AIBU to book a wheelchair space

[Iknowitswrong15]

I know I might 100 percent get slaughtered for this and I probably deserve it.
my daughters birthday is coming up and she wanted to see a certain show last year which sold out very quickly. It is coming back this year and the tickets are going quickly again. She is a wheelchair user however she can get out of chair. Due to a really hard year ( recently lost DP ) I wanted to get her tickets for her birthday trip.
I went on site and the only available tickets were 130 plus per ticket.
it’s a lot due to recent circumstances and going from 2 wages to 1 so suddenly.
she uses her wheelchair daily for getting to places like to school and back, shops etf but can walk short distances ( she has 2 organ failures, concratures in legs, and attached to an IV )
however she could make it to a seat as I can take the pumps of chair in to bags and then re attach them after for the journey home.
the wheelchair seats are buy the 100 plus seats but are given at the minimum ticket price of less that 40.00 and can also can book an assistance ticket for free next to wheelchair seat.
i keep going to book it but then keep remembering I’m morally wrong as I can transfer her !
then I lose my morals again and think well it’s ok. I’m over thinking this but it is very morally wrong right ?

I will book ! Thank you she will be so excited it’s been a show she has dreamed of seeing
I will
book now !

I agree with all previous comments. I'm an ambulatory wheelchair user. I can transfer to another seat. However often I'm most comfortable in my own wheelchair. Your daughter deserves to be comfortable and that is exactly what those spaces are designed for. Book the wheelchair space and enjoy the show! X

She is a wheelchair user so please take the space. Enjoy the concert.

I was all prepared to be mad at entitled fuckers using wheelchair spaces but your daughter is a wheelchair user- just buy the seat. Let her conserve her energy for enjoying the show.

Book the wheelchair place. Plenty of wheelchair users can walk small distances only - like round a shop but not round the whole mall - but still wheelchair users

Book the tickets and enjoy the show. Lots of wheelchair users are ambulatory to some extent or on some days, it doesn't mean they're not "disabled enough" to use the provisions they are entitled to.

How have you twisted it your head that your daughter is not disabled and exactly who this policy is aimed at?

I have a disabled friend and we go to gigs a lot. We end up a special area which has much better viewing. There is normally chairs so she can have a sit down when she needs a breather.

Life is hard when disabled. Take whatever benefit you can.

YANBU , cost is irrespective , your daughter has a wheelchair , is a wheelchair user so get a wheelchair ticket .

She’s a wheelchair user, book the space!

She's a wheelchair user. Getting the wheelchair ticket is a complete non-issue. Stop martyring yourself and go book it!

OP, please look at it this way. Whoever owns the theatre or runs the tour would WANT you and your DD to use a wheelchair space. If she has to go through that much (disconnecting, reconnecting, having lots of help from you, possible pain, and if she’s already exhausted from the day’s movements, she might struggle a lot more with her legs) to walk a short distance, it could be difficult or even dangerous for her with how many people are in the theatre. It’s actually much safer and easier, for everyone, for her to have a designated wheelchair space ESPECIALLY if she is hooked up to IVs.

My very best advice is to always take the help when it’s available and you qualify, and you definitely qualify. Do not make your life, or hers, any harder than it needs to be because you’re worried about fairness. Being sick is inherently unfair, and things like wheelchair spaces are meant to help this a very tiny amount. And there will be a lot of things your DD cannot do due to accessibility, so always take the chance when you can.

@fruitbrewhaha no
im fully aware she is disabled but I am also
aware of how difficult access can be and issues we have faced in the past.
I suppose I didn’t want to take a spot from someone who wouldn’t be able to access at all without that space.

Hi Op. Not sure how often she spends extended time in her chair, and she may already have one. I found a memory foam cushion made it more comfortable.

Have a lovely time 😊

Absolutely not unreasonable at all!
Please please book the seats and enjoy the show, you both deserve it.

We went to see a Peter Rabbit show in the school holidays, me, 2 kids and my DM who's a wheelchair user, she can transfer but uses her chair every day to go anywhere, she can manage a few steps without. Due to how the seats were arranged she did transfer in the end and my 2-yr old sat in her wheelchair on a cushion with a blanket as it was the only way she was able to see. Didn't even register with me that this could be perceived as wrong. (We did pay full price for all tickets not that it matters)

This.

I can transfer into aisle seats on a very good day. But I'm a wheelchair user daily. Book the seat.

Of course it's not morally wrong, I thought you were going to say she isn't a wheelchair user but she is and she has serious health issues.
Book the seat and I hope your daughter enjoys it

I can relate to this. But your daughter has every right to that space.

Hope you have a great time. Sorry about your loss.

Maybe I have missed something but I would have thought thought that a venue would actively recommend a wheelchair space for her as it doesn't sound like she could safely evacuate in an emergency if she were in a general seat.

In case of emergency you would be scrambling for the wheelchair she needs anyway? Better to be in it! Book the tickets, no guilt to be had, enjoy yourselves!

She is a wheelchair user, just because she can get out doesn't mean she should have to.
She has a medical need to be in one.
Book the seats

Another view here...
I'm guessing she will need extra help if the theatre needs to be evacuated. Wouldn't it be easier for everyone including her if she was with other people needing help?

She needs a wheelchair to go on this trip. Dont fel guilty.

No, that's true. Theatres definitely say this.

It says its for a 'wheelchair user.' Not 'wheelchair user who must be confined to wheelchair at all times to be worthy.'

Book it.

It is not just getting to the seat with trouble carrying her equipment- in the event of an emergency how would you get her out - she is much safer in the wheelchair space let alone completely entitled to using it. Enjoy!