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AIBU to throw a party the night before neighbours move?

80 replies

HouseIsOnFire · 21/09/2023 18:43

Hi all, semi light hearted but here we go! Apologies in advance for the post length...

Absolute nightmare neighbour (please see previous threads) who I've managed to have minimal contact with the last few months - I know everyone will say why have you not grey-rocked! I tried! If you don't want to hunt through posts, in the last few months:

  • I had my drive jet washed and asked the company to swoosh over the pavement so the pavement in front of their house didn't have any run off dirt(argh she has me trained!). 2 hours later, she accosted me coming back to the house - she'd just come home too and how dare I make the pavement wet? (Because it never rains in the NW of course)
  • Took in a couple of parcels when I was out and refused to answer door to let me have them back (literally hid, I could see her through the window 🤣) - this happened several times. It was days before she threw them over the garden fence... when it was raining
  • Because we no longer talk (she no longer talks to me because she got caught trespassing in my garden trimming back bushes after I'd said it was all handled... I didn't say anything, but she has not spoken to me since) she has taken to accosting any trades that turn up to my house and demanding to know in minute detail what is going on, to the point my plumber asked me in all seriousness if I was ok and was I being stalked
  • Today the silence was broken (alas!) when she shouted at me for righting their wheely bin, which had fallen over and was spilling onto my drive

Hope that gives some context! So (and I feel like I'm jinxing it typing) they are moving! And should exchange and complete on Monday apparantly (according to other neighbour).

I have a small party planned on Sunday for something rather lovely and have 8 friends coming over for cocktails and dinner. Neighbour will know this is going on because she watches the front of the house obsessively, but also we're terraced so there'll be a bit of noise. I imagine everyone will be home by 10/11, so not planning a rager!

I mentioned about the move date to one of the guests (who can be overly sympathetic to people at times by his own admission!) and he thinks it will look like I'm holding a party to celebrate neighbour from hell going 🤣 He thinks I should rearrange! I think he's bonkers (and I'm half planning a special freedom cocktail, but still!) So... AIBU?

AIBU you could rearrange to the week after, why risk upsetting a very turbulent relationship as it is

YANBU who cares? She'd complain whatever happens, fetch the strobe lighting and vuvuzelas!

Nb: aside from some sort of cosmic punishment, I should never see nor here from neighbour again post move!

OP posts:
Raquelos · 21/09/2023 19:05

100% have your party. Remind her why she will be glad to leave 😂. As you say whatever ever you do is going to be wrong anyway so I would be giving zero fucks if I were you.

80skid · 21/09/2023 19:10

Why rearrange your plans to suit someone who goes out of their way to be awkward?
Maybe raise a glass to them too Grin

Spirallingdownwards · 21/09/2023 19:12

Hell yes hold the party and put a big Good luck and Bon Voyage sign up

BoobyDazzler · 21/09/2023 19:13

I’d have a long noisy party right in to the early hours and do everything I possibly could to piss then off.

I might even get a ballon arch made with the words ‘fuck off’ and put it over my door.

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 21/09/2023 19:15

Have the party!!!!! And play lots of "thank fuck you ate gone / goodbye" style songs loudly.

Tenashelflife · 21/09/2023 19:19

Enjoy your party! 🎉

ProvisionsOnTheDock · 21/09/2023 19:20

Have the party, and might I recommend including the song Bloody Motherfucking Asshole on your playlist. Turn the speaker to the wall for that one.

AzureBlue99 · 21/09/2023 19:21

Yeah, have the party. They might leave you a surprise gift!

ChewChewsBiscuitTin · 21/09/2023 19:22

YES!

ChewChewsBiscuitTin · 21/09/2023 19:24

ChewChewsBiscuitTin · 21/09/2023 19:22

YES!

My quote didn't work, I was emphatically agreeing to the 'fuck off' balloon arch! No way you are being unreasonable

LakeTiticaca · 21/09/2023 19:29

Yep!! Pull an all nighter and invite everyone you know. Get the stereo on full blast and get the booze out 😂😂

BunnyMum2000 · 21/09/2023 19:29

Definitely have the party!! I love the balloon arch idea above :-)😂

CherryMaDeara · 21/09/2023 19:29

Have a minute’s silence for her new neighbours at the party.

Amortentia · 21/09/2023 19:32

Have the party. If my nightmare neighbour ever goes, I’ll be having a party out front letting off party poppers right in front of her. 😂

iknowimcoming · 21/09/2023 19:33

Definitely have the party when you planned to! Exchange/completion dates get delayed all the time and you could end up rearranging your party several times if that happens. Let them think you're celebrating them going - who cares!

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HouseIsOnFire · 21/09/2023 19:47

ProvisionsOnTheDock · 21/09/2023 19:20

Have the party, and might I recommend including the song Bloody Motherfucking Asshole on your playlist. Turn the speaker to the wall for that one.

Or Move Bitch from Ludacris? Maybe there needs to be a party playlist...!

OP posts:
HouseIsOnFire · 21/09/2023 19:49

Spirallingdownwards · 21/09/2023 19:12

Hell yes hold the party and put a big Good luck and Bon Voyage sign up

Bahaha, I'm sorry but this is FAR too nice :D

OP posts:
xyz111 · 21/09/2023 19:49

Your friend is bonkers for even suggesting rearranging!!!

HouseIsOnFire · 21/09/2023 19:50

AzureBlue99 · 21/09/2023 19:21

Yeah, have the party. They might leave you a surprise gift!

I was given half eaten chocolates (as in they had bite marks in, not half a box) for Christmas, they can keep any gifts ta!

OP posts:
HouseIsOnFire · 21/09/2023 19:52

iknowimcoming · 21/09/2023 19:33

Definitely have the party when you planned to! Exchange/completion dates get delayed all the time and you could end up rearranging your party several times if that happens. Let them think you're celebrating them going - who cares!

Arf I know, I'm very much trying not to get my hopes up.

On the other hand, if it does get moved/cancelled, at least I'll know I've annoyed her - it has been VERY taxing keeping the moral high ground through all of this!

OP posts:
ActDottie · 21/09/2023 19:52

Go ahead with it and if the neighbour asks confirm that it is a party to celebrate them going!

HouseIsOnFire · 21/09/2023 19:53

xyz111 · 21/09/2023 19:49

Your friend is bonkers for even suggesting rearranging!!!

That's what I thought!

And so pleased it seems everyone agrees with me! It's been a brutal 10 months feeling completely gaslit and stalked!

OP posts:
Dartmoorcheffy · 21/09/2023 19:53

Ooh we have to do a playlist here.

TicTacNicNak · 21/09/2023 19:54

Have your party OP.

We will all collectively send good vibes for the exchange and completion to go ahead smoothly, and pray the new neighbours are better than the current ones.

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