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Dating someone with NPD

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TheSlowRush · 29/09/2023 20:35

This is a more of WWYD. And not looking for judgements

Been on two dates with a guy and have slept with him, used recreational drugs, which in my line of work would be a sackable offence.

Has come to my attention that he has severe NPD and in the past has been a “public figure” and been incredibly vindictive when called out on his behaviour publicly, to tie point of putting someone’s life at risk.

I don’t want to see him again, and left this morning when he was unkind to me and then Googled and was a bit shocked. He video messaged me later saying he “forgives” me for leaving.

How do I end this safely? Do I block him at risk of him contacting my employer (re drug use )or as he has NPD am I irrelevant small fry to him?

Text him telling him to fuck off (incredibly nicely).

Not contact him and let it cool off naturally?

TIA

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Wouldyouguess · 30/09/2023 08:32

Does he know where you work OP?

chipsandpeas · 30/09/2023 08:34

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Starlightstarbright2 · 30/09/2023 08:38

You have been on 2 dates with a man - took drugs and slept with him ..

follow the advice given but why would you put yourself in such a vulnerable position with someone you don’t know.. especially if you could lose your job ?

GonnaGetGoingReturns · 30/09/2023 08:45

Starlightstarbright2 · 30/09/2023 08:38

You have been on 2 dates with a man - took drugs and slept with him ..

follow the advice given but why would you put yourself in such a vulnerable position with someone you don’t know.. especially if you could lose your job ?

But OP says no judgment?! If you’re on LTS I’d think even more reason not to do anything silly either to affect your health etc but also your job.

TheSlowRush · 30/09/2023 11:27

Thanks for all the supportive replies.

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