to be a bit miffed that when I asked close friends to dinner one of them immediately said....

[Scattybird]

No we can't possibly as X made dinner last night so we have dinner?

You asked them for dinner tonight and they said they already cooked tonights dinner last night, is that right?

Is X one of the close friends?
Or is X perhaps a MIL who, if she's anything like mine, will come for dinner carrying a tureen of stew 'have it tomorrow, give yerself a break gel'
Also, sometimes I might start something off in the slow cooker the day before. Or cook the meat if having cold meat and salad.
Don't think I'd be too miffed.
But I might if I felt a bit excluded by my 'close friends' .

So they don't want to accept your invitation because they already have food prepared for tonight?

I think they are missing the point of a dinner invitation.

They are both extremely close friends, almost family and I asked at 9am in the morning when one of them was on way to work. I was a bit surprised that the fact that the 'dinner was something that could be frozen as they are great freezers and make in advance. They are childless.

wow they're very organised

That's the kind of weird logic my mother would use

But then she was brought up during the war

What I want to know, is are they being a bit rude, or am I being petty. This isn't the first time.

Well if it isn't the first time,I wouldn't be asking again.
I'll pop by instead eh?

I think I would have made up a far better excuse than that. I don't think that they realised that I was extremely annoyed with it. I don't want to go into too much detail as one of them may read this. (probably not, but I am a bit paranoid). Actually f**k it, they are my childrens Godparents.

It may be that they have made something that can't be frozen and don't want to waste. MIL often asks us over lunch and I use that excuse, partly because I don't want to go and because sometimes the meal that I have already prepared might have taken a lot of effort and I don't want to throw it out.

More likely your friend probably just fancied a quiet night in but didn't want to say so. I have a friend who makes me tell lies because if I just say I am tired or want to have a quiet night she refuses to accept that as an excuse (not that I am saying that you are like that of course!).

And yes, they are missing the point of a dinner invitation, it's all about socialising.

My MIL didn't want to come to a barbeque that all her Grandchildren were going to be at because she had dinner in the fridge and it wouldn't keep. "We weren't brought up to waste food you know!"

Maybe they've planned a sordid night together and couldn;t come up with a better excuse on the spot. I mean, it sounds pretty garbled.

Maybe they have a Triv grudge match

That excuse was pitiful though. Far better if they'd just said "Thanks, but we're not really in the mood tonight."

They go to bed at about 8pm every night, fair enough, that's why I invited them early. I just thought that maybe, just maybe I shouldn't judge, but I am beginning to think that they are a bit anti social tbh.

Hecate, thank you for that. I thought it was but under the spotlight, thought I was being a bit funny

An ex colleague of mine (senior manager) was on the shy side. One day he was supposed to be meeting with the CEO from the states and his boss, I know he felt a bit intimidated by this american women and when time for the lunch meeting came he just sat at his desk and pretended to forget about the meeting, our boss came storming into the office reminding him that he was supposed to be across the road in the restaurant, I watched him squirm for a bit and he obviously just couldn't think of an excuse so he came out with "I cant make lunch because my wife has already made my sandwiches and she will be upset if I waste them"!

They go to bed at 8 and are childless?? Unless they are ttc, that is weird behaviour. Or do they work on a milk round?

Yes it is odd, any chance that they are ttc and she is ovulating?

lol @ milk round

I'm with ll really. it's short notice, they've already cooked. I wouldn;t be remotely offended. If I issue an invite with that short notice I consider it a bit of a long shot that the recipient will be able to make it.