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Is anyone still isolating with covid?

233 replies

Whattodonut · 24/09/2023 11:38

My sister is- she caught it from a friend who hadn't mentioned she had a temperature when they met up. (Another thread- I'm annoyed about that on her behalf!)
She's done 3 days positive and says she's going to isolate until she's negative. She has a toddler who her DH is of course looking after but it means he'll be missing work to look after toddler until she's well.

She's worried about passing it around- our parents are elderly and I think I'd be angry if someone who knew they had it gave it to them. She does feel like shit but then if it were flu she would also feel like shit and carry on because... toddler.

What would you do?

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allthehops · 24/09/2023 13:34

Not isolating no but I've kept away from my dad because he's vulnerable (which I would anyway with a cold, the covid tests have just been handy to know when no longer infectious) I work from home so haven't had to go to work.

PortalooSunset · 24/09/2023 13:42

Begsthequestion · 24/09/2023 13:23

This may be true. My post was informing a pp who claimed that they didn't know how much tests cost or where to find them.

I "claimed" that because I didn't. I'm eligible for free ones due to my circumstances. Absolutely agree with @Beezknees though. As I'd already posted.

NeverTrustAPoliceman · 24/09/2023 13:44

I have an utterly rubbish immune system and would be seriously ill if I got Covid. My consultant's advice is to avoid high risk situations wherever possible.

I do not expect people to isolate as many will feel well enough to carry on with their normal lives or cannot afford to take time off. The main Covid crisis is well and truly behind us. However I am very grateful when people tell me they have Covid or have been in close contact as I can then mitigate.

Balancing the prevailing view of the majority who say it is just a cold with my wish to stay alive is tricky!

Freepublictransport · 24/09/2023 13:50

I’m immunocompromised myself and I’ve had angioplasty. I’m still under 50.
I have had a holiday booked for months that I cannot take again as it is a course and it starts tomorrow. I have to fly to get there and share a room with a friend.
Yesterday I tested positive for Covid so I’m now staying at home. There are some much older people on the course, also tomorrow I am supposed to be travelling through Heathrow.
I could wear a mask but my friend doesn’t want to share a room (she has no underlying health issues) and the hotel has none left that I could go in alone.
I haven’t gone out to the shops since I found out and I won’t until my test is negative.

Funderthighs · 24/09/2023 13:50

I stayed at home for the 3 days I felt poorly, then went to work on day 4 when I felt better.

Itsnotyouitsthewholesystem · 24/09/2023 20:26

Me. Met my sister last week and after kisses hello and about an hour of being together she told me she'd had a temperature that morning but wasn't testing as my niece was off to France on a school trip the next day. Once my niece had been packed off, my sister tested and was positive.
I've been isolating 5 days having missed work, a very important, special celebration weekend, my kids have missed clubs, and I haven't been able to hug my DH or 2 DCs for 5 days. I am pretty annoyed about it - can you tell?

Itsnotyouitsthewholesystem · 24/09/2023 20:29

I was pretty ill for 2 or 3 days but that's the least of my annoyance. I didn't want to risk my DH getting it or anyone around us, especially the vulnerable.

Dunnoburt · 24/09/2023 20:29

If i have it then absolutely yes I will isolate.

mrsanflowerpot · 24/09/2023 20:32

DD's (15) friend tested positive and then didn't isolate, went to school and then a football game. Not sure about the game but led to the school having to "go remote" last week for two year groups due to student and staff cases.

DD was one of the cases, DS (9) was shielding. He's been admitted to hospital this evening with severe asthma attack and tested positive for covid (despite DD isolating at home once she tested positive).

Thequeenofwishfulthinking · 24/09/2023 20:34

I’ve got it last week for the very first time. It’s made me very ill. I’m isolating until I test negative as I don’t want to pass it around.

HangingOver · 24/09/2023 20:35

I did because DP was getting over a virus and had a really bad chest so I stayed in the spare room. Was too bloody ill to go anywhere anyway.

CaroleSinger · 24/09/2023 20:37

Right now cases are rising and more people are being admitted to hospital. I had a booster last week because I'm at risk of serious illness if I catch it. I caught it in February and was extremely ill and left struggling to breathe for several days. I know who infected me. I know rules were different then but I wish they had isolated and not spread it to other people who might be more vulnerable. I'll definitely be avoiding public transport this winter as that's also high risk for me. The problem is many people can't afford to isolate. It's really not something I want again.

Motheranddaughter · 24/09/2023 20:37

Am not testing or isolating
Had more than enough of that

midnightblue12 · 24/09/2023 20:39

I guess like with any contagious illness I would try and keep a low profile, however, I'm a single working mum to two children. I can't just stay at home and isolate, it just doesn't work like that anymore.

19lottie82 · 24/09/2023 20:41

I don't want to be responsible for giving it to someone
immunocompromised.

this ^

saying “just carry on as normal” is irresponsible and naive IMO

BrawnWild · 24/09/2023 20:43

Theres no incentive to to treat in any way other than a cold or flu. Government arent giving free tests or vaccinations or financial support for missing work so if people feel up to being out and about, I think we just have to accept it.

Anyone going out is at risk or catching anything, that's why severely compromised people are advised to isolate as best they can. People are germy. It 100% sucks for them, but even people that feel well are a risk.

I think its rude to go to offices if you can WFH or still attend social gatherings with any illness, so I'd be annoyed at that. But if someone can't get someone else to take their kids to school or do the weekly shop, that's just the way things are.

irisretic · 24/09/2023 20:43

I’ve just had it and isolated apart from having to go a pick up my anti virals. Pharmacist wasn’t bothered but I wore a mask in the pharmacy. The evidence coming out now about damaged organs in those with long Covid is really quite worrying and I wouldn’t want to be someone who passed it on knowingly.

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 24/09/2023 20:45

Yes I am but only because I'm so poorly with it so by the time I'm up and about I'll be negative.

I wouldn't go out of my way to see people if I was positive and feeling well, it affects people differently and I'd hate to give it to some one knowingly.

Notverywellatm · 24/09/2023 20:47

I think young people mostly get it mildly and are not bothering testing. The damage to the vast majority of them from isolating is much higher than from COVID. People in 40s and 50s are getting significant symptoms ( and rishi has decided this element of the workforce is not worth offering vaccines to unlike retired boomers....). Most vulnerable people are being vaccinated.

Mercury2702 · 24/09/2023 20:50

I currently have it for the 5th time. I’m a nurse and we can now work with it as long as we wear a mask but I’m not sure I’ll be well enough in time for my next shift

SnapdragonToadflax · 24/09/2023 20:50

I isolated away from my DP and son when I last had it earlier this year, in the hope of them avoiding getting it or reducing their viral load. It was too late as they both came down with it two days later anyway, but worth a try.

I worked at home and didn't socialise until 7 days had passed (I felt like shite anyway so half of that was off sick).

Glitterblue · 24/09/2023 20:52

I would because I would hate to give it to anyone immune compromised. My parents and in laws are all in their 70s and 80s so I wouldn’t want to risk giving it to them.

Rulesrules · 24/09/2023 20:52

If I tested Positive I'd isolate definitely. Plus I work in a care home.

StripyHorse · 24/09/2023 20:53

@Notverywellatm I really don't believe that the damage to young people from isolating for 1 week when infectious (not talking long term lock downs here) outweighs the benefit of not passing covid on.

People who are vulnerable because their immune system is weakened often don't have enough protection from the vaccine for that very reason. It's very damaging for vulnerable people to be cut off from society because they simply cannot risk their health - some are avoiding essential healthcare because there are no mitigations in place.

OrangesLemonsLimes · 24/09/2023 21:00

I would isolate apart from walking my dog (avoiding getting close to people on the paths, of course) but I recognise my privilege in that I can wfh, and my children are adults, and delivery services in my city are good.

Not everyone can stay in. But maybe those who can, should. This disease does real harm to some.

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