This is my first post but I want to know if I'm bu before I say anything.
My DD was going to a childminder from 10 months, we liked her but I split with her dad so we moved. I was going to find another but my close friend offered to look after her, she used to work in a nursery and I trusted her and I was paying her. She would have her 2 days a week as that's all I was working at the time. My DD is now 5 and in year 1 so I don't need her to look after her as much. I work 5 days a week. I WFH two days and I'm in the office 3 days. Although of a Friday I finish early so I don't need childcare for that day. Friend picks her up the other 2 days and I pick her up the days I WFH.
Her child goes to the same school as DD but is in another class, they get along well. My friend was picking her up at first but now her older DS is, he's 20. At first it was just here and there if friend had an appointment but for the past few weeks her DS has been. I don't mind as I know my friend is doing me a big favour and I am grateful for her. However, everyday she has been coming home with lollipops/little packs of haribos/chocolate in her bag which friends DS has given her. When the weather was hot he was buying DD and his sister ice cream which I only know about as DD told me.
Yesterday, I had an appointment so I asked if friend could do pickup but I didn't need her to give her any dinner and she'd only be with her for half an hour-an hour. Friend agreed but her DS picked her up again she came home with sweets but she had a little teddy as well that he had bought her. She said the other girl had one as well so I imagine so DD wasn't left out. But then again he couldve given it his sister when DD had been picked up.
AIBU in not wanting him to give her sweets(and now a teddy)? Just to add, I do trust him and I've known him and my friend for 10 years.