Am I being unreasonable? to want to scream at all the health visitors I have spoken to?

[YvonneS]

Sorry this will probably be a bit of a rant because yet again cannot get a straight answer. Ever since dd was born I have found the health visitors who I have asked advice from to be a complete waste of time. As she is my 1st child thought I might get a bit of support but they either don't listen to the question or fob me off. A typical example is we have always struggled with really bad colic - at 6 weeks (now 3mths) she screamed virtually constantly for nearly 3 days was told if too much for me put her in cot and walk away not exactly practical to actually deal with the symptoms, she is still struggling although now not as bad and I have learnt to cope better and got some advice from friends and family but I though hv are there to give correct advice and not leave it to friends and family! rant over!

mixed views from me on HVs I'm afraid, some are great and very proactive when it comes to helping new mums, others tend to be very old school, and fail to try and understand what it's like to be a modern mum these days.
i personally won't want any involvement if we have a 2nd baby, didn't find any advice from them that useful.
I know they mean well but I don't appreciate being patronised.

I've been very lucky- of the three I've had, 2 were wonderful. Very very different from each other- one in her early 60s, traditional, wise and calm, but open and intelligent, one in her late 30s also wise but very laid back and open and intelligent.

Only one fitted the stereotype of a not very good HV. She would have had my daughter on bottles, referred to the pediatrician, weaned inappropriately and was incapable intellectually of interpreting growth charts for what they are. I am so glad I got her colleague instead.

Well, my I always found my hv rather intimidating and very no-nonsense (rather off-putting to a nervous 1st time mum). But I have to say that, when I had food poisoning when ds1 was a few months old and nearly lost my milk supply, she was the only person who helped. Lots of sympathy and 'oh, poor you' from others but she was the only one who offered good practical advice.

I remember her with real gratitude.