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Colleague posting inappropriate things on SM

95 replies

JanS17 · 27/09/2023 21:09

My (male) colleague has been posting things on social media essentially slagging off our (female) manager. Manager doesn’t have SM, but other colleagues are also friends with him and will be able to see what he’s posting.

Would I be unreasonable to report it to my manager, or should I keep my nose out and leave it alone?

OP posts:
EpitomeofEpiphany · 27/09/2023 21:11

What might the consequences be to you if you reported it?

StrictlyAFemaleFemale · 27/09/2023 21:14

Has he named his place of work on his profile? If so that's usually misconduct.

Original poster
JanS17 · 27/09/2023 21:21

No he’s not named his place of work on the SM account.

I guess he would be pissed off if he knew I reported him but I can’t think of any other consequences?

OP posts:
EpitomeofEpiphany · 27/09/2023 21:31

I'm leaning towards reporting.
Could you be seen as a trouble maker?
Is there anything in your contracts about use of SM?

BranchGold · 27/09/2023 21:33

What’s the nature of the slagging off?

missmollygreen · 27/09/2023 21:43

Does he name the manager?

ILikeItWhatIsIt · 27/09/2023 21:43

Unfriend him on social media and keep your nose out

Ffsmakeitstop · 27/09/2023 21:45

Report the rude twat.

Startingagainandagain · 27/09/2023 21:50

Frankly I would keep your nose out of it.

Unless they are naming the company and the individual and/or making threats, I have no problems with people moaning about work in general online.

It does not affect you in any way so I am not quite sure why you are so interested in this...

determinedtomakethiswork · 27/09/2023 22:03

I would stand up for your female manager and tell her. I would ask her not to say that I was the one who had reported it, but I would definitely tell her. I believe in women sticking together with things like this.

Primproperpenny · 27/09/2023 22:05

Screenshot and send from
an anonymous email account?

Ponoka7 · 27/09/2023 22:09

What's your SM policy? Sometimes it is a condition that insults are reported. At the very least unfriend him. If it's a general rant, then I wouldn't get involved.

Glorifried · 27/09/2023 22:12

Yes, I would report that. It's shitty, nasty behaviour.

DiddyHeck · 27/09/2023 22:12

'Essentially slagging her off' in what way?

In a sexual/misogynistic way?

melj1213 · 27/09/2023 22:15

Depends on a lot of factors for me.

Is his SM locked down (ie only friends can see it) or is it fully public so anyone could stumble upon what he has posted even if they're not friends? If it's the former then I would leave it alone as I think everyone has the right to use their own private social media to let off a bit of steam.

Additionally did he identify his workplace and/or the manager personally? There's a massive difference between ,"I fucking hate working at Aldi on Mondays, especially when Sarah is the Manager on duty because she's such a lazy bitch" and "FFS why do I always come into a mountain of work on Mondays when certain people are on shift? Pure laziness!" If it's the former then that is unprofessional (and if his profile is public then he should have no expectation of privacy) and he should expect to be pulled up on it as anyone could see it but if it's private and he's being vague then I think you need to leave it alone.

RichPetunia · 28/09/2023 06:00

Don't do anything. Maybe he just doesn't like her? Maybe she is hard to work with? I'd stay out of it and leave well alone.
Report and you'll alienate yourself.

Somewhereovertherainbowweighapie · 28/09/2023 06:06

Screenshot and print and leave it on the relevant persons desk.

GoodOldEmmaNess · 28/09/2023 06:16

Do you have a social media policy? If so, and the guy appears to be in breach of it, you could report that there is problem (without initially naming him) to whoever deals with compliance with the policy. Then they could decide whether they needed his name or could take some other action first - such as reminding the entire worforce that they would be in breach of their SM policy if their posts risk repuational harm (etc) to the business. Breach of the SM policy may lead to disciplinary action etc.

I certainly wouldn't feel comfortable doing nothing about his horrible behaviour, and by taking this step-by-step approach it may be possible to avoid being in the difficult position of having to name a colleague

Brefugee · 28/09/2023 06:17

Chech your company SM policy and act accordingly.

Sack him off YOUR SM?

KandieKaine · 28/09/2023 06:19

This is why I have two separate accounts on SM one for family and friends and one for work colleagues. My SM account for family is locked right down . I'm extremely careful what i post on SM account for work colleagues . I would stay out of it OP it's not worth the fall out .

Littlepinkstarsbyradish · 28/09/2023 06:29

I echo an earlier post - if his profile is private and he isn’t identifying the company or the person in question, remove him from your feed and don’t follow up

he sounds like a dick, I imagine others feel the same but he’s not technically doing anything wrong in professional capacity

if it’s open and/or identifiable I’d report it anonymously

BodegaSushi · 28/09/2023 06:40

ILikeItWhatIsIt · 27/09/2023 21:43

Unfriend him on social media and keep your nose out

This.

AmandasFleckerl · 28/09/2023 06:41

Speak to him about it. Say that you would hate it if someone reported him and although he should be able to post whatever he likes maybe he should keep work offline.

ambitchious · 28/09/2023 06:58

KandieKaine · 28/09/2023 06:19

This is why I have two separate accounts on SM one for family and friends and one for work colleagues. My SM account for family is locked right down . I'm extremely careful what i post on SM account for work colleagues . I would stay out of it OP it's not worth the fall out .

You are very naive if you think having a locked account helps. Anything out there is out there.

Doingmybest12 · 28/09/2023 07:06

AmandasFleckerl · 28/09/2023 06:41

Speak to him about it. Say that you would hate it if someone reported him and although he should be able to post whatever he likes maybe he should keep work offline.

I agree with this approach and hope he realises he overstepped.