People's reaction when I tell them morning sickness is still going on

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31 weeks.

Their response is a variation of "I've never known anyone to have it this long".

I'm taking it as a personal insult and I don't know if I should.

I've been sick that I've only been able to wash my hair once every other week a male though I needed to build my strength...

My mums reaction wasn't "poor you, is there anything I can do". Was just "you've still got it, Christ I've not known anyone to have it as long as you have".

Not sure if I'm being sensitive or pregnancy hormones etc.

Why is it an insult? It just sounds like an observation. Unless they raise an eyebrow when they say it and actually mean “are you making this up?”.

Feels that's what they are saying.

Most mothers have said "oh that's not nice" or "yes mine lasted as "long".

It seems a lot of people I've had to tell them that morning sickness can last as long as it lasts. Most people seem to think it stops by end of first trimester.

Poor you, that's utterly miserable to have it that long. I think people just say something for the sake of saying something sometimes.

I had it right through all my pregnancies. I truly feel for you OP. However, unless you’ve been through it, I don’t think people will understand.

Do you know what you’re having, OP? I have a theory. I was still getting sick with one of mine the day they were born and I was 2 week’s overdue.

Poor you. I also think that people's experiences of morning sickness are very different. Some women e.g. have the urge to throw up come on them very quickly and then feel better. They don't necessarily understand how utterly miserable it is to feel nauseous 24/7 for months on end. So when they think of morning sickness they are thinking of their experience and find it hard to put it together with what you are describing. Hugs to you - you are nearly there and it will all be worth it in the end.

I hear you. I think there's a lot of people out there that don't understand. Probably including myself before I had kids. My first baby pregnancy was fine and I didn't suffer but 2nd was awful and I had nausea with vomiting daily which went on for months. I struggled to cope mentally with it. Thankfully I wasn't working.

Yes I'm having a baby lol.

Do you mean sex. Yes boy,

I had it for 9 months with my first! I vomited multiple times a day until about 25w and then it lessened to about once or twice a day until I had him. And I felt sick constantly. Only cure was childbirth. Luckily my mum sympathised as she was the same - she threw up even all through labour and blames me (her first and worst for sickness) for destroying her teeth! My next two pregnancies weren't as bad as I mostly stopped vomiting around the second trimester and just felt queasy a lot, with the odd puke here and there. Solidarity!

Oh how absolutely rotten for you. You must be totally fed up.

I don't know why people feel the need to make comments like that. I had awful hyperemesis and every other idiot felt the need to recommend ginger biscuit or tell me how they were sick too "but they managed to work through it".

It's rubbish to feel ill with no reprieve. Worse when you feel disbelieved.

People don't get it. They think it only happens in the morning and stops after trimester. I had hg throughout. But don't be angry at their ignorance.

It's horrible I feel for you.

I had it like you- until I gave birth. I did take a medication that made it slightly better.

I know what you're going through. No one can understand and people say stupid stuff all the time.

Whenever someone gets sick, I always have to remind them that's how I felt for 9 months, twice.

All the best. I took ondensatron ( probably spelled that wrong )..

Mine lasted right up until bloody birth! I was vomiting two weeks before I found out I was pregnant and then at least 3 times a week for 39 weeks…

I’m surprised by the reaction you had tbh. But as someone above me has said, perhaps it was just so they had something to say. I work in a 90% male workplace and when I had to run off be to sick every bloody day, everyone was sympathetic and said pregnancy seemed bloody hard, and they hoped I was ok.

I wouldn’t take it as a personal insult that’s for sure. Just say “yep, it can last an entire pregnancy” and move on. Ignore anyone who seems to be implying you are making it up. What a weird thing to make up.

As a side note, I did mention to my midwife I was being very sick and she kept a close eye on it. It was never debilitating enough to be HG, but she had a Dr review me who said it was close to HG and they provided some extra support and medication. Mention it if you’re concerned!

good luck 😊

I was still being sick during and after labour. People reactions were mostly 'i think you're pulling a sicky' or 'my sister/daughter etc had this, it's awful isn't it'.

It's bloody awful and I hope you find something that works.

Ginger biscuits don't even contain ginger lol

Thanks. No medication has agreed with me :(

I feel for you. I had HG throughout all 3 pregnancies. So 9 months times 3 of being told it'll pass or 'oh you still feel unwell '

It's shit. But it's probably useful because it prepares you for a lifetime of being told how you should parent your children.

Your body and your kids aren't yours. And everyone will tell you so.

Fuck em all!

What's the cut of for the diagnosis and why does it matter?

Just try to ignore everyone. I had terrible sickness with dc2. I was sick every day, it was absolutely awful. In the end it was so bad that I was vomiting blood because there was so much damage to my oesophagus. Oh and my pelvic floor was shot so I’d also wee myself at the same time. It was horrendous. There were loads of times when I’d have to sit on the toilet and be sick in a bowl. Unless someone has been through 9 months if this they’ll struggle to understand how debilitating it is. The only saving grace is that it will end.

Go to a and e, they should do blood tests?

Yep during my third (medicated) pregnancy it was actually the midwife that said she didn’t think it lasted this long (I was 5 months at the time) it really pissed me off because it made me feel like I was weird and not doing pregnancy right (for the third time)

Just here with sympathy.

I was miserable but thankfully it turned around for me at 20 weeks. But it was all day every day until then. The only time I wasn’t sick was if I was asleep. (I also chose to do that 3 times as I convinced myself it couldn’t ever be as bad again… wrong!).

I had morning sickness (for all three pregnancies) from about 4 days before I could test for pregnancy, until about 2 hours after birth. Sorry!

In the medication front, different medicines worked at different stages for me. Plus, you have to be militant about taking them - if you need to take one every 8 hours then you need to set an alarm, and wake up to take it...

Have you need drips yet? If you can't keep liquids down, you could well need one.

I lost two stone during my last pregnancy.

People are just pass remarkable in pregnancy in general. I got the same and it was frustrating because you're so aware it hasn't stopped yet but it's not an insult so I'd try to let it wash over you.

You can get anti nausea tablets from the gp. I tried the sea sickness wrist bands- they did nothing. I also tried ginger everything etc but tbh the only thing that actually helped me was sleep. If I was tired and didn't get enough sleep the sickness was noticeably worse.