Should 18 yo be trusted with 8yo, 10yo and 14yo with autism alone for a week

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Hi, i'm looking for advice, any is welcome! An ex whom my partner shares 3 children with (8,10 & 14 with autism) intends on leaving them for a week with their 18 year old brother whilst she goes abroad. Obviously we as the other parents have no idea how responsible he is, and we only found out last minute through the kids (she had no intention of telling us by the looks of it!) We are struggling to know what to do, would other parents be OK with this? I personally feel really uncomfortable with the idea. Thank you in advance!

I had a party last night for my 18 year old most of the people there were 18. I would say half of them would be ok the other half couldnt warm up a fecking pizza or open a packet of crisps with our spilling half of them 😜

SS won’t be interested until something goes wrong. I still think it’s a safeguarding issue and wrong to put this responsibility on an 18-year-old for a week. Plus I can’t understand why she didn’t tell their father.

At 14 I was babysitting a three year old for whole days, so it very much depends on the autistic teen, and also the younger children and young adult involved.

Are there family nearby to the DC? Did the ex move 200 miles away to be near her family?

Has your DP actually spoken to his ex to check it is correct that the 18y old will be sole carer and it isn’t that a grandma or aunt will be there?

Totally depends on the 18 yo, the family situation and how well they manage their siblings. I think 8 definitely too young, an 18 yo and 14 yo could be acceptable. I looked after my sibling at 18 for a week, but I had two sets of grandparents in the same small town dropping in with meals and to give me a break, aunties and uncles on standby, we had lived in the same house since I was born and knew all the neighbours well.

I think it completely depends on the village the family have around them and what contingency plans are in place as well as how responsible the 18 yo is and the particular challenges their sibling has. Are they likely to be happier in their own home with their older sibling than being looked after by someone they don’t know as well or another change?

Can their father go and stay with them for that period?

OP, I have a genuine reason for asking this.
What initial does their town start with?