Tell me it isn't normal for men to leave skidmarks in the loo for women to clean?

[thefuckingdisrespect]

I can't quite believe I'm writing this, but I'm kind of freaked out that this happened.

Staying with friends recently. My friend's partner several times left shit marks down the loo - as in, when I used the bathroom later on, they were still there. My poor friend cleaned the loo at some point later that day on those occasions, I certainly was not going to.

Is this 'normal' for want of a better word? Do men really do this?

My partner is a woman. My male relatives do not do this. My grandpa used to do this and expect my grandma to clean it, he saw cleaning as women's work.

It seems really disrespectful to anyone else in the house if somebody does this? I can't believe a guy in his 40's thinks this is ok - surely it is unusual?

Sounds like OP is trying make it a man thing. Weird.

Nothing to do with men. None of the males in my family do this. The women's toilets at work are another thing... disgusting sometimes.

My sd (then aged 19) used to block the loo-and walk off

Someone else would come in,do what was needed then flush it

The shitty water would rise and they'd have to deal with it-it was getting to the point of just about every night

She just didn't get that if she blocked it,she should deal with it-we had the lies,the screaming,the stomping off-the lot

She threw more than one tantrum over this-and started leaving skid marks/dirty loo paper for either me or her dad to deal with

(dad is soft and did-im evil and made her do it-cue more tantrums and screaming in my face)

Problem was solved when she threw one tantrum too many and found herself moving out

Not had any issues since-dp wouldn't dream of leaving a mess for me to deal with

I firmly believe if you make the mess,you should clean it up

I spent years teaching my lot (girls and boys) the same thing-im told it did sink in now they have their own places

Sounds like OP is trying make it a man thing. Weird.

Well, he was one man in a house with three women, and he was the only one to leave the loo in a mess.

I have never ever come across women in their own homes or friends homes who have left the loo like this.

But yes, of course, sometimes I've happened upon a gross public toilet for sure. So it's not that women never do this.

Yes it's normal in my life. Yet another reason why I'm divorcing. I agree with pp though, he doesn't care about it and since I do, I get the joy of cleaning it. Same with snotty tissues left lying about, or rubbish, etc.

I could forgive the odd occasion where someone’s been in a rush and forgotten to check before leaving the bathroom but generally I wouldn’t expect anybody to leave a mess in the toilet for someone else to deal with.

I’d be pointing it out and asking the perpetrator to clean up after themselves if it was a daily occurrence.

Urgh.

Having spent time in Asia I got into their habit of cleaning the toilet after I use it. It takes seconds.

(interested how the famously loo-brush-less mnetters get rid of marksl

I don't see skid marks in the toilet as anything to worry about. It's not on the part you sit on and they really don't bother me. People not opening the window after opening their bowels and leaving the room smelly annoys me more. Skid marks clean themselves after a couple of flushes and no manky loo brush

I have a loo brush! Though mostly I don't need to use it. It is possible to open the window and leave the bowl clean. In fact, it is the bare minimum.

I use toilet paper to wipe the bowl and then flush it.

Exactly what I was thinking. Flush loo wash hands and not realising there are marks

I agree with this. I think people who leave it just thinks it washes off after a few flushes so no need to actively clean it.

but skid marks are often just before the bend under the water line. What do you do with those?

If they are still there after flushing I still use toilet paper, the water is clean and you're washing your hands anyway.

I lived in three different houses with guys in college- yes, normal, but it wasn’t always the girls who cleaned it up. As someone said they’re not expecting women to do it, they just leave it there. Worse was when they did clean and the loo brush sat there covered in poo. (Hence the reason I’m one of the people on mn who detest brushes!!)

This

DH doesn't necessarily expect me to clean it for him, he does sometimes need reminding to clean the toilet though

WOW some people on here say toilet brush is "manky" but sticking your hand into the bowl and wiping the poo off with your bare hands is ok! crazy .

(I have a loo brush so this doesn't apply to me)

I would, at a push, do that for my own mess. I will under no circs do that for anyone else's shit stains. They will get hoiked into the loo sharpish to disappear them.

Tell him you scrubbed them off with his toothbrush.

I mean it's in the toilet, not like you are eating off it? Provided the toilet gets cleaned once every so often (by both parties) what's a mark or two in it. Pearl clutching or what.

My ex used to do this!!! Absolutely disgusting 🤢

It's not just men but it's rank. No you don't sit on skid marks that are in the bowl but it's still not something people should leave for someone else to clean! MN is weird about toilet brushes, but there are plenty of options that are hygienic now. I left an ex over his poor hygiene, leaving a dirty toilet was one of his grim habits, ew. Also never seen women's toilets that messy bar at 3am in a nightclub. Not denying they exist but again, ew.

Just get them to do it in tissue and chuck it out the window. Or was that an earlier thread? Confused.

I still feel slightly terrible for having a go at a house guest once that left shit all over the toilet. I read it as some weird dirty protest at the time. And couldn't quite believe it outside of a public toilet.

And as for public toilets, I'm sure I've seen everything. Even turds in the corner of the cubicle as if there was some weird anti-turd force field being emitted from the toilet. And even the walls of the cubicle being completely covered.

I think some people get off on it.

Genuine question: how would you feel if you went to the loo and someone had left skid marks in it? Wouldn't it bother you? Because it would make me heave tbh. Also poo doesn't always flush so if you don't check you could leave the next person with that delight!

The other thing I hate is when you go to the loo after someone grimy has left something that doesn't disappear after you have been. Then you have to clean someone else's shit off the loo so no-one thinks it's you! Urrrggghh.