MIL never invites me to anything

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SarahLKelp · 30/09/2023 16:06

I get on fairly well with MIL, DH and I have been married for 10 years and have one DS who is five. DS is MIL's only grandchild.

My AIBU is that whenever MIL arranges an event (birthday meal etc) me and DS are never invited, only DH. DH is an only child so usually it's MIL, her sister and DH.

I find it more annoying that she doesn't include her grandson than me to be honest! AIBU?

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jolaylasofia · 30/09/2023 18:53

it's not a family event!!! it's just a meal out with her sister and son. for heavens sake why do people make such an issue?? she probably doesn't want to have a big spectacle and just keeps it low key with her closest family members.

CassieRole · 30/09/2023 18:53

My MiL is like this, her family are her two sons. I make a point of taking the children to a restaurant every time she fails to invite us 😁 any excuse not to cook 😆

jolaylasofia · 30/09/2023 18:55

saraclara · 30/09/2023 18:33

If this was an event with half a dozen plus family members, I'd think it odd. But a meal for MIL with just her sister and her son is fine. I actively encouraged my DH to spend time with his mum on his own. Not because I didn't like her, but quite the opposite. I loved her dearly, but because she loved a distance away, I realised that under normal circumstances she never had him to herself. And I imagined that when my kids married, I'd like to, at least sometimes, just get to chat without their partners.

I'm a MIL to sons in law. While my birthday is usually celebrated at my.home, so both my DDs as Sons in law (if they're free) come along, there are quite a few occasions where I have meals out with just my daughters.

I was thinking of having an afternoon tea somewhere for my next birthday, and assumed it'd just be me and the DDs.

This! am sure lots of ladies go out with their mum and don't take husbands with them...what is the difference?

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