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Original poster

asking my friend whos supposed to be coming down for the weekend NOT to bring her dog?

72 replies

nailpolish · 06/03/2008 09:23

i dont like dogs. i really really dont. its bad enough visiting people who have a dog, i just try to ignore the dog, but i will not have a dog in my house. no way. and my friend who is coming for a weekend wants to bring her dog. why cant she laeve it at home with her husband? because he goes out and gets pished up and then sleeps all day with a hangover and the dog wont get walked she says...

now shes in huff cos i said i dont want that dog in my house (its not even a nice dog)

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DoubleBluff · 06/03/2008 09:48

YANBU.
She is.

Oliveoil · 06/03/2008 09:48

tell her to feck off

YANBU

Troutpout · 06/03/2008 09:50

yanbu

flowerybeanbag · 06/03/2008 09:52

yanbu, wouldn't even occur to me to take my (well-behaved, well-trained) dog to someone's house, other than family who expect him.

pukkapatch · 06/03/2008 09:57

i would never ever ever let anyones pets into my house. and would be really really upset at having been put in the position where i had to make such a choice.
actually, that would upset me more than the enimal.

Original poster
nailpolish · 06/03/2008 10:01

great! everyone has agreed with me. am v relieved.

thanks every one

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alarkaspree · 06/03/2008 10:02

She sounds really inconsiderate and I would be having second thoughts about inviting her, let alone the dog.

Original poster
nailpolish · 06/03/2008 10:04

everyone is on my back and teling me to "chill out" even dh and he knows how much i detest dogs

but ummmmmmmmmmm there is somehting else.

the reason i asked her to come down for the weekend si to take her shopping/for a glass of wine or 2 becaus she has just had her 3rd unsuccessful ivf. and she is v upset and needs a friend

feel bad now. i should be more there for her dh says - dog or no dog

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dizzydixies · 06/03/2008 10:06

and yes you should, you ARE being a good friend but

a. you have a cat
b. you do not like dogs
c. the dog is not well trained
d. it shat on your daughters bed!?!!????

did DH clean up the poop/ is he prepared to take responsibility for it while its in the house - no no no - let HER dh be responsible for it as his way of supporting her through this hard time rather than being a lazy sod and farking off down the pub

AngharadGoldenhand · 06/03/2008 10:08

The thing is, if she brings her dog, you'll probably be on edge all weekend and may not be able to support her as much as you'd like.

Threadworm · 06/03/2008 10:09

I wouldn't put someone in a difficult position by even asking if I could bring my dog to their house. I'd assume the answer would be 'no'.

SheherazadetheGoat · 06/03/2008 10:10

actually re. the ivf thing i possibly would relent! but you are still nbu.

WanderingTrolley · 06/03/2008 10:12

Ah.

I was just about to post 'I have never heard of someone in more need of having a baby in my life. She thinks the dog is her child. Tell her to stay home with her dh and get impregnated.'

Obv I don't think that now....

Your poor friend. She's having a shite time, but that doesn't absolve her from considering anyone else's feelings.

Fido stays home. Your house, your cat, your dd's pony bed, your rules.

Original poster
nailpolish · 06/03/2008 10:12

why cant she just leave it with her dh? hes an adult ffs surely he can take responsibility for a dog

tje dog that snatched a chelsea bun oout of my dd2 little hand

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Original poster
nailpolish · 06/03/2008 10:13

so true, wanderingtrolley

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dizzydixies · 06/03/2008 10:16

ok, she we've agreed the dog cannot come
we also agree that your friend needs you and is having a shite time

so, now we have to develop method of telling dfriend to leave 'poopy' at home without causing her any further upset?

tell her wee one is allergic/frightened
blame it on dh?

anyone?!?

fedupwasherwoman · 06/03/2008 10:16

This thread has me wondering....

Is there a verb "to shit" and if so is the past tense "shat" ?

Original poster
nailpolish · 06/03/2008 10:18

i just said to her on the phone that last time (yes she has been before with dog, evne after the shite incident) the cat was terrrified and wouldnt come downstairs, therefore didnt eat or go outside. also, because my dh is away this weekend, we wouldnt be able to go out, leaving the cat and dog alone. thats when she offered to shut my cat in a bedroom all day

she hung up

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MMooMar · 06/03/2008 10:18

Shes supposed to be your mate and a good one at that if shes meant to be stopping for the weekend so whys she in a huff with you cos you dont want her to bring an untrained dog to your house.
I dont take my dog when I go for weekends at friends homes,bad enough having to take the kids.If parents/inlaws/kennels cant have him we dont go ....simple! even though he`s trained.Friends love him when they come to mine but they know he will be here and have a choice to come but I stll wouldnt take him to their homes.
She is the one being unreasonable...tell her to take a hike and take the dog with her.

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nailpolish · 06/03/2008 10:19

so i said the reason was the cat. i thought that was best. blame the cat.

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SheherazadetheGoat · 06/03/2008 10:20

you probably wouldn't want me round your hosue . there iss a good chance imight snatch a bun out of somebody's hand!

dizzydixies · 06/03/2008 10:20

well in that case SIBU not you. its probably because of all the stress but even so , she should surely realise that her dog is not well behaved, obviously not used to being around kids and she shouldn't expect you to accept it with open arms

fedup I think unfortunately it is, I HATE that word though its horrible lol

Original poster
nailpolish · 06/03/2008 10:21

i phoned her back and she said she might not come, but instead get her hair done or somehting
thats when dh had a go at me to "chill out"

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Bluestocking · 06/03/2008 10:21

Why does she want to have a baby with a man she can't trust to look after a dog?

dizzydixies · 06/03/2008 10:22

pay for her hair do as a treat - less stress for you

well said bluestocking