He’s just had a go at me for “not trusting him” honestly pathetic

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Am I wrong here?

Something as small as going to McDonald’s at the airport has caused an argument. He wanted to get a coffee with his happy meal but he couldn’t get one. Out of the corner of my eye I thought I saw small print at the bottom that said you could change your drink, so I said “oh hang on let me just have a look”.

He got moody because he’d “clearly already looked” and I didn’t just trust him. He said he’s not stupid and that he’d already checked. I said I was just trying to help. He said I didn’t need to because he’d already thoroughly looked and “I’d only seen the screen from the corner of my eye”.

He’s now expecting me to say sorry and I said it was pathetic. He also said “it’s common sense, course you couldn’t add caffeine to a kids meal” so he’s basically saying I was stupid for checking.

He’s giving me the silent treatment expecting me to apologise and said it’s pathetic it got to this point because I should’ve just said “sorry” or “I know you’ve looked so it doesn’t matter”.

What even is this? Am I in the wrong?

Shhhh

Ordering a Happy Meal is up there with playing video Games as an adult on MN's scale of "definitely immature and icky"

And wanting to celebrate your birthday 😆

Couldn't add caffeine to a kids meal? What does he think Coke is? That's caffeine, and kids have coke with their happy meal.

He did want to swap the fizzy drinks for a coffee though so that should have regain him some "adult points"
Because adults should only drink coffee, water or alcohol

And enjoying weddings and barbecues

Normally a grown adult ordering a happy meal wouldn’t bother me. However, when they order it and they’re also acting like a man child then yes, I’d get the ick.

He sounds awful op.

No judgement on any individual here but if this minor issue got elevated to this then this relationship has got no chance of sorting out something that’s actually important.

I was with you till you said coffee and I thought nah you can't give toddlers coffee...

Anyone who has a tantrum over a happy meal needs cutting out of your life pronto.

tbf I had a boyfriend who did the sort of thing you did with the happy meal all
the time and it was really annoying. It did start to feel like he didn’t trust me or that he was trying to undermine me all
the time. There is a possibility he’s fed up because he things tis happens a lot.

His ego is so defended that you cannot be allowed to ''reassess'' the interpretation of some piece of text that he's already read. He read it. He decided what is possible/not possible. That dynamic sounds really unhealthy, you're locked in. The only way to keep the peace is to submit instantly to his interpretation of events.

A happy meal for your 7 year old husband? Leave him in the 'we look after kiddies' place and go do something with the other grown ups.

A 6 nugget meal is less than 0.5 more of food than a happy meal and he’d have a coffee. The Teeny Tinies of MN probably are believable in ordering a Happy Meal and declare themselves full for the day, I’m struggling to believe a grown man would order one though. And again I query this happening at 10am - unless airport rules are different and you can get your paltry amount of nugg hit during breakfast time?

I'm obviously going off at a different tangent to everybody else
BUT
I always have a coffee with my Happy Meal

At 10am in the morning, 4 nuggets rather than 6 is plenty. Or a smaller, plain burger...

I believe you can order off the main menu at any time but the breakfast menu only between certain hours

It’s two more tiny bits of chicken, not half a poultry farm.

Im quite sure you can’t order chicken nuggets on a screen at 10am. I’m happy to be corrected, that’s all I’ve seen myself. Maybe you can ask for them over the counter, I’m just going by the rather odd OP.

An adult male ordering a happy meal is grounds for dumping him IMHO 😋

The argument itself is the sort of daft every day spat most people have. It is annoying when people want to double check something you've said. But that's all it's worth, a flare of irritation, maybe a sharp word exchanged, and then move on, and all forgotten. The fact that as a couple you've escalated this into a row worthy of taking advice on MN suggests either pre/post holiday stress (?) or that you're operating in a rather exhausting environment of overreaction that will make you miserable over time.

Is everything in your relationship this difficult?

Give the dummy a little wipe after picking it off the floor and put it back in the mouth, that'll soothe him.

Seriously, I can understand being in an irritable mood and overreacting occasionally. It's the severity of the overreaction, regularity and duration that'd worry me, along with whether or not the overreaction is recognised and admitted. If he feels you check on him too much, he should be able to have a reasonable, calm and level headed conversation about it

How often do you do this?

I used to do this a lot, just have a little Google or a double check myself, and it started to to really upset my partner. Like your husband, she felt like I didn't trust her to sort anything out herself.

That wasn't the case at all, I just like to confirm things for myself, or sometimes just thought it was an interesting thing and wanted to know more. But I realised how it must be coming across to her so I've tried very hard to break the habit, and I've mostly succeeded (and then I'll google it once I've left the room admittedly. I'm not perfect!)

M ex husband was the same. Would not be told anything whatsoever, if I opened my mouth at all it would be silence for hours. I couldn't be doing with it in the end.

avoiding the part about your child being batshit mental, if you go to the macdonalds online meal builder for happy meals it will only allow a change for a soft drink, not caffeine.

Is this one of those relationships where a poster creates a thread every time they have an argument with their partner?

Is he still in a mood from yesterday’s argument?

I cannot imagine why anyone would feel they need to check whether or not another adult has got the maccys menu correct. The only time I would ever check the maccys menu when DH was ordering is if he said I can't see x on here can you just look see if I missed it

If this was a one off I would think over tiredness from travelling/early start and stress. Dont apologise but do ignore it and try to have a good time on your holiday. See if it happens again.

If not, how often do these spats happen?