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To order children’s meals when out

86 replies

Babymaybe1 · 26/09/2023 11:04

sometimes when I go out I order of the children’s menu when the food is the same as the adults. I find the portion size for adults food can be way to big for me. I’m a normal size 12 and eat reasonably healthy. It’s not something I do everywhere as some
places can be stingy on portions or don’t allow it. Before now I’ve asked for smaller portions of say a pasta and Been happy to pay the same just hate wasting food. If it’s like pizza I know I can easily take the leftovers home and my partner will eat them. Also the calories can be huge in a meal.

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ZebrasLoveLions · 26/09/2023 12:05

VesperLynne · 26/09/2023 11:26

But they'll charge you the full price, irrespective. Jamie Oliver's "15" charged £8 just for beans on toast.

No, not necessarily.

I always order the children’s meals because the adult portions are too big. I’ve never been charged the adult price.

Andrea87 · 26/09/2023 12:16

If I am going straight home and can put this into a fridge soon after, I often take food home and have the rest the following day.
I find that restaurants are quite happy to put it into a container for me, although I might start bringing my own.

littlripper · 26/09/2023 12:17

Our local cafe does children's meal at a lower profit margin to help parents and entice them in. It's fine not to serve kids meals to adults. She's had to add a note to the menu after loads of abuse.
It's like those people who ask for a cup of hot water and get their own tea bag out - just stay at home if you can't afford it or have 'such a tiny appetite and hate waste'.

littlripper · 26/09/2023 12:19

VesperLynne · 26/09/2023 11:26

But they'll charge you the full price, irrespective. Jamie Oliver's "15" charged £8 just for beans on toast.

£8 to sit in the restaurant being served - not for the food alone.

Look how many restaurants/cafe are shutting atm - the attitude to what is should cost is so ignorant

ImCamembertTheBigCheese · 26/09/2023 12:20

I voted YABU as children's menu are for kids. Anyway they are usually beans and fish fingers etc. If main courses are too big for you, order a starter.

TheLightProgramme · 26/09/2023 12:22

Eat what you like. The portions of things like fish and chips in pubs i agree can be huge, the kids ones are fine.

However i find you get a poor choice if going only from the kids menu.

FormerlyPathologicallyHappy · 26/09/2023 12:24

GalileoHumpkins · 26/09/2023 11:12

If the dining establishment allows it then you do you. Personally I couldn't eat a whole children's meal <tinkly laugh>

Well I had a crisp last Thursday that’ll keep me going till Michaelmas & I’m a size 32 😃

But seriously my nephew does this but was bought up on frozen sausage roll, potato waffles and garlic bread. It’s a nightmare for his partner to find places they can both eat as she enjoys food. He doesn’t like it either but after a childhood on beige food he finds it difficult to adapt.

YellowRibbon710 · 26/09/2023 12:31

Can you not just take it away and have it for lunch the next day? I do that all the time but then my teenager usually demolishes any leftovers before I have the chance.

ZebrasLoveLions · 26/09/2023 12:39

ImCamembertTheBigCheese · 26/09/2023 12:20

I voted YABU as children's menu are for kids. Anyway they are usually beans and fish fingers etc. If main courses are too big for you, order a starter.

Nope. I won’t be ordering starters. They are usually only one type of food, they’re not a meal with various options on the plate.

Isheabastard · 26/09/2023 12:42

Im older and I have no worries about ordering off the children’s menu, having appetisers instead of mains or even asking for a doggy bag.

I hate the idea of contributing to the waste food mountain.

ImCamembertTheBigCheese · 26/09/2023 12:46

ZebrasLoveLions · 26/09/2023 12:39

Nope. I won’t be ordering starters. They are usually only one type of food, they’re not a meal with various options on the plate.

I didn't suggest you did, my comment was for the OP.

teenysaladandsniffofarose · 26/09/2023 12:47

I sometimes do this I'm not starving hungry and the kids menu has some decent choices but some restaurants have an age limit.

JustAMinutePleass · 26/09/2023 12:48

If you don’t have the confidence to ask them to box leftovers you shouldn’t really be eating out.

FatherJackHackettsUnderpantsHamper · 26/09/2023 13:00

As PPs have said, children's meals are usually loss-leaders, or at least profit-neutral.

Restaurants don't want adults not to come to their business on account of it being too expensive to have to pay for the kids as well - especially as a lot of adults will then have a glass or two of wine, coffees etc. that carry a much higher profit margin.

Many children are also fussy or ambivalent to the treat of a meal out, so parents are also very reluctant to pay a lot for a plate that may just be pushed around and left anyway. That's maybe one reason why many places say no children's meals for children over 12: because they not only eat a lot more by that age, but are usually less picky and value the experience of a meal out more.

From a restaurant's pov, an adult wanting to buy a child's meal for themselves, as they have a small appetite, is a bit like an adult wanting to pay half price on the bus, because they're only 4'10" and a size 6.

I wonder if this is partly a symptom of people frequenting restaurants more routinely than they used to. If a meal out is a special treat, a lot of people will 'save themselves' and only eat a very small amount beforehand, so they can push the boat out and/or ask for a doggy bag at the end; whereas if you eat out on a regular basis, you would probably only be eating the same amount as you would at home and not see it as special.

Loving the plastic frog plate! I can see how mortifying it would be as an adult to have your meal brought on one of those, with some crayons and a Billy Bear colouring activity sheet Grin I wonder if this is partly deliberate, actually, to deter adults from ordering kids' meals, if they know they'll be brought out in an embarrassing way.

bodypumper · 26/09/2023 13:04

Having had bariatric surgery I do this or have a starter as a main

Fallingthroughclouds · 26/09/2023 13:07

I'd do this all the time if our local businesses allowed it. Mainly to enjoy the experience of eating out whilst keeping it affordable. There is usually something on there that I'd enjoy. Date night or out with friend I'd usually just get whatever I wanted though. It all about the dynamic.

Crustyjuggler92 · 26/09/2023 13:11

I did it recently because the kids gluten free option was a 800 calorie cheesy pasta plus sides and the adults was a 300 calorie salad and I was too hungry for a salad! Felt a bit bad when I realised I'd got the kids eat for £1 offer (there were 5 adults and 2 kids) but hey ho! I did ask if they could do it for adults but apparently not.

Sparklesocks · 26/09/2023 13:12

A lot of places near me have an age limit on the kids menu so it wouldn’t be possible, but if the restaurant doesn’t mind then I don’t see how it’s anyone else’s business what you eat. Personally eating out is a big treat for me, so I want to get something nice that I wouldn’t typically eat at home - kids menu items wouldn’t really do that for me.

NoGNoDNoClue · 26/09/2023 13:13

This thread is great.

Op clearly states that she orders from the child's menu when it has the same food as the adults - and people are immediately thinking she's eating chicken nuggets and fish fingers 😂😂

Op, yanbu. I've ordered from the kids menu at my local chippy. The portion is a sensible size for one, plus you get juice and a lollipop..Score! 😁

FatherJackHackettsUnderpantsHamper · 26/09/2023 13:15

I think that one big problem is that, if businesses were to routinely offer much smaller portions to adults (I know they often do for pensioners, but that's a specific demographic who often have less money but can come at less busy times), people would be screaming "Rip off!" if they didn't charge much lower prices and slating them across all the review sites.

The cost of the food is actually only a very small proportion of the total cost to the restaurant. Them giving you half as much food may only cost them 5% less in overheads, but imagine the outrage if they only charged you 5% less for it than for a full-sized meal.

BloodandGlitter · 26/09/2023 13:16

JustAMinutePleass · 26/09/2023 12:48

If you don’t have the confidence to ask them to box leftovers you shouldn’t really be eating out.

So since I suffer with anxiety I shouldn't really be eating out? What about a person with autism who is trying eating out for the first time and has difficulty speaking to the sever? Your ableism is showing.

Sunshinenrain · 26/09/2023 13:17

I would prefer to order off the child’s menu and used to all of the time.

I calorie count/watch my portion sizes and it means I can still eat out without having a huge portion which is often more than my daily calorie limit.

I also get bad trapped wind and bloat and certain foods make it worse and so instead of just not having them, I like to order a smaller portion of them.

But I’ve not even bothered asking for child’s portions anymore because I’m always told I’m not allowed them.

The Childs portion is way cheaper and so this is the only reason they don’t allow it.

LOliver123 · 26/09/2023 13:18

I know some restaurants don’t like it , hence might even state children’s menu for under 12 etc …

Ivegotsunshineinabag · 26/09/2023 13:19

Oh, do you also roast a chicken and feed 14 on it? Does it last for 7 meals?

I do love a tinkly laugh.

FWIW I don’t give a fuck what anyone else eats, as long as you don’t cast judgement on what I eat.

NoGNoDNoClue · 26/09/2023 13:20

BloodandGlitter · 26/09/2023 13:16

So since I suffer with anxiety I shouldn't really be eating out? What about a person with autism who is trying eating out for the first time and has difficulty speaking to the sever? Your ableism is showing.

Well said @BloodandGlitter - my aspie daughter didn't even have the confidence to place her own order. How is she supposed to get that confidence without going out, seeing it being done, and building herself up to it?

FWIW, now, ten years later - she'll go anywhere and happily order, ask for her leftovers to be boxed up, make a complaint if she needs to - it just took her a bit longer than others to get there.