Really annoyed and need a rant

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On Thursday DH suggested going out for a roast today, I booked a nice local pub and was looking forward to it.

Turns out when he went to an event with friends this morning, they went to the cafe after and he had a fry up and now doesn't want to go out for dinner. He told me half hour ago and we are booked in for 16:30. So I've cleaned the house, walked the dog early, juggled this with my 4 month old baby who's really miserable at the minute due to teething, didn't eat any lunch and had 1 bit of toast for breakfast as knew I'd be having a big dinner for him to say we're not going.

I've just called him selfish and come up to the bedroom because I think this is out of order but he says I'm overreacting. I was really looking forward to putting some make up on and having a treat of a meal out but now I'm just stuck in like the rest of the time.

Good for you.

So glad you're going out op .

Good for you! So often these threads end up with the OP just having their nice thing ruined.

Well done for organising a meal out. When you are both calm you need to have a talk to help him understand what life at home with a baby is like

How do you suppose she does that? And what would be the point he would be miserable as sin when their.

OP, you rule!
I wish you a very pleasant and well-deserved evening out :)

This.

Well done, have a great evening

Have a brilliant time with your friends!

Personally I would apologise for overreacting, explain you were looking forward to it and ask him to come. He shouldn’t have eaten so much he didn’t want dinner, but these things happen.

She wasn't fucking overreacting!!! Jesus.

Oh God, no, I would hate to have someone sitting across the table from me, just sipping a drink, while I stuffed my face. I hate eating a meal if the person with me isn't eating too. It's supposed to be a sociable occasion for both or everyone.

And no, a takeaway isn't the same as sitting down to a roast dinner.

I feel for you, OP, I can't imagine my DH doing that. Next time I'd ask a friend whom you can rely on, as your DH clearly can't be.

Great stuff! Enjoy your meal! 👍

Not going to read the whole thread. You all go out and he doesn't have to eat. Done!

Good for you getting friends as clearly they will understand your needs 🙂 enjoy your meal u deserve it.

You can read OP's updates though. Doesnt take long.
Well done OP - have a great evening, then have a conversation about him communicating with you if plans change!

Fab! Enjoy

I'm so pleased!!!!!

You have got to be kidding? No way should she apologise

I completely agree, he is selfish and obviously doesn’t understand what it’s like being at home with the baby. I remember feeling exactly like you when I had young babies, you look forward to the weekends and doing something different/ getting out. I think your disappointment and upset is completely valid. I’m glad you’re going with friends instead

I don't know why he wouldn't just go with you and have a pint

Sorry didn't read your replies. Doh! He's an idiot

You're a star! Enjoy yourselves.

Have a lovely time, and props to your friends for supporting you at short notice. Female friends rock 🥰

Bloody brilliant. Have a great time.

Be sure to leave him a list of chores that need doing, sounds like he's had a fairly relaxed day whilst you've held the fort so make him step up.

Sounds fab, have a lovely time.