To be angry about a remark from a driver after I apologised!

[Tzimi]

A little while ago, I pulled into the main road from a side street, admittedly a little close to an oncoming driver. But the driver then walked over to me & apologised to him for cutting him up a bit just earlier. However, despite the fact that I apologised, he still called me a c*! I was fuming about this, AIBU?

Of course you should be angry-he was offensive, rude and aggressive. But this post will bring the "racism against white people" brigade out in droves

Sorry-wrong thread. The offensive, rude and aggressive but still applies.

You apologising doesn’t stop him being shocked at you pulling out. If he’s upset at what you did a ‘sorry’ doesn’t make it all go away.

You don't know the past experiences of the driver you almost crashed into. My partner had a terrible accident a few years ago due to someone pulling out from a side road and he now becomes very angry when people drive in a way which could cause an accident because of the trauma he was caused in the past. I don't agree with using the c word but you were in the wrong and should just accept that and the reaction your behaviour provoked in the other driver. Fear can provoke very strong reactions.

Fuming seems over the top to be honest. You just nearly caused a crash and the other person was probably shocked and angry. I wouldn’t really give it any more though, never mind start a thread on how fuming I am.

Meh.

Drive like a cunt, you get called a cunt.

An apology doesn’t make the anxiety and adrenaline from almost being driven into go away.

Did you apologise because he was shaken up? Or to make yourself feel better?

He was probably shocked and maybe shaken, especially if you pulled out and he had to brake.

Sometimes, sorry just doesn't quite cover it.

I had someone pull out on me recently 'a little too close'. Except it wasn't 'a little too close', it was too bloody close and could have caused an accident.

I was driving on a 40mph road, doing 40mph as I am entitled to do. They pulled out from a side road- I have used that road before and visibility is very good so there is no excuse.
To make matters worse, the twat then didn't put their foot down and just ambled along.
I had to brake quite sharply to avoid hitting them.

Had I had the dashcam on, I'd have been bloody tempted to report them.

You need to leave sufficient room when you pull out.

Weird responses. I'm yet to meet a driver that makes no mistakes.

He was a horrible person. At least you don't know him personally and can move on from it.

What you did was wrong but he shouldn't have walked over and called you a cunt.
If it was me that you pulled out on, I'd probably gesture angrily and then carry on with my day.

I mean it was totally unnecessary for him to swear at you but you seem to think apologising fully absolves you from something and stops other people being affected by your actions which isn’t true.

Well what else will appease? She made a mistake and apologised what else can she do??

It really wasn't that bad, we didn't even come close to colliding, since he was only doing about 20...

This.
But you will see even from threads on here that some people think swearing in every sentence is normal and acceptable. Many, many more will agree it is to be expected if you are angry / upset.

So you think being shocked excuses you for calling someone a cunt? Nice.

Absolute baloney.

You see drivers shouting angrily at each other all the time, regardless of whether it is a man or a woman.
You are talking absolute bollox.

I think we need to get this inperspective- we didn't even come close to having an accident, as he was driving pretty slowly. I just mis-judges my filtering into the lane a bit.

No, I apologised because I knew I had done something wrong.

Why did you stop after you pulled out onto the main road?

When did they get the chance to walk over to you if you were both driving? Did you both park up at the same place? I think it's a bit extreme to walk up to you afterwards and call you a cunt. But in the heat of the moment out the window or whatever, it's not nice but more understandable if you've scared the driver.

Because there was a lot of stationary traffic in front of me!

Because I stopped when I reached the stationary traffic in front of me.

Because I stopped when I reached the stationary traffic in front of me.

So he got out of the car and walked to yours in stationary traffic specifically to call you a cunt?

In this scenario I think he's the cunt if that's the case. * *

Was this long after you pulled out? I would have probably been a bit annoyed if you had pulled out dangerously in front of me, but definitely not so annoyed I would get out of the car to 'have a word'.

This is why I never interact with other drivers. I would only stop /open window /get out of my car if we had actually collided. Just keep your doors locked and windows up and ignore. I recently witnessed a motorcyclist approach a car he had some minor grievance with and spit into the open window. Revolting. No good ever comes of interacting with a disgruntled driver.