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Im feeling guilty having a lazy day

26 replies

C1239 · 07/10/2023 12:31

Got hardly any energy after having covid in the last couple of weeks, have been working but feeling absolutely shattered now. I’ve been for a bit of a walk this morning, now relaxing in the garden in the sun but I feel really frustrated not having the energy to go out and about and enjoy the lovely weather. Feel so lazy! Does anyone anyone else feel lazy having quiet weekends?

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ShitMermaid · 07/10/2023 12:31

No. Having a lazy day is great. It’s good for mental health.

BorisIsACuntWaffle · 07/10/2023 12:32

Yabu to feel guilty.

dontforgetme · 07/10/2023 12:32

Hell no. Enjoy it!!

MaryLivingOnDreamsAndCustardCreams · 07/10/2023 12:33

I always ruin lazy days by worrying I should be productive. Then when I'm back at work I stress that I should have relaxed.

Don't do that to yourself! Give yourself permission to have a lazy day and indulge it to the max!

Angelselevenx · 07/10/2023 12:36

@C1239 I always feel guilty having quiet weekends. Today is one of those days, it's the first time I've had a quiet day in weeks, I work full time and usually fill my evenings with things to do. Now my OH is working today and I didn't make any plans bar a dog walk & going to head to the gym shortly.

I am sat here thinking what I can fill my time with 😂

MedievalNun · 07/10/2023 12:38

@C1239 me! I'm currently in my jimjams on the sofa as DH has practically ordered me to have a lazy day, and I keep looking for jobs to do.

Deep down I know that due to my health issues I need to take the breaks but I have real problems actually doing that so if anyone has tips to help me accept it and just go with it, they'll be gratefully accepted.

Original poster
C1239 · 07/10/2023 12:38

What do you tend to do when you relax?! I know it sounds silly but I know having a chilled rest of the day is what I need to try and get some energy back but how is best to relax?! I think it’s worse because of the weather I just feel I should be out and about doing things!

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Original poster
C1239 · 07/10/2023 12:39

@MedievalNun its lovely your DH is encouraging you to rest

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Mrsjayy · 07/10/2023 12:39

Pfft it's pouring of rain here and miserable I went back to bed I'm now drinking tea and watching what we have recorded on tv. Honestly there is far to much emphasis on "being lazy" it's a bit silly you are resting because you have been ill, and it is fine.

suzukili22 · 07/10/2023 12:40

My toddler woke up with a temp this morning so we’ve cancelled all our plans and are having a lazy movie day and I’m actually so glad! I always try to get out and about at weekends but I do value just having nothing to do. We’ve ordered some calpol and snacks on Deliveroo and are vegging on the sofa with Marvel movies.

Lecc · 07/10/2023 12:42

Just relax and enjoy the sun. I'm in Scotland and it is freezing, bucketing down and the roads are flooding!

Sugarfish · 07/10/2023 12:42

Enjoy it! I’m also having a lazy day. The last two weeks for me have been full on at work and my mind and body feel broken. I am catching up on tv and not moving from the sofa. Might have a little doze this afternoon. I’m such a sun worshipper normally, but today the pull of the sofa is stronger than the need to go outside. I’m not myself, it’s how I know I need a rest.

Dentistlakes · 07/10/2023 12:43

Don’t feel guilty op. Rest is very important. If your body is telling you to rest then you must listen to it. It’s a false economy to push yourself unnecessarily and end up burning out. Enjoy kicking back for a while, you’ll be more productive for it.

TheChosenTwo · 07/10/2023 12:45

Oh I’d so love a lazy day today!!
Has been looking forward to an afternoon of telly on the sofa with a snooze and a blanket as dd2 is at work and ds was planning on being out with friends but they’re not around/ill and he was really disappointed so I’ve booked crazy golf for us. I had Covid 6 weeks ago, it hit me hard and still feel crap now. Dh has been laid up on bedrest with ankle issues for 2 weeks so have been running about like a blue arsed fly doing everything for everyone! Was up at 5:45 this morning to wake dd2 before work and then couldn’t get back to sleep. She came home 10 minutes after she left having got her shift time wrong but I was wide awake so took myself off on a long walk early doors and have been doing jobs about the house since I got back, gearing myself up for my afternoon of peace…
So I say embrace the relaxing time and maybe watch an episode of something really crap on my behalf 😂😂

Original poster
C1239 · 07/10/2023 12:45

Thank you everyone 😄, you are all right, I’m going to listen to my body and relax for the rest of the afternoon.

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theduchessofspork · 07/10/2023 12:46

Everyone needs R and R - and you’re enjoying the weather in the comfort of your garden.

Mrsjayy · 07/10/2023 12:47

Lecc · 07/10/2023 12:42

Just relax and enjoy the sun. I'm in Scotland and it is freezing, bucketing down and the roads are flooding!

Isn't it horrible, lots of flooding and im seeing on fb business just closing for the day . Day for the ducks and nothing else 😃

phoenixrosehere · 07/10/2023 12:56

I used to feel guilty then realised it was a product of my upbringing. My dad constantly harped on about us not enjoying the full daylight hours, sleeping in, seemingly being lazy, and not going out. It made me really dislike being asked what did I do today and what are my plans for the day.

I realised DH never had this expectation and had no qualms about having a lazy day so why should I?

pizzaHeart · 07/10/2023 13:04

Teen DD and I are having a more relaxed day than usual. I wouldn’t say it’s 100% lazy as it’s impossible between 2 of us we need to sort out some clothes, do washing, ironing, a bit of shopping and homework . But it’s still lazy in comparison with other days and we don’t have any external things.

DH is having a usual non lazy day 😉

TeenLifeMum · 07/10/2023 13:09

I’m fairly sure dd3 has covid. In exhausted from a busy week so we’re having a lazy day. No guilt here. We’ll walk the dog later but that’s it. I’m still in pjs.

MooFroo · 07/10/2023 13:19

Been on the sofa all morning, don’t need or plan to go out today but will spend a couple of hours cleaning up bedrooms which have been a mess for last few weeks! Will be vacuum sealing summer wardrobes for all of us and putting away
will also get the washing done today and tomorrow and that’s it hopefully!

definitely love having a slow day and don’t care about feeling guilty

Blingstar · 07/10/2023 14:13

@C1239 maybe you should watch Bluezones on Netflix.

Read a book or listen to some podcasts?

AhhSlippedOnMahBeansRitaaa · 07/10/2023 14:27

It's my birthday an my DH is at work, my mum's got the kids for an activity and I've been instructed to relax.

I feel huge guilt and keep thinking about all the areas of the house I should be cleaning/tidying/organising/decluttering and I'll end up wasting my day off.

AndIKnewYouMeantIt · 07/10/2023 14:31

phoenixrosehere · 07/10/2023 12:56

I used to feel guilty then realised it was a product of my upbringing. My dad constantly harped on about us not enjoying the full daylight hours, sleeping in, seemingly being lazy, and not going out. It made me really dislike being asked what did I do today and what are my plans for the day.

I realised DH never had this expectation and had no qualms about having a lazy day so why should I?

I've never understood this mentality at all. My mum and dad worked so weekends were for housework, playing in the garden, watching a film. I'd do nothing Sat and Sun if we didn't have DS. Then I realised my friends who were always banging on re: feeling guilty about not being productive had had parents who did things like marched in and opened the curtains at 7 on weekends, before they announced the whole family was going on a 10-mile bike ride!

Offcom · 07/10/2023 14:33

AhhSlippedOnMahBeansRitaaa · 07/10/2023 14:27

It's my birthday an my DH is at work, my mum's got the kids for an activity and I've been instructed to relax.

I feel huge guilt and keep thinking about all the areas of the house I should be cleaning/tidying/organising/decluttering and I'll end up wasting my day off.

Happy birthday to you! Enjoy your relaxing afternoon