Inclusion policies are not working

[somewherbetweenHoneyandTrunchbull]

I am an experienced teacher. And every year budgets are being cut and more and more children are being chucked into mainstream. Non-verbal, extremely sensitive to noisy kids being put into an overcrowded open plan mainstream school. Some have a little speech but couldn't hold a conversation. Many not toilet trained. Many cannot control their emotions and anger. Some where English isn't a first language. Many with social work involvement and living through ongoing trauma at home.
Meanwhile support staff numbers are being cut, year on year.
I had been managing just about. Spinning many plates. Constantly juggling. But then they enrol another two kids with complex needs into my class on 28 individuals. I just can't do it any more. This week I've been bitten, scratched, hit so hard I thought they had cracked a rib. Violent incident forms all filled in but reality means not much will change as I can't get more that 2 20 minute slots of teaching assistant time each week.
I love my job. I love the kids. I love those lightbulb moments. But at the moment I can't do my job of teaching children. I can barely keep them and myself safe in my class. I try. I'm exhausted. I'm worn out working day and night so that I'm super organised so everything can go smoothly but it never does. If it was just one child having a meltdown I probably coolyld cope. I just do t know which firework will go off when. I don't know what is setting them off and once they go, others follow.
I cry most days at how hopeless it feels. I have some really bright and eager children too. They are also being let down by this system. I'm not sure who the current education policies help. It doesn't seem to help anyone except desensitising children to daily bouts of violence and the language.
I'm very broken tonight. I'm so sleepy but won't help x

@Quisquam That's really helpful thank you.

'the teacher/SENCO/head was often a witness for the LA, promising the mainstream school could walk on water, delivering what the child needed. Parents could not rely on the school for support at all - more usually the school stabbed them in the back. NHS speech therapists were just as bad, in toeing the LA’s line.'

Why are schools, speech therapists, SENCO's, teachers doing this? What's the motivation?

I do think its a bit of stockholm syndrome. I dont know how else to describe it. But they know what they think is feasible to deliver (things like wait lists for OT, staff shortages, staff weaknesses, other needs in the cohort, what schools are available) and cant get beyond 'this is what i know can be delivered/is available v this is what this child needs'
Plus a system where the LA is responsible for assessing the need, paying the assessors and then deliveeing the end result is always going to have a confluct right at the heart of it.

Why are schools, speech therapists, SENCO's, teachers doing this? What's the motivation

I can only guess, but often primary school teachers are very lovely and caring, they want to give every child a chance.

Often the whole extent of the issue comes to daylight once the child is "settled" - I don't believe for one minute parents know 100% how their DC will react in a school setting. They may have an idea, but the proof will sadly be in the pudding.

The way incidents are dealt with/ reported. Schools need rightly look at both children involved in an incident.

Sadly money, schools are strapped for cash so a child with extra funding for staff is valuable...

Many primaries do try everything they can to help a child and be inclusive. This can actually be part of the problem. Students are not excluded because the school does not want to do this. They know it hurts a child, the family and their life chances. However it can also mean that children spend too much time being cared for in pastoral support settings or in Mrs X's room or wherever. They are happy. The behaviour is managed. However, they are not in mainstream. They are not in lessons with their peers. They sometimes do very little work all day. Parents are happy because the kids are in mainstream in theory. The problem comes when they attend secondary or they are expected in a lesson without support or when everyone has to face the fact that they can't read or write to an age appropriate level. They often don't have EHCPs. They find it difficult to access special school by this point.