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Is this just hormones or am I right to be angry

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Lauryn95 · 28/09/2023 11:31

Partner had a random girl I've never heard of post a picture of him with nothing but multiple love hearts as the caption, it was a selfie he's pretty close like arm round her she's got her hands on his chest she's doing a pouty face they're faces are touching and the comments go on to say, This was so fun I got too drunk we'll have to do it again etc ,Anyway I said who is that and he said oh someone I don't really know ,Its my friends wife from a gig a couple years back ,I was confused cause he said this gig at the time he went to was just him and his brother ,I questioned why if he barely knows her why is she posting that and he said he doesn't know ,Anyway I'm really angry but I'm 8 months pregnant and I don't know if it's the hormones or what ,He's adamant I'm being stupid as it's one of his friends wives but I said if she's someone you barely know what's with the hearts and why is she randomly now putting it on your Facebook and why are you saying oh we should do this again, if you don't know her why is she even on your Facebook etc also looking back through posts this woman is always love heart reacting things he posts ,I find it really strange behaviour and inappropriate because the picture looks like they're really close like the kind of picture you take with your spouse not a stranger and also he told me it was him and his brother not him and his friends wives going to this gig ,I'm upset aswell because I wanted to go and he said it was just him and his brother ,what would you do ? Is it normal now to add your husbands friends that you don't know and start love reacting to everything and share selfie together with hearts when you only met supposedly one time years back ,Am I an idiot? would you assume there's something more to this or am I being an irrational hormonal jealous beast

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Bellaboo01 · 28/09/2023 16:09

Screwballs · 28/09/2023 16:04

But. Why.

Why is this the OW's problem? If we're going down a path of her not knowing about OP/OH lying to her about the relationship, then why are you snarking at her? Honestly, its juvenile. You got an OH problem, not a OW problem, bloody well take it up with him rather than plastering your dirty laundry on social media.

FYI - I have no OW problem or OH problem and i'm not plastering my dirty laundry on social media!

It isnt the OW's problem at all.

If it is an innocent picture then surely why can't the OP post a comment/like any pic of her H (for example)?

Screwballs · 28/09/2023 16:11

Bellaboo01 · 28/09/2023 16:09

FYI - I have no OW problem or OH problem and i'm not plastering my dirty laundry on social media!

It isnt the OW's problem at all.

If it is an innocent picture then surely why can't the OP post a comment/like any pic of her H (for example)?

Because it absolutely looks petty and insecure, she may as well cock her leg and pee on him to mark her territory. Its making me cringe just thinking about it.

I was using the royal "you". You are not OP.

Bellaboo01 · 28/09/2023 16:15

Screwballs · 28/09/2023 16:11

Because it absolutely looks petty and insecure, she may as well cock her leg and pee on him to mark her territory. Its making me cringe just thinking about it.

I was using the royal "you". You are not OP.

But, it HAS made the OP feel insecure so why should she have to hide that?

Screwballs · 28/09/2023 16:18

Bellaboo01 · 28/09/2023 16:15

But, it HAS made the OP feel insecure so why should she have to hide that?

I get insecure about my cellulite, I dont need to go around taking it out on people.

Bellaboo01 · 28/09/2023 16:20

Screwballs · 28/09/2023 16:18

I get insecure about my cellulite, I dont need to go around taking it out on people.

Errrrrrmmmm - ok!!!

Not sure you get the point here!

INeedAnotherName · 28/09/2023 16:22

Screwballs · 28/09/2023 16:18

I get insecure about my cellulite, I dont need to go around taking it out on people.

That's a lot of whataboutery going on there, it's ridiculous.

Screwballs · 28/09/2023 16:23

Bellaboo01 · 28/09/2023 16:20

Errrrrrmmmm - ok!!!

Not sure you get the point here!

I do get the point. OP is worried her partner is lying to her. For some reason you thinks that's cause to be airing your dirty laundry on social media to the other woman rather than having a frank discussion with the person she is having a child with, who she either believes or does not believe.

Its not difficult. We do not need to be projecting this on to someone else.

Screwballs · 28/09/2023 16:24

INeedAnotherName · 28/09/2023 16:22

That's a lot of whataboutery going on there, it's ridiculous.

It was a flippant comment. You cant surely think that PP's suggestion of being a knob on social media is the way forward.

INeedAnotherName · 28/09/2023 16:27

You cant surely think that PP's suggestion of being a knob on social media is the way forward.

Pot, kettle, black...

Cookiedough123 · 28/09/2023 16:33

I think some women can do weird things like this to make their spouse jealous. Like you said it’s an innocent picture, it was taken 2 years ago. I have a friend who posts weird things on social media when she’s fallen out with her boyfriend to try and make him jealous and piss him off. Some women are odd.

Bellaboo01 · 28/09/2023 16:33

INeedAnotherName · 28/09/2023 16:27

You cant surely think that PP's suggestion of being a knob on social media is the way forward.

Pot, kettle, black...

100% this - Ha Ha :)

Cookiedough123 · 28/09/2023 16:34

KookyAndSpooky · 28/09/2023 12:17

Is your DH good-looking? My guess is that she's a nutty type that had a fight with her DH and she's shared this photo to wind him up. Maybe he 'likes' random girls photos on social or he's been chatting to a girl online. Who knows. She probably went through all her old photos and dug out one to post. If you know your DH hasn't seen her in a long while then I wouldn't be that concerned.

It's all guesswork. We don't know these people either.

I agree with this and I absolutely wouldn’t message her!

OuiRagamuffin · 28/09/2023 16:51

This relationship is going to be exhausting. I'd focus on yrslf and baby and get back to work ASAP. Don be financially dependent on this guy.

Hedgehogdetective · 28/09/2023 17:34

Maybe I’m dumb but how do you know the photo was taken two years ago and not recently?

Screwballs · 28/09/2023 17:36

INeedAnotherName · 28/09/2023 16:27

You cant surely think that PP's suggestion of being a knob on social media is the way forward.

Pot, kettle, black...

Since when is this social media?! And your input is super helpful. Go pot kettle yourself off elsewhere.

Screwballs · 28/09/2023 17:37

Bellaboo01 · 28/09/2023 16:33

100% this - Ha Ha :)

Teehee, you are both just so amusing.

Louise303 · 28/09/2023 17:46

If he only met her for a few minutes how come they are Facebook friends it just seems odd that he suggested they do it again.

MariePaperRoses · 28/09/2023 17:58

An adult woman adding hearts to a photo of her videoed up to a married man who isn't her husband is sending out a message or a sign.

To whom and why is something you and I don't know at this stage.

If she's so chummy with him and it's platonic the normal thing would be to befriend you. She hasn't.

MariePaperRoses · 28/09/2023 17:58

Videoed means cosied up to ^

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