To ask you to slap my face and bring me back to reality after holiday romance

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I feel like I'm 17 again.

Been on holiday. Met a guy and we had a lovely time, said I'd probably be returning next year so hopefully see him again if he's around.

Obviously nothing is going to come of this. We live in different countries, lead different lives etc.

But quite frankly since I've come home I'm obsessed and it's driving me crazy now.
We messaged a few times since I've been home, it's dwindling off and am I'm trying to be cool, calm and collected and not keep messaging him.
Bring me back down to earth please. Why does our mind/hearts do this do us

You’re Shirley Valentine !
enjoy the thrill, it will soon pass.

Turkey?

You're conflating the holiday atmosphere with the romance, it's end-of-holiday blues.

ah well because you want to keep getting the dopamine hit.

Can you stick some nice stuff in the diary so your attention gets drawn elsewhere?

Sounds like fun. Don't expect much from him.

Where is he from? How old are you both? Just curious, no judgement. It's nice to feel 17 again 🤗

What stays on holiday stays on holiday. Please don't tell me you have booked the same hotel? Don't exchange numbers either OP. Tbh I would block him now for your own sake!

Ah I feel for you. Holiday romances are intoxicating. But its usually not just the guy its about... it's exotic, exciting, different, you feel free...
If you are single and have the means to go back and see him then do harm in keeping in touch and having fun. But the feelings will probably fade when you are back to reality in your normal routine.

please don't say it's turkey

Turkey?

Get yourself on some dates here, instead. It'll be a good distraction.

I hope you were careful

It was Greece not Turkey what's the issue with Turkey?! I haven't been there but have considered it!

We are both late 30s, I have actually booked anything for next year, just ifs and maybes

Maybe I'll just day dream for a little longer and then let it go

If he actually lives where you were on holiday OP, he's probably already moved on to the next woman on holiday looking for romance. If that doesn't bring you down to earth, nothing will!

It's very easy to get obsessed over a holiday romance because the holiday aspect means it's totally removed from the realities of everyday life. The person is bound to seem 'perfect' when you've only ever interacted with them in an idyllic, stress-free, work-free, picturesque environment that is all about fun and relaxation and you haven't had time to get bored or discover any major flaws. Essentially, it's not real.

You'll be having both holiday blues plus romance dopamine withdrawal! The best thing is to distract yourself, keep busy and plan some nice things here to look forward to. You had a lovely little interlude, something that will give you a smile whenever you think about it for years to come. Lucky thing! You'll feel blue for a while but overall this was a good experience and a nice thing in your memories.

Get yourself off to the GUM clinic nothing like a probing nurse to bring you back to reality

Out of interest, aren’t you embarrassed to appear openly bitter about another woman having an enjoyable interlude with a man? Especially two people you don’t even know? I’d be mortified.

@MiddleParking well said 👏

@Poppysmom22 awful internalised misogyny you’re showing there

lol turkish men are notorious for holiday romances! especially younger men with older women. They have a new one every week.

Don't think greece is too bad especially if both same age

Not bitter at all its a sensible thing to do

Internalised misogyny??? For making a perfectly sensible suggestion

Sounds like you’re judging OP by your questionable standards then. For most British women in their late thirties there would be nothing in a short term sexual relationship that would necessitate a trip to a GUM clinic.

You lot are so funny.

my holiday romance turned into my husband 😂