To go away for six days....

[hubarbspong]

Dw and I are expecting our first child (21 weeks) and both very excited about it. Dw has always said how supportive and helpful I have been, have taken on far more of the general cleaning and have always done the cooking anyway.
I am a member of a bike club and we have our annual social event in Fort william, (we live in London).
Dw has insisted I go, and she will go to her mums for the week. Initially I agreed, but am now getting a bit of cold feet, event is at end of May, we are due in July.

Am I bonkers to go?, need some feminine perspective

No that sounds fine
It is ages before the due date
Why is she going to her Mum's?
Has she already given up work?

Seems fine to me! She wouldn't have said if she wasn't happy about it.

Just check nearer the time that she is well etc; her mum will look after her anyway!

Nah, you'll be fine as long as there have been no other problems (eg high blood pressure or bleeding or anything that might stop you from travelling far). Take your notes with you (sensible precaution in any travel during pregnancy) and have fun.

That sounds fine to me, due date is a long way off, not as if it is a week before.

Out of interest, why is she going to her mum's?

I think it's fine. But will you be able to enjoy it if you're worrying?

Sorry- replace "you" with "she" throughout my nonsensical response.

This comes under the heading of things you really should do while you still can. Go and enjoy!!

Dh went away for a week when I was pregnant with our first. I missed him but was fine (and he was in Scotland while I was in London too).

I think you should go and be happy she is encouraging you to go! sounds like you are very aware of her needs which is fab. Plus you won;t get to go again for a while....

You'd be bonkers not to go! Enjoy it while you can that's what I say.

my hubby went a way ( for work, boring) for 8 days when I was preg with dd2 and I was delighted!

I would go - if the wife is ok with it then I think it will be fine. We're not all raving mad you know

Wow, quick responses....

No problems at all yet, we had thought about her going to her mums for extra support / company.
She's still working, and plans to be up until end of June, though she may have to move from her current clinical area.

It just feels that I'm being negligent and a bit selfish.

Oh, dear God, go! She'll probably enjoy a wee break anyway.

Agree with beansprout, go while you can,might not be so easy next year

Sounds fine - and also like she's giving you some time to yourself before baby arrives. Have fun and call her often (and bring nice pressie back!)

oooh yes agree with present buying!

Hands up who wants to marry hubarbspong!

[ show of hands for thinking Harpspong is a dude ] Don't necessarily want to marry you, but you sound lovely.

I think it will be fine. If you want to be extra cautious, make sure she's got a couple of mobile nos for friends who will be with you - Highlands of Scotland can be dodgy for reception some times, so it's handy to have the option of a couple of networks to contact.

I wish more men were this thoughtful!

I think as your DW's happy with it, and you've a fair way to go before your baby's due you should go, and enjoy it!

Bless you! My DP is going away to France skiing at the end of March (we are due with our first DC in early June) and he is similarly worried. I have told him to go and enjoy himself now while he still can.

Go, go go!

Blimey. DH changed jobs and moved to the other end of the country for 3 months before ds was born. 6 days seems pretty small beer to me

Wow...you are very considerate..probably the reason she does not mind you going. I would go now, because when that baby comes, she will need you there more than ever.