Will try to keep post brief, I have a newborn baby (a few days old). Invited my parents to come and see him, and had DH ask them at the door to remove shoes as we have a new rug in the living room that l want to keep clean and free of outdoor shoes for baby to sit on etc. - DM happily removes hers but DF walks past and leaves his on and goes into the lounge. DM tells him to take off shoes and he ignores her. I snap and tell him to remove them and keep off my rug, as he kept wandering over and stepping slightly onto it to reach over and touch baby. Unties shoes when I once again ask, as if he’s going to take them off- then keeps them on. He finally took them off when my mom asked him to again, because I wasn’t going to let him sit on the sofa by me after walking across the whole room in his outdoor trainers but he didn’t want to miss out on holding his grandson. It was a weird stubbornness that I don’t quite understand.
i know I’m hormonal from just giving birth but AIBU to find it hurtful that DF ignored such a simple request that would make me feel so much more comfortable in my home? I’m generally really laid back with guests in the house and DF knows this so I don’t know why he didn’t see that it was important to me that it was mentioned so swiftly and asked of him multiple times?
Parents are meant to be coming over for a few hours this weekend to keep me company and help with lifting (post c-section) and now I’m just worrying, thinking that if my dad can’t do something easy like take off his shoes when asked can I trust him if I’m out of the room to not do something else I’ve asked him not to do? DH is really upset on my behalf and frustrated that he was ignored. DF has not got a disability that would make removing his shoes difficult as obviously I’d be understanding in that situation!
AIBU to have insisted shoes come off in my living room?