10/2023 13:23

It's a bit odd to use a phrase from someone else's religion because you think it sounds nice and is wistful.

Yes. See also 'karma' - which 99% of the time is invoked by people who are very probably not Hindu or Buddhist.

Karma refers to a philosophical principle that has no obvious translation into English though.

Inshallah has a very basic and straightforward translation , it means “god willing”, but Op prefers inshallah because she thinks it sounds “wistful”.

Normalsizedsalad · 08/10/2023 13:26

Gwenhwyfar · 08/10/2023 13:06

Why?

Because it's like names of places (some keep some have slightly changed versions but saying correct one is not weird) . That is the thing's name. There are bunch if dishes which are also not really translatable.

So "I am cooking gulash" is absolutely normal but having conversation with other english speakers and do random stuff like "I was so confused about the decision yesterday so decided to wait until today because rano mudrejsie vecera" is odd. That's how random inshallah would sound from someone with no connection to it speaking to people with no connection to it

TweedTart · 08/10/2023 13:27

Inshallah and Mashallah are both lovely sounds and meanings. I have a (non-Muslim) colleague who uses them with our Muslim colleagues. I slightly inwardly cringe, but none of them seem to take offence.

I’m not in the slightest religious but still say ‘Please God’ and ‘God save us and preserve us’ as expressions. Irish Catholic upbringing and it’s hard to not say things you grew up hearing!

Pollyputhekettleon · 08/10/2023 13:28

Treaclewell · 08/10/2023 13:21

I am aware that some Christians believe that Allah refers to a different person than "God" which is an English word adopted instead of the original Hebrew, but most of the three faiths believe there is only one so the word Allah cannot refer to another deity. Palestiniab Christians use it.
I have a friend who uses DV.(God willling in Latin) Means the same as inshallah, and definitely calls on the same God.
If there a folk who like to think we are all talking of a different deity they are wrong.

Edited

It's not about the literal words people use. Theologically, no, all Christians, Muslims and Jews do not agree that they are worshipping the same god. For fairly obvious reasons if you're familiar with what each religion actually teaches about god and about what the others believe.

therealcookiemonster · 08/10/2023 13:28

@Loulou599 hi OP, as a Muslim I would not be offended.

it's arabic for 'if God Wills', Arabs of all religions use it, so not just restricted to Muslims.

Muslims all over the world also use it.

Justcallmebebes · 08/10/2023 13:28

VineRipened · 08/10/2023 12:44

I would register it as mildly odd because whereas ‘god willing’ can refer to your god, my god, any god, Allah is a specific god.

As an atheist I wouldn’t say it anyway.

Allah and the Christian and Jewish God are the same God

Pollyputhekettleon · 08/10/2023 13:29

You think it sounds wistful because you come from the culture that produced orientalism.

FatherJackHackettsUnderpantsHamper · 08/10/2023 13:29

They certainly don't all agree that they're all worshipping the same God. Very far from it.

Yes, it's the fundamental basis of Christianity that Jesus is the Son of God; yet the Qu'ran states clearly that Allah has begotten none.

I do think it seems quite convenient to a lot of people to reckon that every monotheistic religion must therefore be worshipping the same one God, but there's a lot of potential offence in making that assumption - especially when there are stark stated differences/opposites in the natures of the God who is worshipped.

Gwenhwyfar · 08/10/2023 13:29

"because rano mudrejsie vecera" is odd. That's how random inshallah would sound from someone with no connection to it speaking to people with no connection to it"

I have no idea what your first expression means, but I understand inshallah so it's clearly not as random is it. I presume OP lives in a diverse place, perhaps a city with a Muslim population. In that case, it won't be 'random'.

Mikimoto · 08/10/2023 13:31

User562377 · 08/10/2023 12:50

Don't go around just dropping random words from other languages into your everyday conversation if you don't actually speak the language. It's weird.

I'm Christian, if someone I knew didn't have faith in God I'd find them saying "God willing" or "God bless" or whatever a bit odd. I wouldn't be offended but I don't understand why you would say it.

Following on from @MorrisWallpaper and "Please God", my great aunt used to always say things like "I'll need to go to the butcher's tomorrow if God spares me" or "Let's go out for a cup of tea next Tuesday if God spares me". "If God spares me I'll go into town at the weekend and buy some new shoes"

So I hope you don't use foreign language words such as café, latte, siesta, bungalow, aubergine, robot, orang-utan, etc. etc. etc.
Divvy.

Pollyputhekettleon · 08/10/2023 13:31

Justcallmebebes · 08/10/2023 13:28

Allah and the Christian and Jewish God are the same God

Declaring things to be so doesn't make them so. People disagree about this, to put it politely, have done for millennia now.

OldLadyChinaCup · 08/10/2023 13:33

@Justifiedcheese
eh, yes they do worship the same God! Of course they do. They are called the 3 Abrahamic religions for that very reason.

Their preferred choice on the hows and whys may differ but they certainly worship the same God.

Iinventedmckenzie · 08/10/2023 13:33

I find it really cringey when people who don't really speak French or know the language use random French words like "bon app" 🤢. It's a bit 80s jelly Cooper novel.

(I'm a French speaker and did live in France so don't dislike the language before anyone thinks that. It's purely the oh-so-playful soixante neufs and the like which make me cringe. I'm aware this is probably a me problem)

Pollyputhekettleon · 08/10/2023 13:33

FatherJackHackettsUnderpantsHamper · 08/10/2023 13:29

They certainly don't all agree that they're all worshipping the same God. Very far from it.

Yes, it's the fundamental basis of Christianity that Jesus is the Son of God; yet the Qu'ran states clearly that Allah has begotten none.

I do think it seems quite convenient to a lot of people to reckon that every monotheistic religion must therefore be worshipping the same one God, but there's a lot of potential offence in making that assumption - especially when there are stark stated differences/opposites in the natures of the God who is worshipped.

Not only that but it's basically blasphemy in Islam and Judaism to claim that God could have a son or could be incarnated. People have to pretend it's the same God because of mass immigration and jihadism. It's a politically convenient fiction.

Iinventedmckenzie · 08/10/2023 13:34

Jilly not jelly! And also my post was re the op saying she knows people who randomly use bon app because it sounds nicer.

LoserWinner · 08/10/2023 13:34

Pollyputhekettleon · 08/10/2023 13:19

They certainly don't all agree that they're all worshipping the same God. Very far from it.

Would you like to explain why you think that?

Pollyputhekettleon · 08/10/2023 13:35

OldLadyChinaCup · 08/10/2023 13:33

@Justifiedcheese
eh, yes they do worship the same God! Of course they do. They are called the 3 Abrahamic religions for that very reason.

Their preferred choice on the hows and whys may differ but they certainly worship the same God.

Again, declaring things to be so doesn't make them so. I love how people ignore literally millennia of theological discussion of this. There's no way this level of ignorance is an accidental outcome of 20th and 21st century western education systems.

Purplefriends · 08/10/2023 13:35

Why don't you just say ' God willing?'

Cherrysoup · 08/10/2023 13:35

Loulou599 · 08/10/2023 12:49

@Normalsizedsalad
It's just this I like. Although I do also use "not kosher" (I'm not jewish)

I think that’s been made more or less mainstream and not confined to referencing something not suitable for a Jewish person, tho, whereas inshallah is less so. Definitely a bit odd to be using such a phrase. Strikes me as pretentious, frankly.

Pollyputhekettleon · 08/10/2023 13:35

LoserWinner · 08/10/2023 13:34

Would you like to explain why you think that?

It's hard to know where to begin really. Have you genuinely never come across this discussion before?

Gwenhwyfar · 08/10/2023 13:36

Tandora · 08/10/2023 13:23

The reasons why it might come across as offensive is that people might think you were taking the piss or engaging in cultural appropriation. If you were using it in a context where you had friends/ people around you who regularly use it (being Muslim/ Arab etc) then that would seem normal, but otherwise I think it would come across as out of place/ rather odd and therefore potentially appear offensive.

Edited

And yet no Arabic speaker here has found it offensive.
You can't really play the cultural appropriation card for words and expressions though. Languages have always borrowed from each other and always will.

Normalsizedsalad · 08/10/2023 13:36

Gwenhwyfar · 08/10/2023 13:29

"because rano mudrejsie vecera" is odd. That's how random inshallah would sound from someone with no connection to it speaking to people with no connection to it"

I have no idea what your first expression means, but I understand inshallah so it's clearly not as random is it. I presume OP lives in a diverse place, perhaps a city with a Muslim population. In that case, it won't be 'random'.

Op didn't say where she lives just that she would like to use it instead of touch wood and god willing for it's pretty sound.
If she communicates with arab speakers or muslims, it's different than just random drop into english/non muslims conversations

Treaclewell · 08/10/2023 13:37

Oy Vey!

Muslims believe our God are the same, but Christians have a detail wrong. The writings are about the same religious history, and they respect Jesus (pbuh) as a great prophet. Don't go saying what all Christians believe unless you know all Christians. And what they have read and been taught. That sort of thinking leads to trouble.

Mariposista · 08/10/2023 13:38

I am a practicing Christian but I am also fascinated by other religion’s greetings (even though I don’t use them myself). I particularly love how muslims greet each other with ‘Peace be with you’ in Arabic.
I do always say ‘God Speed’ if someone is traveling.