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Milk incident

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Sparklystarx · 27/09/2023 15:56

My DGD (4) was given milk today by school. They know that she is Lacoste intolerant and this can make her very poorly but she was given it and drank it. I think school didn’t take it serious and seemed to laugh it if as a joke and just an accident but it can be very bad for my DGD. What would you do?

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Sparklystarx · 27/09/2023 15:57

She has also had milk allergy since she was a baby.

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TidyDancer · 27/09/2023 15:58

What actually happened? Do you know how she ended up with it? This would affect what I would do about it.

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Sparklystarx · 27/09/2023 15:59

I think there is a scheme in school up till Y2 and all the children are given a small bottle of milk. They do know she is allergic/intolerant to milk

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Lookingforasilverlining · 27/09/2023 16:00

Look up the complaints procedure on the school website. I would probably make a formal complain to the head teacher via email or letter. Use the phrase formal complaint and ask a) how this happened and b) what they will do to prevent it happening in future.

Newuser75 · 27/09/2023 16:01

A similar thing happened to my son who is also allergic to milk. I emailed the school with a list of things he could not eat and asked them to update their records accordingly so it didn't happen again.

MrsSkylerWhite · 27/09/2023 16:03

Unacceptable. Complain (in writing).
Shouldn’t have to, but can you provide school with a labelled, milk substitute for her? I would for peace of mind.

Anyway, certainly, and politely, make a fuss that will be remembered.

Backtoreality1 · 27/09/2023 16:51

Was she ill? Did she react?

MrsTerryPratchett · 27/09/2023 16:52

Do you have care of your DGD? Was this all first hand or through your DC?

MrsSkylerWhite · 27/09/2023 16:54

Backtoreality1 · Today 16:51
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Was she ill? Did she react?”

Irrelevant. Shouldn’t have happened.

tennine · 27/09/2023 16:55

What usually happens with your DGD when they kids are getting their milk?

dcsp · 27/09/2023 16:56

I would say that a school's recording of accidents and near-misses shouldn't just include things where a child got cut/bruised/etc - so I would ask to see the record in their accident and near-miss register. This should include detail of how it happened and what steps they will take to avoid a recurrence.

Atticustheaardvark · 27/09/2023 17:31

How did you find out this had happened - and what usually happens at milk time? Does she not have it at all or is she given an alternative by the school?

Definitely would re-issue the school with a list of things she can't have and ask them to confirm in writing that they have recorded it on their class list.

Hope she's ok!

countvoncount · 27/09/2023 17:45

So how was she afterwards?

Mseddy · 27/09/2023 18:14

Not to be pedantic, but is your DGD lactose intolerant? Or allergic to milk as in milk protein? They are two different things. They don't change the scenario here, but if incorrectly told to the school they may think she can have lactose free products when actually it's not the lactose that is the issue if she is allergic to the protein. I only ask because generally babies are not lactose intolerant at all but do have cows milk protein allergy and you mentioned that DGD was allergic since birth.

Either way the school shouldn't have allowed that to happen and it probably should be investigated properly rather than shrugged off by them. My DD has cows milk protein allergy alongside other allergies and she did accidentally steal another child's breakfast at nursery with cows milk on it. Nursery rang and apologies profusely, did some staff education and also changed her care plan so that she was always served first to prevent her trying to steal others food. The school need to look into why they failed to cater to DGDs allergy

ColleenDonaghy · 27/09/2023 18:21

That is completely unacceptable - other children being given an allergen could put them in an ambulance. It's not even as if they missed a hidden ingredient. It's very serious and I would speak to the head.

Also, while it's not DGC's fault at all, she needs to be taught to question anything that looks like milk, an unfamiliar yoghurt etc.

ColleenDonaghy · 27/09/2023 18:22

countvoncount · 27/09/2023 17:45

So how was she afterwards?

Irrelevant.

BrawnWild · 27/09/2023 18:22

You have to opt in to that scheme.

rachelvbwho · 27/09/2023 18:23

Ugh we had this! They gave my lactose intolerant daughter milk.... she was sick (obviously)... then they said she had to stay home from school for 48 hours because she could be infectious.

They wouldn't listen to the reasoning that she wasn't ill or infectious... she was sick because THEY GAVE HER MILK!!

Tulipvase · 27/09/2023 18:27

It’s unfortunate and I’m sure the staff are sorry. But a one off?, I’d just mention it to the teacher.

We have 2 milk free children in our class, one brings her own alternative, the other doesn’t but is pretty good at saying that he can’t have milk.

towriteyoumustlive · 27/09/2023 18:27

Sparklystarx · 27/09/2023 15:56

My DGD (4) was given milk today by school. They know that she is Lacoste intolerant and this can make her very poorly but she was given it and drank it. I think school didn’t take it serious and seemed to laugh it if as a joke and just an accident but it can be very bad for my DGD. What would you do?

If you genuinely think the school gave her milk as a joke then you don't send the child in again, find another school and report them to Ofsted.

I find it rather hard to believe that a school would deliberately give a lactose intolerant child milk. By accident perhaps...

Also, at 4 years old most kids understand when they can't have something. Have they not been taught this?? (A friends son has a celery allergy and knows what it is and not to eat it!)

Thementalloadisreal · 27/09/2023 18:29

BrawnWild · 27/09/2023 18:22

You have to opt in to that scheme.

Only after age 5. Before that it’s provided for all.

Thementalloadisreal · 27/09/2023 18:31

Speak to the head teacher. It’s not acceptable.
The teachers and LSAs should be fully aware of allergies.
My child’s friend is allergic to dairy and in EYFS was even given the space on the carpet furthest away from the milk table to be extra safe.

Thisismynewusername1 · 27/09/2023 18:34

What does your daughter/son say?

surely it’s they’re child so they should be the ones writing complaints etc, not you.

do you have parental responsibility or residency?

if not, leave it to the child’s parents.

Dramatic · 27/09/2023 18:34

How do you know they gave her diary milk? Did she tell you or did they tell you?

countvoncount · 28/09/2023 13:56

@ColleenDonaghy of course it's relevant!!!