He’s just had a go at me for “not trusting him” honestly pathetic

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Am I wrong here?

Something as small as going to McDonald’s at the airport has caused an argument. He wanted to get a coffee with his happy meal but he couldn’t get one. Out of the corner of my eye I thought I saw small print at the bottom that said you could change your drink, so I said “oh hang on let me just have a look”.

He got moody because he’d “clearly already looked” and I didn’t just trust him. He said he’s not stupid and that he’d already checked. I said I was just trying to help. He said I didn’t need to because he’d already thoroughly looked and “I’d only seen the screen from the corner of my eye”.

He’s now expecting me to say sorry and I said it was pathetic. He also said “it’s common sense, course you couldn’t add caffeine to a kids meal” so he’s basically saying I was stupid for checking.

He’s giving me the silent treatment expecting me to apologise and said it’s pathetic it got to this point because I should’ve just said “sorry” or “I know you’ve looked so it doesn’t matter”.

What even is this? Am I in the wrong?

Do you do this ... a lot? Check up on him, I mean? Could something this trivial actually be the last straw making itself felt?

Why are you with him? He sounds like a child and acts like one as well. Tell him to get lost and go enjoy yourself without him.

Did he get a Transformer or a Strawberry Shortcake?

Did you call him pathetic to his face?

I got a coffee with a happy meal yesterday. The coffee was for me, the happy meal was not. But maybe different McDonald' have different rules?

everyone has assumed this is your partner, but I dont think you said that. Is it your child?

I can’t imagine a grown man going buying himself a happy meal. Is he tight or have a very small appetite or something. I genuinely don’t know any bloke who would do that. They’d just buy a single burger or something. Did he get the toy?

First time I read this I thought he sounded rude and snappy. Though when I read through again it gave me an uncomfortable feeling because my husband used to do that thing of never trusting what I said and double checking. It was infuriating.

For example if I was measuring up for a piece of furniture we were planning to order I'd measure, then remeasure then say it won't fit there, it's 5cm too wide. He'd scoff, leap up, grab the tape measure and measure it himself. Or when I was going somewhere he'd start telling me where I should park ( unasked) and if I pointed out I couldn't as it was a one way street he'd say I'm sure it isn't, have you checked? It made me feel like he thought I was an incompetent baby despite the fact that I managed my life fine without being pompously "supervised". When he established I was right in the first place he'd then strangely fail to acknowledge it.

He did get snapped at in the end, several times, as asking nicely made no difference. He stopped doing it.

I get coffee with a happy meal he's wrong

Does it matter? Why are you judging what someone else eats?

"What even is this?" It's a relationship on its last legs if you're regularly arguing about things like this.

On weight watchers a hamburger happy meal in old points was 8 points so I regularly bought happy meals as a treat on a diet and got coffee with it

I can't eat a full size Maccy d so I wouldn't judge anyone on that

I'd judge on being a twat

We have a maccys where I work and we can't get a coffee as part of a happy meal. We have to buy it separately

Who is 'he'?

If he's your partner, dump him.
If he's your child, give a thorough ticking off for being a cheeky little sod and you won't buy him a Happy Meal every again.

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😂That was going to be my question!

@honeylulu That is called 'manchecking' and it's so irritating. It's like when people reach for their phone to check what you've just said - it's only when they see some random man online has said the same thing that you're believed.

Storm in a tea-cup as us oldies would say. You were trying to be helpful, he didnt want the help. Neither of you are are wrong for that, but you are both wrong for letting it get out of hand.

Its up to you really, do you want to let it fester or do you want to be the adult and suck it up? Your call.

And what is wrong with a happy meal? Its a good sized portion for me, I often choose a happy meal. But I select the drink choice usually as a fruit shoot or something with a lid on it so it can go in my bag, and then I order a coffee separately as I don't think you can order coffee to go with a Happy Meal.

I can't get past the happy meal for an adult, but that aside, I tend to over supervise my partner and adult son. I'm very much a detail person and there are plenty of occasions when I've checked something more thoroughly than they have and it's paid off (or checked at all).

I know they dislike it and I don't blame them, so now I'll only double check if I'm going to be impacted eg if partner suggests we go to a restaurant I'll double check they are open. If it only impacts my partner or son I'll leave them to it.

To be fair, the OP hasn't actually said at all that this is a partner or an adult.. So it could actually be a grumpy teenage son, or a stroppy 8 year old partial to coffee with his happy meal.

I think the follow up certainly suggests an adult, the thread the op started yesterday suggests we’re in for a daily update about a stroppy manchild partner (where they disappeared after one or two posts).

Id be a grumpy teen as well if I wanted a Happy Meal and a coffee. Maybe their Transformer needs a caffeine hit?

Sometimes I feel bitter that some people have such easy lives, they have to create arguments about happy meals.

I envy you both.

So 2 adults presumably booked tickets and got to an airport and are squabbling over the small print about a happy meal. Have you both nothing better to talk about ? You’re both a bit weird.

I need to know though, when he sits there with his little happy Meal, do you actually fancy him op?

Can you sue McD for false advertising, he doesn't sound very happy. Unless they've got a new Grumpy meal offering and gave him that instead

Sounds like he could engineer an argument alone in a lift. Berk.