Big argument with boyfriend - AIBU

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We have been together 5 years and 29 years old. He works away a lot and has been away working for the past 7 weeks minus the odd day or two. His time off started on Wednesday for 2 weeks but he he has gone on holiday with a friend and won't be back until a day before he has to go to work;
I've been really upset and stupidly started an argument last night about whether I can do this relationship as we're hardly seeing each other. I feel anxious as we have a house together but it feels I'm always on my own.
I feel headachy and really emotional.

Oh is he feeling sad on holiday? How mean of you. The reply is ‘well I Am feeling sad at home and unlike you I didn’t get a say in it. How exactly am I supposed to ‘know’ I’m your priority?it doesn’t feel like it.’

It seems to me your expectations of 'coupledom' aren't compatible. It's one thing debating whether he's being unreasonable but it sounds as if you've already agreed to this lifestyle but this time you're going honest and saying you're fed up. I'm not sure I would want to be with someone who's job/lifestyle involves them regularly being away for weeks at a time. A boyfriend maybe, a live in partner no....and definitely wouldn't he parenting with this guy.
It doesn't sound like he's defrauded you and gone back on his word, maybe a bit of a misunderstanding this time but if it doesn't suit you now is the time to speak up. I wouldn't actually be 'nagging' him on holiday or getting upset. I'd just tell him when he gets home that youre sorry, but this isn't for you. If he decides off his own back that he will modify his life that's great....but let it come from him. Be proactive, not reactive. Be prepared to separate, but stay true to yourself

But he doesn't have any ideas of coupledom. His idea of being with someone is being completely free to go off with his mates whenever he wants.