Boys and ear piercings

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My son aged 8 would like his ears pierced and has asked for it a lot over the last year. Im unsure. Do boys get them done? Is it both or just one?? I would rather he didnt (as hes a boy and im worried about bullying) but he really wants too! Help

Nothing to do with your post OP, but money doesn’t have anything to do with class. Footballers are rich beyond imagination - probably richer than a lot of the minor royals - but that doesn’t make them upper-class. You might be middle class but the Mercedes has nothing to do with it.

Too young. Not before 16, surely? And that's girls and boys.

Just say no until he’s 12 or 13

It really doesn’t look good on young kids.

This is Mumsnet. Class obsession has so many people on this website in a death grip.

Drive a merc

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I'd never let a child put a hole in their body. Because that's what it is. A literal hole in their ear.

Adults can do what they want. Maybe, just maybe if I felt they were emotionally mature enough by 15 I'd OK it. But not pre teens.

At 8, I don't think it's really an issue and being a boy is irrelevant. I would wait until the long summer holiday though so that they heal before needing to take out for pe

Do working class people not work OP?

Eight year old boys wearing earrings is an exceptionally chavvy look.

Adults calling 8 years old chavvy for a small piercing is quite frankly rude at best, judgement at worst.

This small child hasn’t harmed anyone else, and is free to choose if he wants his ear pierced. It’s a small price of metal.

And those saying tattoos next? Mmmm bet you’re first in line for kids tattoos at the summer fair.

Next to the roll your own sweet fag stall.

You clearly don't go out of your way not to judge children though. That's YOUR issue to get over.

I do not aspire to be friends with anybody who would judge my child for having a piercing, I'd actively avoid those people as a matter of fact. I find it bizarre that you seem to think it's not an issue.

Adults calling 8 years old chavvy for a small piercing is quite frankly rude at best, judgement at worst.

You are probably right but is that not what the judgement of chavvy behaviour always is.

It's always been about people driving a Ford Focus with a loud exhaust, owning a Staffie, wearing tracksuit bottoms, havibg a half shaved head on a child or having big gold earrings and fake nails. It's always been a lifestyle judgement.

Little boys with pierced ears is in that group.

Why not before 16?

There's no "probably" about it. The poster IS right.

Let's say somebody judged a woman as a "slag" for want of a better word, for wearing a short skirt and low cut top. Historically that is what people have done. So is it ok to continue doing that, or should people perhaps change their attitudes? The same applies here.

Very few kids in my DC primary school have pierced ears.

Some wear magnetic earrings that look like pierced. Can you fob him off with those? 8 is so so young to have ears pierced.

I don't really care if its judgy, kids that age with pierced ears look chavvy af.

This small child hasn’t harmed anyone else, and is free to choose if he wants his ear pierced.

Aah, but he isn't.

No salon will pierce an 8 year old without parental consent.

The fact that it requires the parents consent means its essentially the parent's choice and it is the parental choice people judge.

Don't moan then if people make judgements on you and your appearance.

Beezknees i wouldn't? They are entitled to their opinion. Im certain lots of people think my appearance is not to their taste. It is what it is they can think what they wish.

My DD had to wait until she was 15. Now 17, she’s chosen to have a nose ring and various other ear piercings. Her choice, and she took herself off to the studio each time. No way she’d have been allowed at 8, or even 11.

This. It's also a useful way to stall if you are on the fence

@ConsuelaHammock I have to agree. It's very local but where I am it is considered very 'rough' for a boy to have a piercing but OK for a girl from age 7/8. So what if its snobbish or sexist, I wouldn't want people to make judgments about my children and i would rather conform to the social norm. My boy at 15 wants a diamond stud and I said it's up to him, lots of teenage boys have them. I work with children from different nationalities and different things are acceptable in different cultures and that is OK, for example most Indian or Eastern European girls that I've worked with are pierced by 3 but none of the local kids.

My DS went on about this when he was 9yo and a couple of his mates had theirs done .
He was asking one of the checkout staff in the supermarket about his piercings Luckily the young man could see my face behind my DS and told him "It hurts having them done and tricky to keep clean especially when you do sports " (DH did karate ) .
I was so pleased , as my DS wasn't listening to me (hell , I;m only his Mother ) . He went off it and the subject was dropped .

At the time it was fashion to wear large cz square studs , one each ear

I quite like a small gold hoop on a bloke but not a child .

DS is the only one in the house who isn;t pierced or tattooed !

My 8 year old wants one and I said if he still wants it at 9 I will take him but only if they will do it at the tattoo parlour I have had my piercings at.

He will pretty much be the only boy in the school with an earning but he really likes the look and his adult older brother has them. I am not that keen but I said his sister can have hers done at 9 so it's isn't really fair if I say he can't.

I wouldn't let my children have them at that age. They're older now and glad that I didn't let them. My son and daughter aren't interested in piercings now.