45 and feel like my body is falling apart

[Wouldhatetobeanewsreader]

It can’t be normal, can it? 🤷🏻‍♀️

Feel fine mentally/in my mind, but my busy just won’t play ball.
Had my dc at 40, had long covid for a couple of years-2020-2022. I had a rectocele in 2020. I get kidney stones almost constantly, I am tired just all the time, achey, dizzy sometimes..I just never wake up feeling good anymore. If I have a *Good day and get out and about doing things, the next day I’m so tired and not up to much. If I drink I feel ill later on and achy and tired the next day
Ffs! Feel like I’ve aged in 4/5 years so much, I was never like this before..,Is if having a child, long covid, peri.,what?! So tired of feeling so Eurgh within my body, but my mind still wants to be up and doing things, exercising and having energy
Do you/did you feel like this at this age?

*My BODY

*it

Are you sure it isn’t long covid? I feel like this… but it’s long covid apparently. It’s shit. I feel like I’ve fast forwarded 40 years.

@Upsizer Yes it def was, but in Jan 2022, it seemed to massively improve (it was so awful before then, especially during ovulation/before period. I thought it had got much better, I didn’t run out of breath anymore etc, but the aching now is awful
So sorry you’re going through similar

I feel like this at 36 after my 2nd dc...pregnancy was tough. I'm hoping it will get better? I do find I have to be more mindful of having actual downtime (i.e. alone, not on my phone) which helps my mind and body relax.

This is how I feel. Often very fatigued, dizzy, achey all over. It's horrible. I have a good day and do stuff then I'm exhausted afterwards. I do wonder if a lot of it is perimenopause.

Then you see Angela Rippon doing the standing splits at nearly 80 and think wow!! I can't do them at 30 years her junior...

@Wouldhatetobeanewsreader - sorry to hear you're not feeling right... It sounds like Covid/Long Covid really floored you but you're also extremely likely to be perimenopausal at 45. I felt like my body (and head) started going nuts at this age. I experienced fatigue, low mood, itchiness, awful back pain and muscle aches all over. I'm now mid 50s, use HRT transdermal gel/Mirena and feel so much better.
Might be worth getting your bloods done to rule out other stuff like anaemia, thyroid issues, deficiencies (if you haven't already). I also really recommend Magnesium Citrate and Vitamin D3/K which have helped massively. If you drink wine then organic/low sulfate might help - I find I don't tolerate alcohol as well nowadays.
Wishing you lots of luck and hope you feel well soon! ⚘️

I was like this before being diagnosed with a load of autoimmune issues. I second getting a bloody test. And just take each day a minute at a time. Google the spoon theory…. And pace yourself. Only thing that gets me through a day 💐💐

Were you severely ill with Covid? Recent news item I read said that MRI scans are showing damage with organs with patients who had severe Covid, lungs and brain specifically.

It might well just be a mix of long covid and peri.

I would go to the doc, get your iron and thyroid checked and all that - and then try HRT. Focus as much as you can on rest, gentle exercise and a good diet also.

How do you sleep? You’ve got a young child and your body has been through a lot over the past couple of years. I had my sons at 32 and 35 and I was pretty knackered for the first few years, and I was younger and didn’t have long covid.
Id get a full blood work up done, make sure you’re getting 7-8 hours sleep (if possible) try to get some light exercise/fresh air daily, overhaul your diet to make it as good as possible, cut out all alcohol and see if you feel better in a couple of months.
Im also 45 and honestly sadly I can barely drink at all these days. Even a glass of wine and I feel foggy the next day. Also my diet seems to affect me so much more. If I don’t consistently have fruit and veg at every meal I get bunged up, I feel bloated if I overdo it on carbs etc. Feels like my body is on a knife edge! When I think I used to booze, smoke, eat a load of crap and stay up late and I’d feel fine the next day!

I remember my mum turning down one slice of cheese once when she was in her 40s and saying “I won’t sleep tonight if I have that” and thinking “wtf” and now I’m the same with a slice of bread, I look at it and think “I won’t button my jeans if that passes my lips”

I felt like this before I was diagnosed with an autoimmune thyroid disorder. I was being tested for long covid when it was discovered.

Definitely get some blood tests.

Thank you so much everyone

@BatshitCrazyWoman What was the thyroid illness?

Aw it's proper shit feeling like that OP. I do sympathise - I was a fit, active 50 year old 2 years ago - with autoimmune stuff under control - then I got 'long covid' - actually not sure if it IS that but I had a year of not being able to get up before 10 - feeling utterly rung out - injuring myself all the time - I do a gym class then have to sleep most of the next day - lost nearly 3 stone due to lack of appetite

I have CCD, Thyroid issues, B12 deficiency, psoriasis and chronic fatigue - it blows

I find listening to my body helps a lot - I stay on top of my meds, rest up if needed, take my HRT etc but I have also started going back to the gym and working slowly to build up stamina - it just makes me feel better about myself really. Also taking high dose Vit D now in preparation for winter as I think I may have SAD!

Get bloods done, check everything and try and find a pace that works for you - which may mean slowing down a bit for a while.

CKD ! I've also lost the ability to type apparently

Graves' Disease

I had my last child at 39 and then breast fed for a year so don’t think my hormones ever rebalanced ended up started HRT aged 44 as I was losing my mind with brain fog terribly at work. It was brill to start with but getting to 50 I’ve had to go gluten free, give up alcohol and get exercise every day to feel human

@ghostyslovesheets Chronic kidney disease? I’m so scared I have this as I constantly get stones, do you? What medication do you take, what is the prognosis for daily living etc

Do a blood test for vitamin d. You might be deficient.

I spent most of my 20s like that, and some of 30s before I got diagnosed with a thyroid issue. Now i still go through bad patches but mostly am fine. I would make bloods a first port of call before you analyse it too much

HRT made a big difference to me - esp. the aches and pains, but I agree with others. It would be useful to get some blood tests to get to the bottom of things.

I am 73 and my mind wants to do things my body can't. But again I'm 73.
I have a 43-year-old son who had COVID is experiencing long covid, and had strokes associated with having COVID. What has helped him is that he received a full physical exam. It found some health and heart issues he was not aware of. Those grossly affected his stamina. The things they did and the medications they put him on have greatly helped.

I suggest you get a full physical assessment. If you are in the UK I understand you have to go through the NHS. If you financially can do this I suggest you get a private physical. Some things may have been missed.
And I say this from the US not knowing what the cost will be.