People's reaction when I tell them morning sickness is still going on

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31 weeks.

Their response is a variation of "I've never known anyone to have it this long".

I'm taking it as a personal insult and I don't know if I should.

I've been sick that I've only been able to wash my hair once every other week a male though I needed to build my strength...

My mums reaction wasn't "poor you, is there anything I can do". Was just "you've still got it, Christ I've not known anyone to have it as long as you have".

Not sure if I'm being sensitive or pregnancy hormones etc.

Is it not hyperemesis gravidarum (hg)? I had it all the way too it was awful and developed a fear of vomiting in subsequent pregnancies.

OP I think the comments from the people around you are really unkind and unhelpful. I'm not surprised you're miffed. Surely those people expressing surprise at least remember Kate Middleton who suffered with hypermesis through all her pregnancies?

I had hypermesis with my first and "just" three months of sickness with my second. Anyone who dismissed pregnancy sickness in front of me got short shrift from me and a technical lecture about the subject. Perhaps you can cut the comments of with something along the lines of...

"Do you know what would really help?" And then give them something useful to do. Even if it's giving you a basin to puke in.

That’s so horrible for you Op. I really feel for you. I can remember how really horrible it was.

I didn’t have proper full on morning sickness all the way through - lasted til about 12 and 16 weeks respectively- but with dc1 I definitely felt a bit off colour throughout. Didn’t get my sense of taste back properly or move away from horrible aversions.

Some women have terrible hg for the whole pregnancy- how do people not know this?!

With dc2 I had horrible morning sickness in the early stages and really wasn’t very well. My Mum, who’s never had sickness in her pregnancies, came down to try to help, cook a meal for me and dc1 etc. I told her that the smell of onions cooking really set me off, but she clearly didn’t believe me, and thought “oh just a bit of onion will be ok surely, I can’t possibly cook a meal without ANY onions” - I was literally hanging out of the window of my bedroom trying to get away from the awful puke making smell!

I still remember attending my bil's wedding and great-grandma saying to me "you must eat you know, for the baby" as I left the table to go and throw up for the tenth time that day.

She was a lovely person really but she didn't understand and I had to spend the next hour or so throwing up in our room while imaging stabbing her multiple times.

I would have only had one due to the sheer horrendousness of the vomiting but it turned out to be twins.

Oh yes and “have you tried ginger biscuits?” Made me murderous!

I sympathise OP. Like many other women on this thread, I also vomited throughout my entire pregnancy. Every bastard day. Throughout the day, randomly. I was carrying twins, and I always attributed it to this! I gave birth prematurely at 32 weeks and although that was awful as the DC had to have a stay in SCBU for about 6 weeks, at least the bloody vomiting stopped!

I can remember during my pregnancy pretty much the only food I could stomach was (Heinz) tomato soup, and (weirdly!) tinned peaches in syrup! I could only face drinking lemonade. Very late on in my pregnancy I managed to eat sausage rolls. I had such a restricted diet and with this and the vomiting, after I gave birth, I was the slimmest I have ever been in my life!

The vomiting is bad enough, but oh god, the nausea! That was the worst. It just was fucking constant. Never knowing if the nausea was going to tip over into another bout of vomiting, or if it was just nausea. I used to carry a waste paper basket around the office to meetings etc just in case I couldn't get to the bathroom in time!

And yes, the bloody suggestions to "have a ginger biscuit". Or thrusting crystallised ginger in my face. I HATE ginger at the best of times, and having the stinky fucking stuff put right under your nose when you're about to hurl is not what you need.

Solidarity to anyone going through this now. Women are absolute bloody warriors.

I really do think this is justifiable grounds for violence.

I jest.

Sort of.

OP you asked about diagnosis - my gp tested my urine and arranged admission to the antenatal ward straightaway as I had ketones of 3+. The hospital wouldn't discharge me until I showed no ketones - it took 3 days on a drip!

You have my sympathy. Mine stopped two weeks post delivery. It is blissful when you get there. All the best.

Ditto! First pregnancy , sick daily until I gave birth. Second pregnancy just queasy until week 18ish. Hang in there op, I know it's rotten x

I was horrifically sick ( 5-6 times daily for entire pregnancy ) with my singleton and much better with my twins. So weird. Agree about ginger biscuits; just made my puke gingery and burnt my throat 😭

Poor you. I had it with my 3 girls - pretty much all the way through - and there is NOTHING worse

I totally empathise - I was even sick the day before my son was born, it was rotten, however, it did stop once he arrived! It was better with the next pregnancy which was a huge relief.