Im an adult and my mum slapped me.

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Twice in a year this has happened now. She has anger issues and blows things out of proportion and it results in her slapping me in the face. She’s had stuff going on and worries in her life but I don’t think it excuses this behaviour and taking things out on me. Then she tried to hug me straight after but she never says sorry or she will try to make herself the victim and won’t acknowledge what she’s done. The first time it happened she said the slap wasn’t even hard but I had a red mark and my cheek was stinging. I’ve had enough, just feeling sad as I have absolutely no support.

I’m sorry love. This is abuse, it is not normal. As soon as you can, leave the situation and move out.

Take Photos and tell her that if she doesn’t immediately book herself into anger management/counselling, then you will report her to the police.

Your mother needs a really fucking hard lesson in reality. Call the police RIGHT NOW and have her arrested. Do not stand for this.

Definitely report her to the police. This is unacceptable.

She has assaulted you and you are the victim of domestic violence. I’m sorry this is happening to you.

The last time my mother 'slapped ' me (belted me across the tops of my legs and backside) I was ten years old, I turned around and told her if she did it again she needed to expect it back (I was very large for my age) and she didn't touch me again.
If you can muster the courage tell her that was the last time or she will be getting a taste of her own medicine.
Personally I wouldn't be able to stop myself from slapping her back but other people react differently.

She doesn’t have an anger management issue - I’m presuming she doesn’t going around slapping anyone else or she’d be in prison - no, she saves that just for you.

She manages to control herself the rest of the time.

She is abusive.

Absolutely not on. Hope you can move out.
My dad hit me when I was about that age and still at home. Never apologised. I've never forgotten it. That was in the 90s though! I think I'd report him if now, but easy to say thst.

I hope you're OK op.

My mother slapped me in the face when I was pregnant at 18.
I'm 29 now and moved out for good very soon after having my child.
I know she would easily slap me now if we got into an argument. We get on better now living apart, but we can't live together. I hope you can find somewhere to live. Are there any agencies that could help you find somewhere?

This is domestic abuse and she is behaving like a classic abuser: lashing out, making herself the victim and refusing to take responsibility for her actions.

Keep a record of her unacceptable behaviour (not just the violence) and while I don’t believe it’s a good idea to “hit her back twice as hard”
for your own sake, don’t be afraid to call the police the second things start to escalate if you think she might assault you.

I really hope you find somewhere else to live asap and when you do, put distance between you and her. Don’t let her manipulate you the way she is now.

You have to put some distance between you, either move out or try not to be in the same room at all. My mum was very big on slapping until I slapped her back in the face as a preteen, it's easier to be brave at that age than an adult weirdly. She looked shocked and never slapped me again, i would highly recommend if you can.

If you do t live with her . Slap her back . Hard . She's a bully and she won't do it again . You let her know if she does you won't be around .

This might sound extreme, but could you speak to someone at your local Women's Aid, or even the council, and explain what's been happening? They won't force you to press charges or anything, but they might be able to help support you in finding somewhere else to live - it might just be a room somewhere (hotel or hostel) but it will start the process of you getting away. Failing that, do you have the funds to rent somewhere yourself? You really do need to get away. I am sorry you are going through this, but it's not your fault and you shouldn't have to accept this from her.

I would tell her if she ever touches you again you will call the police. Move out as soon as possible and go NC. She's an abuser.

This is completely unacceptable and is abuse.

Do you work OP? If so, i’d look for a room to rent. Google spareroom.com (i used it to find my flatshare).

In the meantime if she does it again, advise her that you will be contacting the police.

I slapped my Mother back when she slapped me at 17. My sister went through my Dad when he did similar at the same age.

Neither ever touched me again.

The last time my mother slapped me around the face as an adult, I slapped her back. Her jaw nearly hit the floor! Never happened again.

Can’t believe people saying ‘slap her back’.

Don’t lower yourself to her level. But do tell her you’ll report her to the police if she does it again. I’d be trying to limit contact with her too. She sounds vile.

No, no no! This is wrong. Tell your mother off and threaten her with telling everyone about it if she does it again. Move out if you can. Your mother is crazy.

You either slap her back or you tell her that the next time she assaults you, you'll be reporting her to Police.

No one has the right to hit another person. She knows she is wrong and doesn't care.

The last time my mother hit and punched me I was 38 and have had nothing to do with her in over 20 years. She tried to make out she didn't but my face was bruised. I reported her to the gardai.

She approached me after 10 years when we were at a funeral and I didn't entertain her, she knows if she approaches me again I'll be reporting her to the gardai though like all bullies she's a coward and avoids me like the plague if we're at the same venue including a sister's house.

One thing I did do after she last hit me was tell as many neighbours and friends so that spread like wildfire in a rural area. Most of her neighbours have no time for her and only tolerated her when my Dad was alive.

But she keeps slapping the Op so simple telling isn't doing the trick . Sometimes biullys need a taste of their own medicine to make them stop . Op probably won't involve the police because it's her mother.

How easy do you think it is to "just move out"?

I quote my mother ad verbatim (as she increased the intensity of the slaps): ‘ How dare you move away when I am trying to slap you?!’ The older generations do seem to think it’s their divine right