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Eavesdropping rude couple

34 replies

Ibizafun · 22/09/2023 20:29

I met a friend for a coffee early morning and we were the only people there. A couple came and sat on the table next to us.

I was quietly telling my friend that I had recently had a hysterectomy and developed a UTI. No gory details, just that.

The man turned to me and said "Do you mind, we're eating?" in a very rude manner.

I told him to stop listening to other peoples' conversations and talk to his wife. He could've sat down or moved anywhere else.. no one there. Was I being unreasonable?

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Freezingcoldinseptember · 22/09/2023 20:30

You should have mentioned your piles and varicose veins of the vulva..

Glamourreader · 22/09/2023 20:34

He's a xxxx, you don't need to worry about this, you're entitled to talk to your friend about what you've been through.

Mistressanne · 22/09/2023 20:36

People are weird.
we used to sit at the front of a dog friendly cafe with our dog, it was the best place to keep her away from other customers. Next to us was a sofa. One day a woman came in and sat on the sofa and then complained loudly that she didn’t like dogs. There were lots of empty seats further away!

Prescottdanni123 · 22/09/2023 21:02

He was rude. You are entitled to talk to your friend about whatever you like.

Tbh, it never occurs to me to follow other people's conversations - unless they are talking in really loud voices so I can't help but hear. But even then, it is still their right to talk about whatever they like.

VeridicalVagabond · 22/09/2023 21:04

That would've been me loudly talking about anal leakage for the rest of my time there.

Hope you're doing well after your op!

theduchessofspork · 22/09/2023 21:06

Nope.

and well done for telling him

Hope you feel better soon

TheGuv1982 · 22/09/2023 21:08

Meh. “Sorry who the fuck are you, and why are you listening to my convo”.

Easy to say after the event, but I have zero chill for strangers who feel they’re entitled to their views when they thrust themselves in my general space.

LakeTiticaca · 22/09/2023 21:13

I would start talking loudly about my explosive diarrhoea problem in minute detail 😉

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Ibizafun · 22/09/2023 21:24

Love the piles idea. They were local so if I see them again will really go for itGrin

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Ibizafun · 22/09/2023 21:26

Loving the answers here and thank you for telling me I wasn't be unreasonable.. felt myself go bright red!

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SauvignonBlanche · 22/09/2023 21:28

What a rude git! 😡

Goldbar · 22/09/2023 21:42

I think you were quite restrained tbh.

UncleHerbie · 22/09/2023 21:47

I might’ve whipped out a pic of my massive fibroid! That would’ve put him off his bacon sarnie (Polaroid taken by my gynaecologist and given to me 😂)

BOOTS52PollyPrissyPants · 22/09/2023 21:50

You did nothing wrong having a private conversation, why did they sit next to you when there were other tables free. You should have said why did you sit right beside us then and stop listening in on other people's conversation. The other answers are funny, you should have talked about your vagina really loudly and watch him blow his fuse. Or mentioned how you cannot wait until your new vibrator arrives in the post to give it a try.

sadsack78 · 22/09/2023 21:53

YANBU. He was very rude, and also sounds full of distaste about you discussing your 'women's problems' where he could hear it.

You weren't being crude- you had a very serious surgery and of course wanted to tell a friend about it.

I could be wrong but I feel like most women who overheard your conversation would just feel sympathy and maybe even say 'well that happened to me too'.

Hope you're doing better OP.

PinkMoscatoLover · 22/09/2023 22:00

He has a bloody nerve! You absolutely did the right thing

Tonightsthenight91 · 22/09/2023 22:08

What a knob. Good for you for putting him in his place!

yesterday I was at a restaurant with a friend who - as we were getting up - said to me “you ok? You look really sad” que the couple next to us literally downing tools and both turning in sync and looking me dead in the eye to await my answer. We all kind of paused at the awkwardness and then the woman sort of leaned in like I was going to tell her my life story. I swear some people just go out to be busy bodies.

DinoMummsy · 23/09/2023 15:05

It would have been a simple "oh, fuck off" from me. What a complete tosser!
Hope you feel better soon.

KimberleyClark · 23/09/2023 15:33

What an awful couple.

Wolfricbriandumbledore · 23/09/2023 15:42

They were awful. You did absolutely nothing wrong. And the guy was thick as well as rude — surely when you’re eavesdropping, you don’t point it out to the people you’re eavesdropping on? And if you’re eavesdropping and don’t like what you’re hearing, you keep schtum and stop listening.

Newestname002 · 23/09/2023 15:50

@Ibizafun @sadsack78

I could be wrong but I feel like most women who overheard your conversation would just feel sympathy and maybe even say 'well that happened to me too'.

Very very true. I had a hysterectomy years ago (not keyhole surgery) and my friend had a myectomy within days of each other so talked about those a lot. Anyone who didn't want to hear us comparing notes and providing mutual sympathy, whilst sitting in an near empty cafe should just sit elsewhere! 🌹

Xatz63 · 23/09/2023 16:04

I agreed with you

Dweetfidilove · 23/09/2023 16:28

Absolutely not! Good on you for telling him too ☺️

Cowlover89 · 23/09/2023 16:29

YADNBU X

Graciebobcat · 23/09/2023 16:32

If I hadn't gone into gory detail already that would be my cue to start.

Rude cunt.

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